How do you not get disappointed?

I tried hard to do the same but when the same person keeps disappointing me, it's hard to remain positive.

@DaddyEvil I tried.

@toniganzon I walk away from people like that. It's the reason we ignore most of our family. Cut them out of your life and they can't disappoint you anymore.

I don't think I deserve to be disappointed at all.

Now that is my kind of thinking.

@jstory07 Aye If you don't expect anything you just can't really be let down It works for me Judy

I don't expect much from people that I'm not close to at all.

@sjvg1976 why not?

@toniganzon and you should even not to with the people whom you're close.

My parents never disappointed me ever. I guess that's why I don't like getting disappointed especially from the people who claim to love me.

I understand that perfectly. I would have been too.

@LadyDuck Some people are just like that. Hope the time would come that he would realize it.

@toniganzon My brother has always been selfish and he will never change.

I don't dwell on it.

@toniganzon You shouldn’t. Good to hear that.

Yeah I tell myself that sometimes.

@toniganzon Oh I do, every so often. But, it doesn't bother me as much. I'll have a good cry and then I'm usually over it.

That's a good thing. That means you never ever get disappointed.

I don't think that I will stop not getting excited. I like an exciting life. I will always get excited.

@toniganzon Good for you.

Easy to say, not easy to do.

Right coz it's hard not to expect anything when you are given reasons to.

Oh I have extended my patience for too long and I have been too flexible. But it still get disappointed.

@toniganzon Maybe the issue isn’t really about patience or flexibility. It might be that the expectations stay the same even when the same pattern keeps happening. It kind of becomes a cycle: someone disappoints you, you forgive or stay patient, you expect things to improve, then it happens again and you feel disappointed again. When the same situation keeps repeating, sometimes that’s a sign that we may need to deal with it differently. Not necessarily stop caring about the person, but maybe adjust our expectations or set clearer boundaries, because otherwise the same cycle of disappointment can just keep happening. I guess sometimes protecting our own peace means learning to respond differently to situations we already know might not change. I used to feel disappointed a lot. But I realized that if I kept focusing on those disappointments and giving them too much attention, nothing really changed and I was the one who suffered in the end especially that I'm prone to overthinking and anxiety. So now I just acknowledge it for what it is and move on instead of mulling it over. I can’t control the people who disappoint me, but I can control how I deal with my own feelings. I’d rather let go of certain expectations so I don’t keep carrying the same disappointment over and over again. That’s something I’ve learned to do for my own well-being. At some point, the change has to start with us as well. I hope you eventually find a way that gives you more peace of mind emotionally.

New man, maybe! Car is just two years old so maybe not.

I think we will always expect though not as much as we try not to be disappointed, but we still do. Thanks for being honest about it.

@valherma00 You're welcome. You are just being you.

@toniganzon yes, there would be still that feeling and wanting to feel whole when our desires are met or fulfilled, especially if we are not asking for big things. and many say it all comes back to our childhood. thank you for understanding me.

What if nothing good happens?

From the disappointments from my cousins, I later on learned that I should just not expect anything anymore even f they make promises.

I told my son the same. But when I make a promise to him, I make sure that it's always fulfilled. I don't want him to feel the way I felt by some people who made promises to me but never get to keep them.

I don't expect too much as well but when people tell me to expect things to happen, I do and when they don't, it's disappointing.