How many times?
By Toni
@toniganzon (73901)
Philippines
March 1, 2026 4:20pm CST
How many times have you thought of revenge, retaliation against those who have wronged you?
Too many for me but those were only thoughts and plans that never came into fruition. I simply couldn't. And in time, I just realized that having hatred in my heart is a burden and isn't helping me to really move on and have peace of mind.
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@snowy22315 (203694)
• United States
23h
Never really, I am kind ofa non confrontational type. Although I have thought about doing something hurtful to them .or imagining ignoring them if I saw them in public
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@toniganzon (73901)
• Philippines
23h
Guess it also depends on how sever the wrong was done to you.
The first time that thought came into my mind was 3 days after I turned 13 when my parents were murdered.
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@snowy22315 (203694)
• United States
22h
@toniganzon How horrible! So sorry..
. I think you may have said this before, but anyway, I am sure under those circumstances you would want revenge. No one would fault you for it. What happened to the murderers anyway?
. I think you may have said this before, but anyway, I am sure under those circumstances you would want revenge. No one would fault you for it. What happened to the murderers anyway?1 person likes this

@kaylachan (83266)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22h
I've given up on how many times. But, it's healthy to feel everything. It takes true strength to feel it. And not act on it, then it is to act on it. After a while, usually after voicing my thoughts, I feel better.
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@kaylachan (83266)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19h
@toniganzon Yes, it does. healthy, too.
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@RasmaSandra (94798)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22h
I have never wanted revenge and think it is a negative feeling. It is Best to think positively and move forward.
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@DianneN (250202)
• United States
9h
@toniganzon I once slapped him in the face during a dream. He woke up and asked me why I slapped him. 

@pitsipeahie (5479)
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16h
I’ve had thoughts of revenge play in my mind many times. But they’ve always stayed as thoughts. In the end, what stops me is the quiet knowing that taking revenge isn’t worth the cost. My peace, my conscience is way too precious for that. Somewhere inside you, you feel it's not right to exact revenge.
As I get older, I start to understand things differently. You realize that not every wrong needs your retaliation.
I’ve come to believe that life has its own way of balancing things out. What you put into the world — good or bad — has a way of returning. Maybe not immediately. Maybe not in the way you expect. But it returns. And sometimes the consequences of what you do, may not return directly to you but to the the people you care about most like your family.
So instead I choose distance, healing. I choose to let the universe handle what I no longer want to carry. Karma has its own timing. And beyond that, there is a higher up there, higher justice that sees what we don’t.
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@MarieCoyle (55398)
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23h
I've been more than upset with a few people over the years, but no, I've not thought of revenge or retaliation. I did, however, wish they would disappear from my life in a few instances. Just for them to go away!
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@toniganzon (73901)
• Philippines
23h
I couldn't help it when at a very tender age both my parents were murdered when they have nothing but kind and generous to people.
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@MarieCoyle (55398)
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22h
@toniganzonoh, how terrible. I’m not sure what to say except that I am so sorry. I can truly see why you feel the way you do. Heartbreaking.
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@cuttyrish (2726)
• United States
11h
I could not remember anymore, because everytime i always remember what my dad always tell me before that there is one thing i should do, that is to never hate. Once you started hating, it wil stay in your heart. I just put in my heart, like for every bad things that happen, something good will happen, so that I don't it much weight in my heart.
@Shiva49 (27940)
• Singapore
9h
Yes, it is fact hatred and thoughts of revenge hurt us more while the targets go about their lives carefree with their routine.
It is easier to forgive the perpetrators of injustice than forget their evil acts.
I look ahead and put the past behind me but learn from the bitter experiences.
@aninditasen (18081)
• Raurkela, India
8h
All of us have passed through this phase but we can't go to steal to a thief's house. We inform the the police. God doesn't spare those who wronged us. This is my personal experience.
@LindaOHio (215165)
• United States
9h
I finally had to come to peace with my SIL. Even though I'm still upset with what she did, I had to let it go. With my husband, since he is gone, I decided to forgive him because I love him so much.
@thedevilinme (4838)
• Northampton, England
23h
An Englishman always holds a pretty ladies right hand with his left so to keep his dueling hand free for such things
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@LooeyVille (55)
• United States
11h
Harboring hate or revenge plots only lets the other person win. It's a burden on your soul. It's a heavy weight. We have to let those thoughts go.







you can do it in his sleep.









