A mother's care...
@arunima25 (93088)
Bangalore, India
March 17, 2026 11:48am CST
It's rightly said that parenting is a never ending job. Once you are a parent, you are a parent for life. The role and concern might change with age of your children and the stages of life. But that intangible and invisible umbilical cord is never cut.
My girls are no more children. They are officially adult. My elder one has joined the work force and is back to home after staying away in the other city for her college. She wants to work for a couple of years before she thinks about her post graduation. She will be 22 this May. I know she is pretty independent and a smart young lady but I am worried till she reaches home safely. I am worried when my younger one is delayed from her college. Today, my elder one was caught up in traffic coming back from office. It was raining heavily. I could hear the thunderstorm and lightening as I kept tracking her location every few minutes. She has recently started taking my car out alone. Though she learnt driving at 18 and got her driving license, she did not get enough practice as she was away in college. Driving in rain in bad traffic is pretty tough on Indian roads, especially for inexperienced driver. It took her more than an hour for the usual 30 minutes drive. And the mother in me felt restless and worried till she was back home safe and sound.
MY mother still worries about me. I guess your children never outgrow your care and concern. And no matter how old we grow, we don't out grow parental concern. When my mom worries and calls me to check, I feel loved and cared.
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@DaddyEvil (170311)
• United States
17 Mar
I still worry about my daughter. She just turned 38 at the end of February.
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@DaddyEvil (170311)
• United States
10h
@arunima25 Sometimes one of us will call or text the other one from our bedrooms. 
I used to call my mom every morning just to ask how she was doing.
I used to call my mom every morning just to ask how she was doing.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
10h
@DaddyEvil My elder daughter is the lazy one. She will text me from her room and demand for her favorite food.. I keep my phone away and don't check messages frequently. Then she will come out and talk
I call my mom daily. When my mom in law was alive, we would video call her every morning tea time. She used to sleep early and we didn't want to disturb her in the evening. I call my mom after dinner as she is winding up the day like me and we can talk without rush.
. I keep my phone away and don't check messages frequently. Then she will come out and talk
I call my mom daily. When my mom in law was alive, we would video call her every morning tea time. She used to sleep early and we didn't want to disturb her in the evening. I call my mom after dinner as she is winding up the day like me and we can talk without rush.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
I can sense a very strong bond between Pretty and You from all your posts. I am 48 and my mother is still so concerned about me. If I don't call her for two days in a row, she gets stressed. So, when I am busy and not able to call, I text her stating the reason.
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@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
Very well said. It's actually scary out there and the only thing we can do is to prepare them to face it. Till they are back home safe and sound, I am not at peace. I am sure that it's a natural reaction for us.
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@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
It's very natural. It's the strongest bond..My mom still worries about me. And she has a telepathy to know when I am not well or feeling low. The same happens with me. Whether it's my daughters or my mother, I get some telepathy when something is wrong.
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@Shiva49 (28013)
• Singapore
18 Mar
I have found Indian parents worry about their daughters more and keep in constant touch with them whatever their age.
I speak to my son every week for about five minutes and tell my wife he may have to live on without anyone worrying about him after our time is up.
I can understand your feelings but I take a view I don't mind worrying if it benefits in any way.
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@Shiva49 (28013)
• Singapore
9h
@arunima25 What I meant was daughters share a more intimate bond with their mums than sons.
My son was born after fourteen years of our marriage and I cherish every moment I had with him till he left our home after sixteen years. I was alert all the time to his needs and met them to the extent possible.
Once he settled down in life, I withdrew slowly. He is in London and we split our time between India and Singapore. We go for holidays together. We know we are there for each other in times of need. We discuss important matters of family and work life.
@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
10h
My daughters are grown up and adults. And still my mom cares for us. She is not interfering but is always there for anything that I need, be it some guidance, help in emergency or just lending her listening ears when I have to vent out and I want no judgement . Mom knows me in and out. I am sure that my daughters would do the same. I worry about million things too. World is getting scarier.
Yes, the invisible umbilical cord is never cut. It is there for every parent, whether biological or one who has adopted.
You are right that we worry more about girls in Indian society because of all the obvious reasons of Women's safety and security.
I am not an interfering one, but yes, I would like to be always involved in their lives.
. Mom knows me in and out. I am sure that my daughters would do the same. I worry about million things too. World is getting scarier.
Yes, the invisible umbilical cord is never cut. It is there for every parent, whether biological or one who has adopted.
You are right that we worry more about girls in Indian society because of all the obvious reasons of Women's safety and security.
I am not an interfering one, but yes, I would like to be always involved in their lives.1 person likes this
@freelancermariagrace (28958)
• Philippines
18 Mar
You’re right. Mothers, even after having their own families, continue to care for and worry about their children.
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@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
10h
My daughters are grown up and adults. And still my mom cares for us. She is not interfering but is always there for anything that I need, be it some guidance, help in emergency or just lending her listening ears when I have to vent out and I want no judgement . Mom knows me in and out. I am sure that my daughters would do the same. I worry about million things too. World is getting scarier.
Yes, the invisible umbilical cord is never cut. It is there for every parent, whether biological or one who has adopted.
I guess it comes so natural to us as mother.
. Mom knows me in and out. I am sure that my daughters would do the same. I worry about million things too. World is getting scarier.
Yes, the invisible umbilical cord is never cut. It is there for every parent, whether biological or one who has adopted.
I guess it comes so natural to us as mother.1 person likes this
@freelancermariagrace (28958)
• Philippines
10h
@arunima25 Yes, I really believe it’s natural for mothers to care for their children even as they grow older. Although I’m not yet a mother, I feel that if I ever have one, I’ll still care for them even if they eventually have their own families.
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@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
10h
@freelancermariagrace It comes very naturally, even when we don't intend to.
@toniganzon (75081)
• Philippines
18 Mar
We will never stop caring for our children. I don't see myself stop worrying even until my son gets married someday.
in our culture though the age of emancipation is the same as the age of majority which is 18, we never really considered our children emancipated at all.
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@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
Same in our culture. Joint families where generations lived together was an integral part of our culture. Only with urbanization and people seeking jobs out of their native places, nuclear families are on rise. My daughters might get married in few more years. And still my mother shows her care and concern for me. It's so natural to us.
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@Marilynda1225 (89332)
• United States
17 Mar
I totally understand exactly how you feel. I worry about the same things and my kids are grown with kids of their own and I still worry when they're driving and want to know they arrive safely at their destination. Along with driving I worry about them with a million other things.
I love the way you said the invisible umbilical cord is never cut.
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@Marilynda1225 (89332)
• United States
9h
@arunima25 At least I'm not the only one who worries. It hasn't been easy letting our little birds fly.
@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
My daughters are grown up and adults. And still my mom cares for us. She is not interfering but is always there for anything that I need, be it some guidance, help in emergency or just lending her listening ears when I have to vent out and I want no judgement . Mom knows me in and out. I am sure that my daughters would do the same. I worry about million things too. World is getting scarier.
Yes, the invisible umbilical cord is never cut. It is there for every parent, whether biological or one who has adopted.
. Mom knows me in and out. I am sure that my daughters would do the same. I worry about million things too. World is getting scarier.
Yes, the invisible umbilical cord is never cut. It is there for every parent, whether biological or one who has adopted.1 person likes this
@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
Yes, it's a natural reaction. My mind is not at peace till everyone is back home safe and sound. We live in scary and unpredictable times.
@LindaOHio (216805)
• United States
11h
Parents will always worry about their children. It's a natural reaction.
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@arunima25 (93088)
• Bangalore, India
11h
Yes, it is very natural. Even when we get grandchildren, we still have concern about them.
