Im sticking with my friends

Hi Terry:) I don't think you are being silly at all. Especially after what you went through. We are here to have fun, not to be worried. Do what makes you more comfortable. I hope you are having fun. It's great to have you back.:)

I think in your case it is perfectly acceptable to stick with the discussions of the people that you trust. Maybe the day will come that you will wander out again, but you just need to do what makes you feel comfortable. I do go outside my friends list, I check "discussions my friends started" and I answer discussions from there, then I usually just hit the big dicussions tab at the top of the page and choose from there. If I am really have a hard time finding something new, I will check the "discussions with no responses."

hi there... are we friends? if not, then it is ok. i suggest you respond to others too, not just your friends... it is ok to do that, but it will be better if you go out of your shield with your friends and discover others too.

I do the same bu I go on stints whehre I wll say answer good discussoins that have never goten any eresponses o someon who gives ineresting esponse o I such and I go through and answer a bunch of their discussions. And sometimes I look up certain topics I want to chat about. I've seen you in my discussions - hope that means you're a friend!

Hello dear TerryZ. I am so happy that you are sticking with us all, your friends. It is the same here with me, dear friend. Welcome back, dear friend.

Hi Terry, I have only been on for about six month and only in december did I start to get active agian.. I wasn't at the time sticking with my friends list and I was going into what ever conversations I happened by that sounded interesting. Now I find more often than not I stick with friends. Now everyonce in a while I meet good people outside of my friends like in the lounge I've meet some wonderful people. But I Have heard what has happened to you and I'm sorry you have had to go through that and I don't one bit blame you for sticking with friends. This is supposed to be a community where we can all converse and have fun not where we should worry about if we rub a poster the wrong way. I hope that eventually you will open up to posting agian to non friend post. Agian it's been a pleasure and take care.

No I will only stick to my Friends and no one else I never have done I will only do the Emails that I receive Hugs to you

I know we're not friends, but I love posting to your discussions so that's alright if you won't respond to mine!;) Haven't been here for the past month, got myself busy during the holiday seasons. I respond to anyone who I come across with, as long as I can relate to their discussions. I'm not sure what happened to you, but I'm glad that you're back and enjoy what you used to be doing back then!;)

It is getting hard to go to another other discussions besides those of my friends, because I do their discussions before anything else. When I'm finally caught up on theirs, the day is done, lol. But I do try to go to at least one person a day and do their discussion that are NOT on my friend list. It's not a matter of me not wanting to, it's a matter of time. But I understand why you would be cautious right now. Once you've been bitten, it's hard to want to try to venture out.

I rarely reply to posts outside of my friends list. Probably because I don't have a lot of time to spend on Mylot, so I like to focus on my friends. But I do occasionally reply to other posts. That's how you meet new friends, I guess!

Though I am not amongst the people on your friend's list, I can understand your trepidation of going outside that comfort zone where you feel secure - especially considering what you have recently experienced. However, I am not sure that it will prevent a similar event from taking place. I mean, if someone is out trolling to sabotage a member, they can do so without being on your friend's list. Since there is no option of blocking those who are not on an approved list, by you... then what recourse is there truly?

I start out by responding to my friends, but if I find something interesting, I still reply, but I am careful with my words because I don't know the person and it is usually a subject that I really like or I know how to help. So I guess the answer to your question is, no. After I do all I can with my friends, I do go off and see what else is out there..lol And I don't think you are being silly feeling that way, some times people just want to stick with what they know. Myself, at this time, want to explore what everyone has to say right now.. You never know, I may want to just stick with my friends next week or will continue to explore, who knows..

Oh no:(Its not good to feel this way.But to answer your question,it's very,very rare that i go beyond my friends list for discussions.I have friends,so this way i really do not have a reason for looking for other discussions to answer to and my friends mean alot to me and i also am scared of getting stepped on if i did take the chance and answer to another persons discussion other than on my friends list. Peanutjar:)

I don't think you are being silly at all. After what you went through I think maybe for now it is better to play it safe. I respond to discussions outside my friends list if I find the discussions interesting, but I always tread lightly in my responses.

You know what? You do what you have to do, do what feels right. I don't blame you at all. I don't know what all happened as I wasn't here when it happened and returned to find all of your friends putting up a stink to get you back. It clearly worked and that's a good thing. You find out real fast who your real friends are. Take care.

I mainly respond to friends first and then if I still have time, will go see what looks interesting. You have good reason to be paranoid! I'm glad to see you are back even if it took me awhile to notice!! I have only been checking in a few minutes a day here lately with work. Welcome back!

I reply to my friends discussions but I also reply to other ones too. Sometimes I just go under new discussions and if I see something there that interests me then I'll answer it.

If you feel comfortable only responding to your friends then you do that, you are not being silly after what you went through, I don't blame you at all. This is your comfort zone right now.

I don't have that much time on mylot to go much beyond my friend's list, or my interests.

I guess I'm just a random person. When I log into myLot, I first look at all of the responses I've received for my discussions. I then look to see if I've received any best responses to comment and respond to those key discussions. After that, I see if there are any interesting discussions to respond to because I enjoy finding any and all that interest me. No, I don't stick just to my friends list to respond to discussions because that would limit me only to what they've posted. I would still have an excellent selection, don't get me wrong. I haven't had problems with any of my discussions, posts, comments, or responses, which is why I haven't had to stick to only my friends list. I can understand completely why you've done so, but I how in the future you're able to do as I do and respond to whichever discussions you want without having to be concerned for voicing your opinion. MyLot is an awesome community, but it's also all in what people make of it. Feel free to respond freely to any of my discussions at any time. I love to hear what others have to say. To me, it's all a learning experience. Great discussion! Keep up the good work.