thewriter

@thewriter (198)

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Has anyone had cognitive behavioural therapy to treat anxiety and deepression?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 19 Aug 09

Has anyone had cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to treat anxiety and depression and did it work? I have had CBT back on 2006, but don't think it's worked for me. But how would I tell?

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thewriter Well, I am on antidepressants which I was on at the time of having the course of CBT. The course of CBT I had was prescribed by the British tax funded National Health service and was 16 sessions.

19 Aug 09

What is your ideas of heavan?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 21 Aug 08

I was wondering what peoples' ideas of heavan are, as in terms of the pleasures in life. My idea of heavan is, sitting in a comfortable chair at the fire side of a log or coal fire watching an old black and white...

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thewriter That isn't applicable. Heavan is a metaphore for pleasure in this instance.

21 Aug 08

Does wealth ruin your appreciation of luxeries and simple pleasures?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 20 Aug 08

I was recently on a very tight budget. During this period a long walk in the English countryside, stopping off at a cafe or tea room for a cream tea was the simple pleasures I permitted myself. Ironically, this all took place in a...

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thewriter Yes I agree there. It's ironic how wealth, the enabler of luxeries renders such pleasures as meaningless.

20 Aug 08

My discussion with Chinese students about Tibet.

thewriter @thewriter (198) 19 Aug 08

I recently engaged in a discussion with Chinese students over China's occupation of Tibet. Their view was that Tibet depends on China (for things such as food) and that the Dalai Lama only want a free Tibet so that he can can gain...

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thewriter If power over the Tibetans is used in a possitive way that the people want and accept via democratic means then it has to be better than despotic, totalitarian power deplete of a democratically elected leader. I think the Chinese live a sheltred life.

19 Aug 08

Did my colleagues deliberately snub me due to my age?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 18 Aug 08

Some colleagues arranged a night out together without asking me whether I wanted to go. I only found out from another colleague that they arranged this night out secretly and therefore behind my back. Now these aforementioned...

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thewriter Thank you for all the replies to my 'issue' hitherto. In particular thanks to Sudalunts for your sympathy. I think my boss, young as he is should have made an all inclusive night out given that it was the end of working as a team. Though he has a level head on...

18 Aug 08

Can a woman start a career at 45?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 17 Jun 08

As a mature graduate from university, can I start a new career at 45 years of age? Are my prospects limited to teaching? My friend says; " you can't teach an old dog new tricks".

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thewriter I only want to be a researcher within the media industry. I'm loathe to work for a company to make the owner rich.

24 Jun 08

How do I curb sweet and chocolate cravings?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 23 Jun 08

I am endeavouring to lose weight, but I find I crave sweetness and especially chocolate all the more. Any idea how I can curb my craving?

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thewriter Yes, but the gym is expensive and costs ££££££££££££££££££, that I don't have.

23 Jun 08

Can a woman start a career at 45?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 17 Jun 08

As a mature graduate from university, can I start a new career at 45 years of age? Are my prospects limited to teaching? My friend says; " you can't teach an old dog new tricks".

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thewriter Thank you for that!

17 Jun 08

Looking down on ones parents - is it a terrible attitude to have!

thewriter @thewriter (198) 17 Jun 08

My girlfriend, who I met up with for dinner last night told me that she finds that she looks down on her parents because they are ... "uncultured, lack a university or college education, and are lacking in adventure". But my...

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thewriter While I agree, there are bad parents out there; e.g Joseph Fritzl".

17 Jun 08

Is sport a man thing?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 16 Jun 08

Is it because I'm a woman that I find sport boring? I find that now the summer is here the TV channels are dominated by soccer, tennis, athletics, cricket and horse racing festivals. Yawn! Are you a woman who likes sport, or is...

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thewriter I would prefer to participate in sports, such as cricket otr netball. Only because I feel I'm a good ball-catcher. But then again I'm not fit!

16 Jun 08

Are you a hoarder?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 16 Jun 08

I am currently taking respite from the spring clean of my cupboad right now. I find I have allot of items that I never use, but nevertheless can't bare to part with. I keep thinking to myself that I might regret the items. Does...

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thewriter Thank you Spoiled 311. Yes, I am living in a small space myself - my parents have loaned me their spare room until I get my housing situation sorted. I have my video collection, many of which I have seen and don't intend to see again. Nevertheless, they have...

16 Jun 08

What to do with a critical Mother?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 13 Jun 08

After making an exciting purchase of an ornamental doll at a bargain price yesterday I asked my Mother's opnion of the said doll. She reacted by saying in an abrupt manner; "not allot". This caused an angry reaction by me. Was...

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thewriter Thank you for the advice. My Mother has always been what I perceive as cruel. For example, when I was a child she banged a brush accross my leg, which brokre in half just becase I was being annoying. Retriospectivley I think she was tense as she was gampling;...

13 Jun 08

Are parents over protective of their children?.

thewriter @thewriter (198) 12 Jun 08

I just saw the news about a nine year old boy being allowed by his parents to walk home from a department store by himself through New York City. According to the news report the said boy had to walk two miles through busy areas...

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thewriter I agree that children are such a precious gift and deserve the best parenting.

12 Jun 08

Does anyone sell on eBay?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 11 Jun 08

I am an eBay seller, but I'm finding it tough at the moment. Is there a product that sells better on eBay?

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thewriter Thank you for that advice. I do have questions. I have seen allot of replica brand goods from China, such as Fendi, Coach, Gicci and Chanel, and would love to sell them on eBay, but in the UK where I live it is illegal to sell counterfit goods. The irony is...

11 Jun 08

What is best single or married life?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 10 Jun 08

I was watching a UK chat show on TV this lunch time where a female doctor of psychology claimed that single women are unhappy deep down. This was fiercly argued by the panel of women. So, which is best: married, or single...

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thewriter Personally I think the single life is better. Divorced and in particular widows act liberated as they become free to please themselves. It's nice to have a consort for holidays or weekends together, but lovely to have space too.

10 Jun 08

What is the best way to chastise a child when it's naughty?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 9 Jun 08

My neice and nephew aged eight and four respectivley can be naughty at times. What is the best way for me to chastise them when they mis-behave when in my charge?

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thewriter Invaluable advice thank you. I will definately be putting these guidelines into action. I tend to be overly soft and induldgent with my neice and nephew. As such they get away with all sorts. But, their Mum's word is law.

9 Jun 08

Are you a cat or a dog person?

thewriter @thewriter (198) 9 Jun 08

There seems to be a devide on people who prefer pet dogs to cats. Dog lovers have a tendancy to see cats as sneaky,and untrustworthy with an independent streak. Meanwhile cat owners see dogs as dirty, vicious and...

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thewriter Yes, I love both cats and dogs too. Please be so kind as to explain what 'sugar gliders' are.

9 Jun 08