Would You Move Away From Family...

@twoey68 (13662)
United States
September 28, 2007 8:59pm CST
Have you ever thought of moving away from your family? Do you think you could handle living far away from them? I live within 2 blocks of my Mom, 3 Brothers, Grandma, Niece and Nephew. I see some of them just about every day. I'm also extremely close to my Mom and my Nephew. But sometimes I wish I could pack up and move up North...just b/c that is where I'd like to live. I love the being by the water and although it sounds crazy...no water is like Michigan water...at least to me. But I know that if I ever did I'd miss my Mom, my Nephew and the rest of my family like crazy. So I stay where I am for now. Would you stay somewhere to be by those that you are closest to? **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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63 responses
• United States
29 Sep 07
I am one who moved from home and my family when i was 18 and came to the USA I am now 67 yrs old and have never for even one minute regreted it!
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Wow...talk about a big step. Do you mind if I ask where you moved here from? Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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• United States
29 Sep 07
i came here from Liverpool England
@worldwise1 (14893)
• United States
29 Sep 07
What I really think, twoey, is that life is too uncertain to not do the things that you really want to do. Distance is no longer the problem that it used to be, so it is not that hard to keep in close touch with family and friends who live far away. I would rather take a chance and find out if I could be happy living somewhere else than to be filled with regret for not having done so.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Yes, it isn't the days of horse and buggies any more but still, I like to see my Mom and be there when she needs me. I guess sometimes I just wish for a wee break. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@Riptide (2762)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I do live about 6000 miles away from my family and it's not easy at times. But I chose to do so, because I love my husband and wanted to be where he is. Besides, I love this country and feel like I'm home and thanks to the internet and phone I can stay in touch with my siblings. I lost my mom a few yers ago, so I carry her in my heart wherever I go anyways.
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@MsTickle (24597)
• Australia
30 Sep 07
Moving away wouldn't worry me. My parents moved away when they retired and I've moved even further. I came back close to where my Dad's is then I moved out here...it's only another 3 hours but the way my kids behave you'd think I'd moved Overseas or something. They rarely visit me anyway.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I am close to my brother, but he is very co-dependent. He calls me at least 3 times a day and sometimes it drives me nuts. We lived together for a year and he still would call me lol. My mom and I have become closer through the years as well. I miss my family, but I have moved far away from them many times. It isn't easy though. I miss them so much. My husband is in the military so we move a lot and we may be going out of country this next time, I don't know. I pray that we don't. My parents are not in the best of health and doesn't look like they are getting better. So, I don't know what the future holds for us, but it sounds like you and your family are pretty close.
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@Rozie37 (15508)
• Turkmenistan
30 Sep 07
My family is not as close knit as yours. We see each other a few times a year. They are very busy with work and the kids. I do not live in the same city as they do. They live in Los Angeles, but after I was robbed at gunpoint, I did not want to live there any longer.
• United States
29 Sep 07
Yes, I have lived apart from my family. I did for many years. I met my husband while he was stationed in the military and I was a nanny for a military couple almost a thousand miles from my home. I was then married and moved from state to state for many years, sometimes not seeing my family for a year at a time. I now reside in my hometown where my mother and brother still live. Yep, I think I would and could move away again. We are close, but I don't need to see them all that often. There is always the phone. I would miss the comfort and security of my hometown maybe. I haven't lived away for awhile, so I am not so sure how I would handle it this time. It was hard when I was younger. I think it may be easier this time if I ever moved away again.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I just have to comment on your answer..I think when you were younger it was hard on you,but as you get older you will find you need your family even more...The older you get you need the comfort of family,at least this is the way it has been for me.
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
That sounds like alot of traveling. We moved around alot when I was kid...not b/c of the military but b/c my Mom has gypsy blood (we kid her about it). I don't think I'd miss our town alot...it's allright but I'm not really attached to it. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@TerryZ (22147)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Im about 40 minutes from my whole family. And we are a extremely close family. I could never move away from them and go to another state. I just wouldnt be happy. Family is everything.
@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
30 Sep 07
That's what I think too...that if I moved away I'd be really unhappy not getting to see them. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@mizrae (587)
• United States
29 Sep 07
In a New York minute! I have lived in Texas, California and Maine. I have traveled during vacations. I love my family, but there is a lot in this country to see too.
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
30 Sep 07
You sound like my Mom. LOL She loved moving when we were kids...about every 3 months we'd pack up and move again. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@SViswan (12096)
• India
29 Sep 07
There are pros and cons both ways. Sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. Personally, I'd like to be in the same city as my family (close enough to meet often and far enough to have a life of my own). That would be perfect for me.
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
30 Sep 07
I think if I moved away then when she is gone I'd regret not spending more time with her. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I kinda did move away from my family when I was 15. My parents divorced and my father moved halfway across the country and I went with him. We're all back on the east coast again though and it's nice to be back. My mom and sister are about 15 minutes away, my other sister is about a half hour away, my nephew is about an hour away, my brother is an hour in the other direction and my other brother is about 5 hours away. MOST of my family live within 6 hours of me - aunts, uncles, cousins... We do get together often and have a great time, but sometimes I would love to go back to Colorado - I really loved it out there!
