Update on the Mother-in-Law
By LooeyVille
@LooeyVille (57)
United States
May 23, 2026 6:14am CST
One of my true friends here on myLot private messaged me to ask how my mother-in-law with Alzheimer's was doing so I thought I'd post a quick update.
While I was on vacation she had one meltdown on the phone with my husband. She again said nothing's wrong with her, that she hates it there where she lives, that she could still be working and driving if it weren't for my husband, etc. That was Monday a week ago. Then Tuesday she called him apologizing for her meltdown and saying she actually does realize that she needs to be there and that she actually likes it there to some extent because the people are so nice to her.
Her 81 year old best friend picked her up while I was gone and took her to her own apartment and made her lunch one day, but when I got back the Memory Care facility told me that the friend wasn't competent enough to be responsible for taking my MIL off-property so I had to call MIL's best friend and kindly and gently explain to her that she can't take MIL out anymore but she can go and visit her.
Then last night (Friday 5/22) she called and said they ran out of food/she didn't get a food tray in her name from the catering truck and she didn't get dinner last night. She had snacks in her room, but I'm going to follow up on this because that shouldn't have happened.
So that's what's happening lately with the mother-in-law.
I always post a pink photo with posts about the mother-in-law because pink is her favorite color.
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@LooeyVille (57)
• United States
2h
We're not sure. That's why we're going to follow up on it.
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@Marilynda1225 (90698)
• United States
14m
She probably did get her meal and forgot. it seems as if she has her good days and bad days. Dementia really is cruel,
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@MarieCoyle (58381)
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1h
Dementia is so cruel at times. The mood swings, the moments of clarity and then none at all, basically the only thing you can do is to let her talk about it for a little while and then try to distract her.
I know when the husband’s grandfather was in Memory Care for dementia he came up with some doozies. He sometimes told us that they never served him a meal. One evening a family member visited him while he was having his meal. The next day he told the same family member that he had not been given any dinner the night before. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen to people because I’m sure it’s possible but when you’re dealing with a dementia patient it could or could not be true.
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