Emotional Blackmail I'm Immune To It

@wolfie34 (26893)
United Kingdom
July 29, 2007 11:21am CST
Sorry my friends, last discussion on the subject I promise! But as you can guess he'll pulling out all the emotional blackmail stunts in the book! Zeus (the cat in the photo) came in. He says Here's someone that used to mean a lot to you! I will have to put the cats in the cattery, or I'll have to take the cats to the vet to be put down I will take two weeks off before you go so that we can do stuff together the first week and I can use the second week when you're gone to sit down and cry I am going to get a bedsit and take pills and end it all What's the point in being alive, I've got nothing, no one, you're taking away my cats and my home Anything I can do for you to make it easy for the last few months, just name it, I'll get that for you.... Think of all the good times we've had together The list goes on, but I've become IMMUNE He doesn't get the response When he says he'll kill himself, I reply cooly, well that's your decision then! He will keep trying the emotional blackmail but it won't work! Are you immune to emotional blackmail? Has anyone ever made you feel bad using emotional blackmail?
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@mummymo (23709)
29 Jul 07
Emotional blackmail can be very hard to ignore and to take a stand against but I try very hard never to give in to it or to use it! I know you are now strong enough to ignore it and stand strong! xxx
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@wolfie34 (26893)
• United Kingdom
29 Jul 07
With my big sis at the back of me and my friends both online and offline, helping and supporting me I will be strong enough to last xxxx
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@mummymo (23709)
29 Jul 07
Well sweetheart you know your big sis is only a phone call or email away - anytime! Love you xxxx
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 Jul 07
Wolfie. emotional blackmail is pathetic, and you can see and even better understand what he is about. Very soon if not now you are going to wonder what in the world was ever attractive about him. because he is now showing his true colors and you can clearly see him as he is.And what is so sad he doesn't know the more he pushes the faster you will wish to leave, because it is now all about him. and in fact always has been, but you are looking through clean glasses, not the rose colored ones he required you to wear. Good on for you
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
29 Jul 07
Isn't amazing when we have the steering wheel. and are in control of our destiny.You have broken the sound barrier, when it comes to self help, and you need to be proud of you self. It has been a painful lesson no doubt, but look at what you have learned about how strong you actually are. You do not need to ever be under anyones thumb ever again.
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@gabs8513 (48805)
• United Kingdom
29 Jul 07
Yes they have and I am a soft person so it always works on me lol but then when I had enough all them years ago I like you turned Immune to iy now make sure Sweet that you stay immune to it as well x
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@nana1944 (1367)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Yes, Wolfie, I had someone who did the emotional blackmail to me. It worked for quite awhile and then my eyes were opened to what it was. I am glad you are detaching yourself from it. As Jimbo said though, you really don't need to be there if he does try something self- destructive. Speaking for myself, as I told you earlier, if you were my son you would be with me til you leave for vacation. But it is your choice and I don't know how far your parents live from you and stuff like that. But I am thinking of you and am glad you are being stronger about it. ((Hus Wolfie))
@nana1944 (1367)
• United States
30 Jul 07
Okay, okay, this time I will get it right. ((Hugs Wolfie)). I knowI forgot the g last time.
@lols189 (4798)
24 Aug 07
i have never really took emotional blackmail very serious as people do this to make you sorry for them and behind our backs they are laughing thinking that we are a fool to believe what they say so i dont let it wash with me anymore
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Wolfie- You just be careful- if he is threatening to take his own life- you never know how far he will go- Yes this sounds a lot like a relationship I had back in college- when I was in my late teens –early twenties. I was with this guy for 4 years- We were thinking marriage but towards the end of the 4 years I had mixed feelings. He acted out at times- never towards me- but it still scared me- When I decided that I had enough and was moving on and out- he tried the I’ll kill myself- I love you so much- and I’ll change- I stayed for a while- because I was scared… I didn’t want him to kill himself- he had me- Finally after about 6 months- I said you know what- Go ahead- I can’t do it and I won’t- I moved- and he is still alive- Haven’t seen him in years (about 10)—So don’t fall for it- Move on- go to a happy, healthy place!
@sid556 (31019)
• United States
30 Jul 07
i've been reading your story and this guy is classic. You knew it was coming! Ya, I've been there. I'm sure on some level he really is sorry that you are leaving but when its over...its over. you are doing the right thing to ignore him. He will be fine after you are gone and you will be much happier. hang in there.
• United States
30 Jul 07
i am a complete SUCKER for emotional blackmail. i always fall for it...i always give in. i can't handle hurting anyone and if someone tells me i am hurting them and tells me how to make it stop or threatens someting will happen if i DON'T make it stop, i freak out and do whatever they want. i know, i know...it's foolish...
@Naomi17 (624)
30 Jul 07
Oh babe he sounds like he's going to miss you but blackmail is just a way of making you feel guilty don't let it,you've made your plans he's not going to kill himself and he is a cat addict and he won't hurt them. I know about emotional blackmail and i walk away from it inside i'm thinking if you loved me and you were my friend you wouldn't be doing this you would love me to much to hurt me.The friend who tried it on also tried to seduce my hubby he wasn't interested and told her to to get lost but in more graphic terms lol people who blackmail are weak they feed on what they think are your weaknesses just ignore don't rise to them!
@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
30 Jul 07
Wow wolfie i am surprised, why does he act this way? i know that he thinks of you as a good friend, but this is a bit too much, isn't it? I was shocked to read those sentences. Why is he acting this way?
• United States
30 Jul 07
Awww I am sooo sorry you are having to go through this, I wish he hadn't found out, the break would have been much cleaner, when he starts this abuse towards you just keep reapeating how many days you have left to get you through, the pain is so much worth the wonderful life you are going to have once you are gone. Be well, my friend!