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I like being near my family...for the most part. It's just a place in me that longs for the water. I know I'd miss my Mom and Nephew along with the rest of the family anyways so I know I'd never leave them. I just wondered if others ever felt this way. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@AmbiePam (40409)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I don't think I would move far away from my family unless I was married and my husband's job called for him to move for his job. But I'm not married. So right now I'd be comfortable living an hour away from them. I'd feel differently if I had more of a life waiting for me, but right now if I moved, it wouldn't be TO anything.
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
When Hubby and I met he lived about 3 hours away. He couldn't get transfered right away so we decided I'd move up with him. I missed my family so much. It was the longest year of my life. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
29 Sep 07
Have already done this twice, moving from New Zealand to Samoa and now to USA. My immediate family all live in New Zealand and Australia. I have been away for 7 years now and love that fact that I can still travel home every couple of years to visit. It was hard at first but I am now use to it. Thank God for telephones/cellphones/ internet/email etc or else I would not be able to stay in touch with them.
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
29 Sep 07
I know what you mean. I keep in touch with several family members through the internet and several friends through long distance. Thanks for responding!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@palonghorn (5492)
• United States
22 Oct 07
Hi, like you I didn't ever think I could or would move away from Texas, all my family lives there with the excepetion of one daughter ( she lives in southern Virginia). I lived 2 hrs from my youngest daughter and my parents, and 3 hours away from my only sister. But, I met a wonderful guy that just happened to live 1600 miles from me, and him moving was not an option (due to his job). So, I made the decision to move, and had the backing from all my family, even though it wasn't the easiest move I had ever made, it was well worth it. We have been together 2 and 1/2 years now, and I couldn't be happier, I'm also working my dream job. Although I miss my family, we stay in touch with phone calls, emails and pictures. I've made the drive back down to Texas once since I moved up here. My oldest daughter drives up about every 3 or 4 months for a visit ( it's a 6 hour drive).
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@xParanoiax (7007)
• United States
22 Oct 07
I'm actually doing it next year. Well, moving away's one way to describe it, anyway. It's more like taking up life on the road and wandering for a few years...living out my "rebellious stage" officially, you know? I'm going pretty far, and hope to cover the whole country lol. We'll see. I've dreamed of doing it since I was small, more intensely since I became a teenager. I wouldn't miss Mom, Dad, or my little brother very much..I know that sounds cold. But my family, every one of us has always been extremely independant..often clashing. We all want time by ourselves...and Mom herself would probably be relieved to have one less person hanging around her all the time. And I daresay things may be a bit quieter around here without me. Anyway, traveling's in my blood. I love the entire...lifestyle that comes with living on the road. Sure, it's tough work..I'm away from everything I know and grew up with...and the food'll be different. But that's part of what'll make it fun. Plus I'll be able to learn new things, meet different people. And nothing worth doing is without its risks and dangers...but I won't be alone in traveling, so I should be able to handle it. The only things I can honestly say I'll miss is, real showers, a soft bed, the pets, and my plants. I love quiet. Which I'd finally been able to achieve at home here...and I guess being on the road means lots of adventure and little quiet...but I'll get it sometimes. Which is a good compromise. But I'm sortof scene as a rebel to society as it is, and to some parents a bit of a bad girl...even though I'm finishing high school early (graduating), and have taken care of my little brother since he was nine, my free-thinking and open-mindedness is a bad influence on other children. I should have a sign on my back saying, "Approach with caution". But maybe I can do some good. Show the world that what I am isn't so bad. I dunno. Traveling and leaving behind my family doesn't bother me.
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@mouse27 (1156)
• Canada
15 Oct 07
i live far away from my family and it doesn't bother me one bit. i don't decide to move somewhere because of my family i decide to move places because of me and how the place makes me feel
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@bizmom (515)
• United States
15 Oct 07
LOL I tryed!! they FOLLOWED!! :( lol
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• United States
12 Oct 07
My family and I are not that close. I talk to my parents about once a week and my siblings on the holidays. We have always been like that so I did not have a hard time moving away. I live 350 miles away. And in about 8 months, I will be much further.
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@carlaabt (3510)
• United States
11 Oct 07
Besides my husband and son (who live with me), my closest relative distance wise, is around 900 miles away. Most of our family lives about 1100 miles away. My husband is in the military or we would probably be closer to home. It's hard being away from my family, but I know it's worse on my mom than it is on me. She misses me and my baby so much. I miss her, too, but I don't feel like I am missing out on someone growing up the way she is.
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@nangel78 (1459)
• United States
11 Oct 07
I moved away from my relatives 7 years ago. I love them and love seeing them, but I cannot live around them. Too much drama happens that I end up getting sucked into which was why I left.
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