Responding to some discussions in mylot..is it a matter of Age???
By stella1989
@stella1989 (2274)
India
December 18, 2007 5:50am CST
I was wondering while responding to one fo the discussions here in mylot.. will that person who started this discussion will like my response or hate it??
Actually the discussion I responded in was the question of family matter something related to adults...
And by adult here I mean people of age more than 21 years.
I felt a bit odd one while responding to some ones matter of life...!! No matter I am 18 yrs now but its still a teen age..!!
Do I have the right to respond in such discussions..!!
Please feel free to write your views on this matter.
:)
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17 responses
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
18 Dec 07
Dear Stella
i am sure you can respond to these discussions.
as its not necessarily that u can only respond if u have experienced it. 18 is quite mature age and u get right to VOTE. moreover you are living in family and society. You OBSERVE things, you comprehend them so sure you can comment on them.
so i believe that keen observation is important to improve ur life. and u can learn from experience of others
so dont feel awkward, if u have to say something, just say it and by that you may learn more
take care
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
Hey thanks for such good response..!!
I don't know why I always felt a bit odd in responding to some adult discussions..!!
but YES..I am 18 now ..I have started ovserving things.., I have my own views towards life now...
So now these things are enough to show your views in ones matter..!!
:)
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
Hey thanks for such good response..!!
I don't know why I always felt a bit odd in responding to some adult discussions..!!
but YES..I am 18 now ..I have started ovserving things.., I have my own views towards life now...
So now these things are enough to show your views in ones matter..!!
:)
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@abhi_destar (764)
• India
18 Dec 07
You know something, I have been answering questions on the net from two years ago, which means I was just 19 then. Then I used to be on Yahoo! Answers. And many people had chosen my answers as the best one(not much luck here yet, of course!) and some had even corresponded with me as to how useful my answers had been to them. The moral of the story is: maturity is not a matter of age, it's a matter of the mind. If you see a question and your heart says to you: I know the answer to this, I must reply, then just go ahead and do it. If your answer can help someone get over their problems, then I feel it's your duty also to step forward and do so.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
Wow...you have a different view about this. I like it.
Actually what I face in my family is my parents always says that I should never interfare in adults matters..!! And should keep my mouth shut!!
Thats the reason why I am doubtful about responding to some discussions out here.
But I feel exchaning my wviews out here in internet is a good way to imporve your thinking power...!
Thankyou for your resposne.
:)
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@abhi_destar (764)
• India
18 Dec 07
That's a problem which is faced by youngsters like us the world over. I think the generation gap is responsible for this. It's actually not the fault of any party. Your parents are also right in discouraging you from interfering in adult matters because you may pick up wrong, very wrong ideas, and everybody knows that internet is a place where youngsters can get distracted from their real lives and assimilate all sorts of wrong ideas about life. Your parents want to protect you, that's all. So it's now YOUR duty to logically make them realise that whatever you're doing is not bad or harmful in any way. You may also show some of your answers to them and ask them to judge whether you have answered rightly or not. If you want them to have confidence in you, you have to show them your confidence yourself.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
I think thats a good idea to involve them too with me while responding to discussions here in mylot.
:)
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I wouldn't mind it at all. Sometimes G♥d uses those who don't feel worthy or are less. My daughter is a great example, she is 18 and last year when she knew I was upset and knew why, (because it upset her too), she wrote the most wonderful piece of advice. Though at the time I couldn't take it, I kept that paper and even now I should reread it, for she knew what was right..
If fact, if I remember correctly, I requested you because you gave a great response to one of my discussions, so that should answer your question right there..;)
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
19 Dec 07
wow...that was very encouraging...!!
thank you lot. And Big hug for you for this response.
NOw I have more confidence in me..!!
:)
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Your welcome, don't let anyone tell you you can't do something because of your age, if G♥d is with you, you can do anything..
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
18 Dec 07
hi stella.i think you have every right to respond to a discussion no matter what your age is.i think that when people want advice it is great to get different points of view.i value the advice i get from mylot and its great to get younger peoples advice also.i value everyones opinion.cheers sue
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
hey thanks for such nice response....!
Thats was very encouraging one.
