What do you do when you really don' t have any friends?

Canada
October 7, 2007 8:12pm CST
I live in a huge city...and I find that I have a hard time making friends. The chances of you seeing the same people at the mall the next week are practically nil. What would you do then when you just need that friend to talk to??
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
9 Oct 07
Well I know your story because I myself am having a hard time meeting new friends in this city I moved to. Believe me I have tryed and I have met a few people but nothing I would call a friend. Your totally right though about meeting people in the mall whats the chances your going to run into them again? Anyways I myself am looking for ideas like you to meet some friends so Ill be keeping an eye on your post for idea but anyways good luck to you.
@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
8 Oct 07
Well, I might create him or her in my writings, and have my talks with him/her this way. I know you write too, so give it a try :) Otherwise I call one of my best friends that all live very far from me, or my mum :) But I am mostly alone and enjoy it too :) TheFortunes
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@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
8 Oct 07
I have exactly the same problem as you do! At first I used to get depressed and I tried different things, but I have given that up now. I have one friend, who I see once, or maybe twice a year and I have to be lucky that I have her at least! I find that being unable to go out to meet people has made me turn into myself. In other words, I have to entertain myself and find ways to keep busy, as I have no other sources. Unfortunately, I dont think we are the only ones! There are many lonely people out there, who have no friends either!
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• United States
8 Oct 07
Easy make friends on the internet.
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• China
8 Oct 07
if you want to fell happy,you should have a good family,many good friends and have a famous work.that is my sense.so,have some friends is very important.but now i have few friend too,you know,i work about computer,i must have to face computer 10 hours per day,so i have some friends online,but,in live,few.today,in huge city,many people can't find thier boyfriend or girlfriend,for that reason too. i want to find good idea too.thanks your post.
• Canada
8 Oct 07
See I have no family here, and my friends are in other provinces. I work at home and stare at this computer all the time. But I crave someone to talk to here....someone I can hang out with...just a thought.
• China
8 Oct 07
yes,we need friends.i fell lonely when i get paid on line for long time,i think,this is a bad things for people that work at home.
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
well i suggest you go out of that box of yours . . most people are afraid that they will be turned down everytime they try to communicate with another persons. Just put on that happy smile and try not to be a stranger if you get turned down thats ok just understand they don't want to talk to you right now but if they do talk to you then consider yourself very lucky thatt person is very talkative and you just earned a new friend in the process. Good luck i hope what i said might help you in some way.
• Canada
8 Oct 07
I talk to the cashiers at the grocery stores. But its really hard for me to say wanna hang out??
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
8 Oct 07
I live out in the country in the middle of nowhere...Its hard to make friends also..I find using the internet is the easiest way, email or using the telephone to keep in touch..
• Canada
8 Oct 07
I have a couple of people I can email...it must suck living in the middle of nowhere. But I am used to that...I have lived in the country almost all my life.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I live in a decently sized city and I don't have a lot of friends. I know a lot of people, but don't have a lot of friends. When I need friends I usually watch movies or go to forums and the like to try and make friends.
• Canada
8 Oct 07
I know I have some great online friends...too bad I can't call them though when I'm in a lerch...thanks.
@svelte (132)
• Philippines
9 Oct 07
Firstly, I always have my cell phone with me in which I get to call or send text messages to my old friends, best friend, sister, brother, parents and relatives. And so I suggest that whenever you feel alone, just drop a call to your friends and folks and just tell them that you terribly miss them. I tell you it will make you feel better after you hear their voices. Secondly, I always try to make the first move and initiate a conversation even if the people around me are strangers. I try my best to make them feel comfortable by observing their every move and take note of their interests so that I can use that if I get the chance to talk to them. To sum it all up, there is always a way of solving things if you are just willing and patient to try out something new and make adjustments. =)
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
9 Oct 07
Volunteer, I've made some great friends volunteering. Or join some type of club, there are different clubs that I've made friends in too. I have friends from my job, too. So if you belong to something and go every week, many times the same people go and you can develope a friendship. Some people join church groups and make friends that way. Or a meditation group, some group that you would like to get together with once a week or once a month. I even got a husband from volunteering, you should really give it a try. Take care and happy friend making.
@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
8 Oct 07
Maybe you should try joining a club or something that you're interested in? Perhaps go to some aerobics class or reading club? I've just moved to Finland about 6 months ago and I've only found a British family as friends...but they're busy so I don't get to see them often. Since there are no English-speaking clubs here, it's hard for me to find something to do that'll help me socialize. Thus I started blogging and I've found SO MANY WONDERFUL friends there, those people who are ready to encourage me and listen to my stories. Other than that, maybe you can find some friends from the same place as yourself in MyLot...who knows? Aren't there any Canadian emailpal websites so that you can possibly meet one another? Well, GOOD LUCK in finding friends there, anyway!!!
@dpk262006 (56718)
• Delhi, India
8 Oct 07
I just search for friends in this case, through networking sites.
@tenchiwei (149)
• Philippines
8 Oct 07
You have friend, youjust don't see them often :) I just moved back home and left Manila where all my current friends live. I have reconnected with long time friends here in my hometown, but I find it's hard adjusting when I'm so used to the hustle and bustle of a big city. I talk to my friends mostly through yahoo messenger. It pains me to miss the metro so much, but family is always first. :)
@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
8 Oct 07
If it were me, I would put my profile on some dating sites, like plentyoffish. Then I would have some fun, talking for awhile, and then I would eventually meet someone, if there was someone that I liked.
@myfanwy65 (1030)
• United States
8 Oct 07
I know how you feel. I don't have any friends either. I just moved back to a place I had lived about 6 years ago. I thought my old friends would want to hang out again, but that is not happening. I don't know what to do either. I'm trying to find other people who have the same interests as I do. It's hard to get to meetings, though. I also don't have a job, yet. I am hoping that if I find a job I will at least have someone to talk to.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
8 Oct 07
Talk to my best friend in Hawaii or email my twin sister and hope she replies. I had a slight falling out with a friend, well my husbands friends fiance and even though I have apologised several times and have invited them to come around and sorts, she says she has forgiven me but doesn't think our friendship will ever be the same so so much for trying to make a friend here in DC. It was because I was in a bad mood that day and took it out on everyone but she seems to have held a grudge against me (like I'm sure she hasn't had a bad day in her life LOL) So life goes on. I am hoping to meet some mothers from my sons school when i volunteer and get involved. If not, I am happy with life now as I have tons of friends online that I keep in touch with regularly.