Do You Go Along With The Starter

If the starter and I agree, we agree. If there are some good points some bad, I'll try to point things out. If its neutral, I say something along those lines. If its more or complete disagreement, I'll post what I feel. Don't believe me, I've got a star here that backs my claims up. I've also got plenty of BRs, good discussions and good responses here, so it not because I'm "not contributing to mylot". -_- Its for the only other reason left, disagreement.

I speak out what I feel. I'd rather not post than respond by trying to please and be nice. There are some posts that I don't respond to because I feel that it might spark a controversy. I had aback and forth argument on that one with another myLotter once...she just couldn't digest the fact that I was voicing my opinion and the funny part was that she wasn't even the one who started the discussion! And the person who started it didn't bother to respond or try to make their view clear and we went back and forth with the arguments till I realized that we had gone way off topic! Then I realized there's no point in the whole thing...I either give honest responses or sometimes nothing at all...but never something that I don't feel or think just to please someone.

I think everyone should be nice here at Mylot, if you don't like a discusson a person should move on. That's when the rating come in.

I stick to my belief in God no matter what the poster wants me to do. So I will not agree with them just to make them give themselves a pat on the back. I have gotten into trouble, lost points, and that is in spite of me trying to be amiable and nice about it and be as tactful as possible, but I guess that some want me to be in complete agreement with them. This makes me wary about getting more friends since now I have to not only check their interests, but also read their posts.

No i dont go with the starter. I always say how i feel. If i dont agree with it then i simply say so. I know sometimes there are even some touchy subjects on here. But i still just say how i feel. After all we are entitled to our own opinions.

What could possibly be wrong sticking to your convictions. If I'm going to take the time to respond to a discussion, I'm going to say what I really feel. Otherwise, whats the point? There's nothing wrong with being the "Odd Man Out" every now and then.

I try to be honest in my replies. I think you can tell how you really feel and still be nice. But, just agreeing to agree doesn't leave much room for real discussion.

I like to play 'Devils Advocate' a bit - where I see lots of posts all supporting one view and the discussion looks unbalanced, I like to put the other side... I believe in balance in all things, especially when someone has 'carte blanche' to write their one-sided view on a forum like this with little chance of contradiction. For example: a post where someone says my best friend is depressed, her husband isn't helping - I think she should leave him (paraphrased - this is just an example). Does not at all examine the fact that depression makes you think and say things from a very blinkered view. In that sort of situation I like to put the opposite view. IE: Treatment makes more sense than drastic life change, besides without knowing ANYTHING about the husband, at least half a dozen people also recommended divorce!! I am sometimes guilty of pursuing an argument I am not fully convinced about out just because it is fun... although I hate it when people start getting abusive - arguing is fine, but when it gets to abuse I lose all faith in hope for mankind in the future... Aggression has no place in argument as far as I am concerned

I usually say what I feel when it comes to answering a discussion. Most of the time I am in agreement with the poster but if there is a discussion I don't know much about or feel that I don't have anything positive to add, then I don't and move on. I don't like controversy but if someone starts to criticise my opinion and get nasty and start calling me an idiot or something like that, then I am not going to sit there and ignore it LOL I'll make one reply then report it haha! Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Some are very strong and voicetrous (sp?) about their personal beliefs, others are suttle and don't like confrontation - You stick to what you believe and who you are Rozie - it may come across as hard and fast sometimes but your discussions and responses are very honest and thats what makes you who you are. I'll be working right up to Christmas eve and the day after Christmas so I'm going to wish you Happy Holidays my friend Luv Me :)

I think you know, Rozie, I say what I feel as well. I never wish to offend or insult anyone, and I don't think I do although some people very stronly disagree with some of my views...lol. But, that's OK, I like the debate and I like to learn what makes others "tick". Heck, I have to admit I've learned a few things here too. I can't see much point in responding to a discussion and just saying "You're right, I agree, yeah, yeah, yeah." I mean, I'll say so if I agree with someone but I like to think I have a little something to add before I post other than just being a "Yes girl". Annie

Speak up your mind, we are in a discussion forum not a support group thanking for sharing type of thing. Unfortunately the more controversy the issue has the more entrenched people gets and they do rate you bad for expressing a different view.

I tell how I really feel. If a person posts a discussion, I assume they are doing it because they really want people to give them honest answers. At least, that's how I am when I post a topic. So I say what I think. If they don't like it, that's fine.

En...I think will show my true feelings,of couse I don't want to make others to get mad too.If I really can agree with him,I will give hime a tactful answer. Haha,it is our Chinese philosophy.Do you think after reading my words.

I say "Be yourself" as there will always be people that "don't agree". If you try and please EVERYONE on this Earth, you lost the battle before it has begun. I say there's a limit to expressing yourself, as surely most people try not to offend others, if they can possibly help it. So enjoy this Website and make new friends, as this is what happiness in life is all about! There's many range of topics here, so I am enjoying reading all of them, as many views expressed, but that's what makes life so very interesting! Happy Holidays!

I always stay true to myself. If it's a topic that really boils my blood or I'm really passionate about, I may avoid the discussion altogether. I don't like bumping heads with people and cats on here tend to be very defensive. I respect all opinions and I get mad back when someone is telling me I'm wrong for something that is simply an opinion. So, either I go ahead and stay true to myself, or I just avoid the discussion based on the person starting it. If they sound like a jerk, then I know they probably won't listen to another opinion.

Well honesty is the best policy so I say continue to be true to your beliefs and to you. you see I do the same.

Maybe I can learn your style of this beliefs,but it's difficult for me to take it into action.I often said something which wad not my reall meaning,just for the need of communication and developing of my business.I think it's useful for our society