How are you?

And that is true. If I tell them I'm having some issues would they be able to help? What would they really do if I tell them the truth? That's what comes to my mind. And another reason why I say I'm ok is that I don't want to explain further what I'm truly feeling. Because if I say I'm not, then the conversation would never end.

@LadyDuck Same case. I just don't like sharing something especially to those who can't really do anything at all. Some friends would insist so I would say, what can you do anyway.

@toniganzon - Exactly, anyway they cannot help and if you say I am not well they want to know what happens and I do not like to discuss personal matters.

@toniganzon have a nice day

Yes! Especially women!

@toniganzon So true!!

You are being honest.

Yes it does!

And that's what commonly happens.

@toniganzon I guess it’s pretty much the same feeling—you don’t want to bother them, and you don’t want to be bothered either. I think you can only be honest with those you truly trust and genuinely believe will help you.

@rsa101 Right.

I just don't want to be bothered by the "why's".

So when people ask you you answer them with complaints?

@toniganzon I answer the usual "I am good/fine"

@hora_fugit Do you say the same even when you're not actually fine?

I wonder how many phases must a woman go through.

@toniganzon a lot!!!

I don't really talk even to people that I'm close to whenever I have issues or problems. The only time I tell them is when I'm already done resolving such problem.

@moffittjc I don't. I fix it myself.

@toniganzon You don't lean on others for help and support whenever you have issues or problems?

Good for you!

@birjudanak Exactly!

Right! And it's tiring to answer the question that follows after.

@toniganzon yeah and one we start return answer they will try to know others things from us but not tell about them haha.

Because here when you tell people you're not ok, they ask why and then I must explain. But when I'm say it's ok, that ends the conversation.

@Ineeddentures I believe so. And there are people who just ask how are you insincerely and they don't even bother if you're actually ok or not.

@toniganzon Oh that's a good reason just to say that you are ok

@valherma00 Right.

@toniganzon also, to some acquaintances, if you really start showing your feelings, they don't care, i feel or use that against us. once, i felt sorry for this colleague's mum passing away and before that i commented something about nursery homes, in a good manner but she felt kind of offended or something and i didn't say a word after that but, strange thing is, the next day, she acted happily again in front of me. i can't be responsible for her mother's passing and she should dealthat with herself. i think she was a two-faced person as well and liked pretending. so yes, maybe for some people is enough to say we are fine and for them to say the same thing

Right!