I’m So Sorry
By DianneN
@DianneN (249394)
United States
February 19, 2026 5:08pm CST
My friend with cancer (I really dislike calling her that on here) has been running back and forth to be with her ill husband. He had surgery on a heart valve, but hasn’t gotten out of bed or stood up since his surgery last week.
He’s out of ICU, went to a private room, and today was put in rehab.
Hubs and I were planning on visiting him Friday, but just heard that it’s not a good day to be there. He’s not doing well at all.
My friend is so sorry, too.
We really want to see him, so we are going on Saturday.
What would you do?
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11 responses
@FourWalls (83078)
• United States
8h
Definitely listen to the staff and the family about when it’s better to see him. I’m so sorry you’re going through this as well as your friend, and I’m praying for you all. 
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@DaddyEvil (168298)
• United States
9h
I'm sorry he seems to be having problems but I'd let his wife know you want to visit but don't want to go when it's not convenient for him... Surely he can tell you when it's a good time to visit?
I never like people visiting me when I'm in the hospital. I don't want anyone to see me when I haven't been able to shower or wash my hair. I'd rather them come visit when I'm out of the hospital and comfortably home again.
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@toniganzon (73488)
• Philippines
12h
I would do the same as you. They need all the emotional support they could get.
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@misunderstood_zombie (8545)
• United States
10h
I'm so sorry that your friends are going through all this. Hopefully, you will be able to see them soon.
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@ocard010101 (59)
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11h
I will do what I would like my friends to do for me when I am in need of emotional support.
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@snowy22315 (203162)
• United States
12h
Very sorry, it sounds like whenever you see him, you might be saying good bye.
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