Are first impressions accurate?

@eLdav1s (985)
Nigeria
July 14, 2026 2:59am CST
There is a common saying that first impressions matters a lot, which means people are often quick to judge you based on how you are dressed even before they actually get to know you. I remember i had a friend in high back then, during one of our chats, she asked if the person she is chatting with is the real me or if the version of me she sees in school is the real me. Turns out her first impression of me was that i was not friendly cause apparently i rarely smile or talk in public. While first impressions aren't always right, it can still determine how people view you and most times we might not have the chance to correct their wrong impressions.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (127033)
• United States
14 Jul
I know, growing up, I must have been looked at as unfriendly, but I was terribly shy. Even with my huge family I could barely talk to more than a few relatives without finding a corner and disappearing. As I’ve grown older though, I know I come off as more friendly. Thank goodness, time has changed me.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (127033)
• United States
15 Jul
@eLdav1s Don’t be too hard on yourself. It took me years.
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Orogun Oghenekome
@eLdav1s (985)
• Nigeria
15 Jul
That's really nice that you have started coming out of your shell, for me though i am still struggling with this, hopefully i we get better.
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Orogun Oghenekome
@eLdav1s (985)
• Nigeria
16 Jul
@AmbiePam No problem then, i we keep trying
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DE
@DaddyEvil (178391)
• United States
14 Jul
Yes, you're right. I'm actually kind of shy but online I don't mind talking a lot... Nobody knows who I am online so I'm not embarrassed about talking a lot and teasing people I don't really know. Do you think you'll ask the young lady out on a date? Is she cute? Is she friendly? Was she shy in school when you met her?
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Orogun Oghenekome
@eLdav1s (985)
• Nigeria
14 Jul
Hahaha, i can relate with that, i am usually shy and quit offline, but online i tend to talk a lot as well. As for the young lady. It was a very long time ago though, it's been years. I did tell her i had a crush on her at one point but she said she didn't like me in that way, but got offended i was no longer giving her attention like i used to, later i didn't press on the matter we just remained friends. We still talk once in a blue moon now though. With life and everything we have very little time to chat and since it's been years our chat feels somewhat distant, so most time i choose not to start a conversation.
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@DaddyEvil (178391)
• United States
14 Jul
@eLdav1s I totally understand that. One woman and I were good friends and I started teasing her almost grown son that his mom and I were getting married... I asked him if he wanted to start calling me "Dad" or just keep calling me "DE"? His mom thought that was funny when the boy asked if he could think that over. His mom was more like a sister to me than anything else.
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Orogun Oghenekome
@eLdav1s (985)
• Nigeria
15 Jul
@DaddyEvil Hahaha that was funny though, he took your joke seriously.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (140487)
• Marion, Ohio
14 Jul
I would say it's about half the time they are accurate. Many things can influence that first meeting
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Orogun Oghenekome
@eLdav1s (985)
• Nigeria
15 Jul
You have a point though, but most times looks can be deceiving.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (388260)
• Rockingham, Australia
15 Jul
There is the saying that you can't judge a book by its cover but the cover is all you can go on at first. I think we need to keep an open mind about a person until we get to know them a bit better.
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Orogun Oghenekome
@eLdav1s (985)
• Nigeria
19 Jul
Fair point, we need to learn to give them the benefit of a doubt sometimes to get to know them better before we jump to conclusions.
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Valentina
@valherma00 (5402)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
20 Jul
i look at their behaviour more and in most cases, even though i gave a second chance, the first impression was right.