On Women Who Dress Suggestively

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
July 7, 2007 11:29am CST
From the point of view of an older woman, I think that the way many young women dress today is outrageous. In earlier times only a certain type of woman would dare to dress this way. We were always taught that a man likes it when a woman leaves a little mystery. I wonder if men's views have changed on this-or women's for that matter. I raised 4 girls and taught them to always be modest in their dress. In the privacy of your home, anything goes, but, when going out in public a woman should be a little more circumspect. This seems to me to be a sign of a breakdown in our moral fabric.
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
7 Jul 07
I would have to totally agree with you..The dress code is quite provocative and yet it is quite acceptable...You can walk around in practicaly nothing. I know I for one have troubles finding decent clothes for my 7 year old daughter at the shops..Everything is too suggestive and that for a 7 year old..Theres no way she will go out in public wearing suggestive clothes, theres too many pervs and idiot people out there as it is...There is too much at stake..
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I totally agree with you Calais. What kind of message is being sent to the girls who will grow up to become young ladies? It is no good to say that you will make them dress a certain way when they are young. They will automatically want to imitate the way they see the adults dress. I remember when mother/daughter fashion was all the rage. That is because someone was wise enough to recognize that little girls want to be just like mommy.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 07
i think a woman should wear something she's comfortable in but at the same time appropriate for the occasion.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I couldn't have said it better, heartsweet. Thank you for your opinion.
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@sandwedge (1341)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
"suggestively" is so subjective. but you are right, there seems to be a sign of breakdown in our moral fabric. where i am, i keep seeing young girls dressed in skimpy clothing or evening dress as if hey are going to clubs at 12:00 noon! thanks to MTV young people now dresses like their idols thinking that thats how people should dress in public. duh! they are entertainers and they dress as such! but heck, i guess this is whats called getting old. maybe everything is normal, its just me, i am old fashion.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Thanks for your response, sandwedge. I don't think that getting old has anything to do with it. It is all about women respecting their bodies and themselves. I could be 20 and have the best body on earth, but you would never see me going out in public the way I see many of these young women. Some are even just girls as young as 13. I can't believe that I live in a society that sees nothing wrong with this.
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I don't think that has much to do with age....I'm only 34 and I feel the same way. What gets me is when I see little girls(12-13-14 Years old)....that are dressed in such flimsy clothing and are showing way more that it's really appropriate at any age.I know I was never allowed to dress like that.
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I suppose I should add that I still don't feel comfortable dressing like that.Showing a bit of shape is okay.....but I prfer to coverd up when I'm out in public.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
8 Jul 07
You are right winky, age doesn't enter into it. I have a daughter your age and she feels the same way. I have talked to my teen granddaughters about dressing appropriately. I let them know that you can be in style without making yourself look cheap.
@mummymo (23707)
7 Jul 07
Sorry this is one where I have to disagree with you honey! Everyone is entitled to dress the way they wish and it doesn't mean that they are easy or loose at all! I used to dress very suggestively when I was young - I felt good the way I dressed and it did not mean I was in any way promiscuos ! I can understand why you feel the way you do but I just think we should all be allowed to dress the way we like! I don't dress that way any longer cos I don't have the figure but \I still wear low cut tops sometimes! I am not saying that you are wrong just that we have different opinions that is all! xxx
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@cblackink (969)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I agree with you. I'm 46 years old and I can't imagine my parents even allowing me to leave the house dressed the way many younger women do now. I guess my concern would be that some of these young girls don't realize they may be inviting harm upon themselves. I mean, if you dress a certain way, you must be a certain type of girl, right? Why put the goods in the window if they're not for sale.
• United States
8 Jul 07
what a silly saying. why shouldn't you display something that you are proud of. of course the women who dress like this enjoy to be looked at, not ogled, but noticed. just like wrapping a gift. it looks pretty on the outside, but you still don't know what's in it. and unless the gift is for you, you just have to admire the wrapping. and the shape of the package. what's wrong with that?
