Growing old -- This made my day!

@weemam (13372)
July 21, 2007 10:05am CST
This was sent to me by a good friend , she is getting old ( not as old as me lol ) but some of it just hit home lol , I hope you all enjoy it , whether you are getting old or not xxx Growing old -- This made my day! The other day a young person asked me how I felt about being old. I was taken aback, for I do not think of myself as old. Upon seeing my reaction, she was immediately embarrassed, but I explained that it was an interesting question, and I would ponder it, and let her know. Old Age, I decided, is a gift. I am now, probably for the first time in my life, the person I have always wanted to be. Oh, not my body! I sometime despair over my body, the wrinkles, the baggy eyes, and the sagging butt. And often I am taken aback by that old person that lives in my mirror (who looks like my mother!), but I don't agonize over those things for long. I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my loving family for less gray hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've become more kind to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be messy, to be extravagant. I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon; before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging. Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those wonderful tunes of the 40 &50's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep over a lost love ... I will. I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to, despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old. I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things. Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect. I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning gray, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on my face. So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair could turn silver. As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about what other people think. I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right to be wrong. So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free. I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day. (If I feel like it) . Amen!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 Jun 08
weeman that is just lovely and embodies how I am looking' at my old age. I a m 81 and have earned my white hair and laugh lines.I am a widow but I have loved and been 'loved and have a wonderful adult son. I have great memories and also great friends today. each day is a gift and I enjoy opening it and keeping positive each day. even now with shingles I will get well and this too shall pass. mydoctor has given me new medicine and thinks it will do the trick so am positive too.
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@weemam (13372)
19 Jun 08
Good for you , At 66 I have a lot of grey( white) hairs now too pal , we can wear them with pride :) xx
@beckish (641)
• United States
21 Jul 07
That is beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing - you have made my day. :-)
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@weemam (13372)
21 Jul 07
Thank you so much , and welcome to My Lot xx
@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
22 Jun 08
I wish that I could respond in the way that you have. I Do not have friends or family to call on the phone or to go visit. I kind of feel that I have been cheated out of life. All my life people have mistreated me; when I was a child, I had no real childhood, but lived in constant fear.
@weemam (13372)
22 Jun 08
Albert I am so sorry pal , I hope though that you are happier now and you have lots of good friends on this site xx
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
22 Jul 07
I couldn't have put it better myself weemam, and want to thank you for putting it into words for all of us who are getting up there! I too (with age), have finally discovered exactly who I am, where I'm going, and what things are important in life. I also see my mother's face when I look in the mirror! I reckon it's a privilege to grow old and have so many memories (good and bad),to look back on. We can look back and say to ourselves "Boy, what a journey!"
@mummymo (23706)
23 Jul 07
You know what honey - I loved reading this! I did notice that from some of the descriptions I have started aging myself! I am now looking forward to getting older rather than dreading it, so thank you very much for the reassurance sweetheart! xxx
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• United States
22 Jul 07
Thanks for this.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
21 Jul 07
You're not old, well you're not to me! You are very young at heart and I bet you've got a mind like a 30 year old! Thanks for sharing, I enjoyed reading that, very true and besides you don't get older, you just mature like a fine bottle of whisky xxxx
• United States
22 Jul 07
Thank you for sharing that very true article. Now I don't feel so guilty about going back for a second helping of ice cream today. LOL
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Oh this is great! My hubby and I try to stay positive as we get older in our minds we feel like a teenager but our body is getting older but we don't let it bother us we both made a commintment as we get older we will try to be active and not sit around do nothing our health is ok as I had 31 mini strokes in the past and I am dong much better now thanks for sharing :)
@stacy624 (2776)
• Canada
21 Jul 07
WOW.......I must say this was very well said. The words are so true. I haven't reached this point in my life as of yet but when I do I will always be sure to remember these words! =) Thank you so much for sharing it was truly beautiful Stacy
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Hi! That is a very positive discussion about old age but that is so true. With aging comes freedom. I just hope many will read that and realize that life is precious and we don't have to grow old before we learn to love ourselves and free ourselves from worldly things. Let's enjoy life while it last (in a good way of course. lol). Have a nice day!
• Israel
22 Jul 07
i'm happy i have read it! thanks!