Mother of my stepdaughter did not help any on her wedding
By jewel102
@jewel102 (105)
United States
June 7, 2007 2:49pm CST
My stepdaughter wedding was last April, I offered her to make all the floral arrangements, her bouquet, the centerpieces, etc. without any charge, of course. One day, her grandma asking her who will be doing the flowers, she told her about me and she said ..."you're mother said that she won't go to the wedding if she(me)have something to do with". Anyway, I asking my stepdaughter if she prefers I do not assist to the wedding and don't do anything, because I don't want that she had to choose between her mother and me. She told me is OK I want you to go and do the flowers. The day of the wedding her mother assist and everything looked so beautiful. By the way, her mother did not help with anything($$) or at least offer any other kind of help. The only thing she did, she brought a tray with some cheese and vegetables for the reception, big deal! She never talk to me before and after either and I never did anything to her. I married with my husband when they already had 7 or more years divorced! I think she is just testing the water. What do you think about this kind of behaviour?
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4 responses
@virgo73 (17)
• Spain
14 Feb 08
You are a Jewel indeed. Your husband´s Ex will never get over what she lost and trust me she will do everything to compare with you. Just laugh at her and see the positive......you are better and that´s why she is still jealous. Hang on to your man and love him and enjoy
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
10 Jun 07
How childish of her mother to act in this manner. My son will be married this month. It will be a small wedding and small reception. We are doing most of the arrangements for the reception and footing most of the bill. His fiance's parents will not be attending the wedding or the reception. I feel badly for my son's fiance. It is immature and uncalled for. Differences should be set aside for the sake of the children.
@jewel102 (105)
• United States
10 Jun 07
I am so sorry for your son and specially for her fiance. Sometimes the parents are very selfish and does not realize all the pain and damage that you do to your kids with that kind of aptitude. But probably is better that her parents don't assist than assist and try to start problems. My stepdaughter's mom assisted and she had a reserved table for her but she decided to sit in a table outside the reception building. Also, my husband and me share some almonds to the guests and she gave hers to her sister but before she makes the remarks: "...she doesn't plan to eat it". The rest of the things for the wedding was made by the groom's family and us.
@aretha (2538)
• United States
7 Jun 07
i think its crazy! sounds like the mother needs to grow up a little and start acting like the adult. i know when my father had meet someone after my parents split up my mom liked that i liked her and was just happy that she was good to me when i was at my fathers. she should just be happy her daughter has a stepmother that is welling to help and be good to her daughter.
by the way welcome to mylot. you'll love it
@jewel102 (105)
• United States
7 Jun 07
yes, I agree with you and never try to compete or underestimate her mother in any way. I always told my stepdaughter that I am her friend that I am not her mother but I will do whatever be necessary for help her whenever she needs me. Thanks for make me part of your lot and for be part of mine!
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
7 Jun 07
She sounds like a very unhappy woman. I would consider the source and let it go. Your stepdaughter appears to know how her mother is and went ahead anyway. Follow her lead and enjoy the relationship you have with her that her mother doesn't.
@jewel102 (105)
• United States
8 Jun 07
Yes, she is a very unhappy and hateful woman and made unhappy my husband when they were married. She used to put hair in his food, threated him to use poison and other things that only a sick person will do it! We start think that she have some kind of possession too. Thanks for your comments.