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I was a teen in the 70's and my mom complained about the way girls dressed back then. i did wear the little halter tops and short shorts...mini skirts etc. Many of the girls today dress much the same. I think its not so much the clothes but the entire look...the way the outfit is put together that makes the difference between trashy and good taste. My daughter went to leave the house one day in a pair of short shorts, t-shirt and platform sandals. I stopped her. I couldn't put my finger on just why as she was certainly covered but she did look trashy. It was the shoes. When she put on a regular pair of shoes and toned down her makeup, she was adorable again. What I find really disgusting is the girls with the flabby bellys hanging out. No one ever taught them how to dress according to their body types it appears. Even worse is the older women who dress as if they were still sixteen! The most outrageous and distasteful fashions seem to pass rather quickly.
• United States
8 Jul 07
You are being extremely judgemental with your views. You cannot possible classify all woman as being tramps when you dont even know all women. I am fortunately more intelligent and not so superficial as to brand a whole section of the female gender by your personal fashion dictates.
8 Jul 07
Sorry but I do have to disagree with you here. I am a 56 year old woman who has been mistaken for early 40's. I wear clothes that I feel suit me, but I'm a goth and wear my goth clothes with pride. I wear low cut tops because I can and I look good in them. Whether it is right or wrong, we are in a free country and if girls chose to follow fashion is their choice.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
8 Jul 07
From the point of view of an older man (I'm 73) I think you better lighten up! Kids are Lovely, especially girls. Its not their problem that they grow into old closed-minded women. Why not celebrate your body? I certainly would if I was 16. God created us in His Likeness and Image, and thats good enough for me! God hasn't made a mistake in a very long time.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
8 Jul 07
You would just LOVE my neck of the woods then...Now I'm no slim jim, though not overweight either...but it used to be if you were trying to cover the fact that maybe you had a bit of a tummy bulge, you did some camouflaging --not so with the women around me...they wear skin tight tops that cling showing off every roll of flesh, bellies hanging over their too tight jeans, and yikes, I'm always ready for their boobs to fall out of their low cut tops--like yuk...and they think that this is appealing?? I'm with you...things have certainly changed
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
8 Jul 07
You know I am only 36 and I can't believe how many women dress these days, and young girls. There really is no need to show everything and some just don't seem to mind that at all. I am surprised at what some young mothers wear too and dress their children the same way. Very much a different generation nowadays compared to what we were like years ago.
• United States
7 Jul 07
i agree with you and the others when you say the clothes are getting skimpier and skimpier on women these days. showing more and more skin. as a male approaching middle age, all i can say is....thank you ladies. :D
@marje_09 (63)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
How the young women dress today........i think how the parents raised them has a connection. As we parents we could not demand the young ones what to wear wherever they go. Could be talk to them in a nice way, with "love and care" that they should wear accordingly.that in every place, they should get the "respect" from other people the way they dress and the way they carry the dress. The image of every woman based on the way they carry their dress and the way they go for it. What counted most i think is the "Foundation" how parents brought them up their behavior could affect the way they wear a dress.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
7 Jul 07
i am glad that i had been raised by my mom who is just like you. so, i do dress up in modesty and i am proud of it. though i try to balance looking nice and being modest at the same time, atleast i don't look like i am selling myself to men... you know what i mean. what i am trying to say is that, i do balance things and make sure i don't atleast look so old with the clothes i have. i think a little skin is okey. but too much skin is a no no... anne
@rx4life (1932)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Well I've read through all of the responses and I agree with most of them!! I am 58 years old and have been told that I don't look my age.. I dress younger than a lot of my friends in that I like fashion and try to follow SOME of it!! For my job in pharmacy I dress professionally. I am also the wife of an executive director of a worldwide firm and would never dress to embarrass myself or him in our social situations, but I do try to incorporate a flair for fashion with good common sense...and that is what I sometimes see as lacking in our society today...good common sense...our children should BE children and NOT dressing like they are in their late teens, our young adults, young adults...and they are usually the ones that generation after generation seem to shock the older generation with their lack of modesty. I did it in the 60's with mini skirts and mod dressing that parents hated...and yes, they considered it inappropriate and my father even referred to me and my friends as tramps!!! A person should not be judged by their clothing alone....it is one's actions that reveal the core of the individual in my opinion...while my father was calling us names and indicating that we were morally inappropriate..not one of us was promiscous or trampy..we just loved the new fashion...so I'll have to say again...I agree with worldwise in some ways and with all the responders in other ways...I must be in the middle somewhere...Oh, I beg your pardon...I DO NOT agree with the dress your daughter alike scenario...I dearly loved my mother but really disliked dressing alike!!!!!LOL