:)
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@ganga472007 (624)
• India
18 Dec 07
By participating in a discussion,you can gain experience.You understand the subject,and reply your views to enable the reader to understand it corectly.I feel age is not he criteria but suject matter will count. Good luck
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
Well you are correct but quality of response is do related to one's age here in mylot!!
And specially for discussions over relationships and family matters.
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@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
18 Dec 07
I think you should respond to any discussion to which you have something meaningful to add. Age does not matter as much as how you feel on the topic, how much experience you have on the topic or how well you have thought it through. If someone doesn't like your response, that is ok as long as you didn't post it purposely to be rude or mean. The way I see it, when I post a discussion, I expect to get some answers I don't like or with which I disagree. I know that not all people are like me and especially here on mylot there are people from all over the world who have different points of view.
So go ahead, respond if you feel you have something to say. As long as you are respectful, I don't see anything wrong with it.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
18 Dec 07
yes I always take care of that..not sound rude to any one ever...!!
after all its a public site....!!
Thanks for your response.
:)
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Don't worry so much about age being a factor. Sometimes the younger folks can offer a point of view not immediately apparent to those who are older. If you feel like adding a comment, just go for it! You may be still technically a teenager, but that doesn't mean your opinion isn't appreciated. Age is just a number...
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
19 Dec 07
yes thats true..age is just the number!!!
I belive the same ..but here I got myself in doubt for once.
Thankyou for your response.
:)
@keminem001 (779)
• Saint Lucia
18 Dec 07
you have the right to respond to any and whatever discussion you want to on mylot. by the way you're 18 years old, you're an adult so there shouldn't be a discussion here you can't give your thought about.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Here in the States if you are 18 you can vote and if you are male you have to register for service in the arm forces so you are considered an adult at 18 so if you find a discussion that you want to respond to, feel free to do so.
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@CEN7777 (855)
• India
19 Dec 07
hi stella, There is nothing wrong in respoding. I donot think age realy matters in such a disscusions topic like family matter. Responding such topics is the indication of your maturity, seriousness and sincere thinking towards family matters. You definatly have right to rsepond such discussion with any hesitation. Enjoy myloting and all the best.
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
19 Dec 07
You have the right to respond, you should respond. Especially if you can contribute to the discussion or posting. There is nothing wrong with that.
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@fanji008 (775)
• China
18 Dec 07
Hi,there! I think one can respond to the discussions whenever he/she is interested in it.If you haven't got the experience before,then maybe you can't give the proper suggestions or advice but still you can share your opinions on it.Moreover,it's a good way to broaden yourself cause you can know much more about that issue.So I think it's good to join.A matter of age is not the point somehow,but the way you think and your attitude towards different things:) So just take it easy and speak your ideas out.Have a nice day and happy posting^_^
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@makatas (1098)
• Greece
18 Dec 07
Yeah, why not.I even reply in mother discussions, while i am a man, particularly a single one :)I think sometimes people wanna see opinions of different people, old and young.This way they get better replies, and from wider variety of characters. Either way, if they feel your reply want good, then they will ignore it.
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@ideacoach (6)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Stella, there are some folks that have seen a lot, been through a lot and know a lot. Regardless of your age if you bring value in your question or answer it is not important.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
18 Dec 07
I don't see any reason why you wouldn't have the right.
No one can know anyone else's life experience, no matter how old they are. By the age of eighteen, I had life experience on certain matters that many people my age now don't have. So age really has nothing to do with it.
And if you're talking about something that you don't have personal experience with, then your opinion is probably flavored by the experiences of the people who have taught you or interacted with you throughout your life. *shrugs*
I don't think anyone should really tell anyone else what they can and can't talk about. If the original poster doesn't like your response, then they simply don't have to take you advice or take your response to heart... that's their choice, just as it was your choice to write the response.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
19 Dec 07
My friend of course you can.. no, you have the right to answer any discussions. As long as you have an idea or something to say about it that's all. Your age does not matter and sometimes it even gives a fresh input on a discussions. We "adults" some times forget some things as we grow older :)
There is no reason for you to feel that you shouldn't answer a discussion just because you felt the matter was being discussed within adults.
Hugs
@bumblebee34 (190)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
ofcourse this is a free opinionated page we have here so anyone is welcome to comment regardless the age okc".)
