Do your Daughter or Kids take advantage of you?

@marciascott (25564)
United States
January 31, 2008 6:49pm CST
You try to be nice, and It doesn't do any good, My daughter came over last night she was in a bine, she ask me could she borrow a couple of dollars, I said Ok, go to the store and get me some change, I will let you get a few dollars I need toliet paper go get some for me, I was going to let her get a couple of bucks, she come back with toliet paper, give me my change S1.05 now was was taking advantage, I gave her a $10.00 bill, so that's why I say kids will take advantage, How about your Children, they all do it. LOL. Ok, I will be back.
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• United States
1 Feb 08
that would have sent me over the edge. I find that my daughter is more spoiled than taking advantage. Like I gave her an extra $5.00 for taking out the trash without being told to. She say $10.00 mommie. Then while still adding up her allowance I ave her another $5.00 for not having to be told to wash the dishes. She again tried to get $10.00 so I just gave her $45.00 and nothing more.
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes she is definely taking advantage, We are really soft for our kids. She is an Adult though, she is still my Child.
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@ESKARENA1 (18306)
1 Feb 08
hahaha that is called taking the initiative blessed be
• United States
1 Feb 08
I don't know if the term "take advantage of you" is correct. They are, however, willing to "Test" your boundries. From the time they were born the way they learn is by testing boundries. Think about it...You say "Don't touch the stove" Then you look away and what do they do? The start to reach for the stove, all the while looking back at you to see if you are watching and what you will do. They are testing their boundries. As they grow older they begin to push more as their intelect and logic increases so do their techniques. It's all the same. They want to know "Where do I stop and you begin." "What can I do and what is REALLY off limits." Embrace the opportunity to set down solid boundries. It is a great learning experience that will last them a lifetime.
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
My daughter is 34 yrs, old, but it doesn't matter, Kids will be kids no matter what age. even if they are Adults they do try to play on you some times. and we just let them have there way.
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• United States
1 Feb 08
OK...YEAH that may make a difference. LOL!!!ROF!!! She played you! :)
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
LOL LOL LOL Now my daughter just called me and ask me to keep both of her Twins Boys, I told her, no just one, they are 18 months, old and into everything. Nope I an't keep them both they will be into everything, can youimage a 53 year old woman trying to run and catch both of those little stinkers LOL. No way hose'
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@Polly1 (12652)
• United States
1 Feb 08
They are all brats and they think we were put on this earth to take care of them.
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes Vicky but they are our Babies I don't care how old they get.
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes Vicky but they are our Babies I don't care how old they get.
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@stephcjh (32388)
• United States
1 Feb 08
My daughter does that to me sometimes. she will ask me for something and I do it for her and then she talks to me like a dog right afterwards. She doesn't do it very often any more though. She never keeps my money though or spends the extra.
@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
I was ready to go back to the store, I ask her where is the reciept? It was so cold I didn't want to go back to the store, last night. She is an Adult.
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@stephcjh (32388)
• United States
1 Feb 08
I would have been so mad too. she should have got the toilet paper, and kept her couple of dollars and brought you the rest back. I know how hard it is to keep track of our money and we have to spend it wisely and not just hand it out and blow it. I would have been mad also.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Sometimes ..especially my youngest..That has been the way of parents and their children from the beginning of time..It only happens because we allow it out of love.. xoxoxoxoxo
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes Raydene it is all out of Love.
@izathewzia (5145)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
My kids are always nice to me even I'm not with them. lol Because I am able to built in them the love and respect for me as their mother. Even at the young age, they already values me. And I am so proud of it.
@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
That is real good, you all have a good relationship.
@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
That is real good, you all have a good relationship.
@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
1 Feb 08
My girls have never tried to take advantage of me, or anyone else. Even when they were little they didn't try 'stuff.' I am so blessed with good kids:-) That's too bad, hopefully your daughter will change as she grows older. She's lucky having a wonderful Mother like you, it may take a while, but I'm sure she'll eventually figure it out.
@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Thanks Joy, I have done so much for her, but she is my only daughter. she has did some things I won't even mention but she is still my daughter.
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@JoyfulOne (6243)
• United States
1 Feb 08
And that's one of the reasons why you are a wonderful mother, you love her unconditionally. You love her unconditionally while you still might not like some of the things she does.
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@naty1941 (2337)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Most kids do not take advantage of the kindness of their parents but the ones that do have to be informed of the reality of the matter. So speak up and make sure your daughter knows that she cannot take advantage of you.
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
I guess I have a soft heart! I say that I won't but do it anyway.
@pheebsy (21)
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
How old is your daughter may i ask? Yea children really go through a phase wherein they wouldn't really care whether they follow you or not. Let us take this issue from different factors: One, she might have been tolerated or maybe not reprimanded properly about money issues and how reality bites out of money..Two, it's her environment that is beyond our control..she takes that action as a necessity to savor her "needs" which are really wants by the way. Well as you put it..all children do it, but they can grow out of it. All that needs to be done is a constant gentle reminder from a mother who understands. By the way, i should know..i have a five year old who takes advantage wit my jewelries, as young as she is, she quite tastes vanity.Oh well, we bore them, in a nutshell, it was us who gave the opportunity =) Good luck to that!
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@marciascott (25564)
• United States
1 Feb 08
It doesn't matter how old she is she is stil my child, she is an Adult.
@ESKARENA1 (18306)
1 Feb 08
lol i am afraid its the lot of a parent. I have two and i feel ripped off on a regular basis but its done with i smile, how can i object? blessed be
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• India
1 Feb 08
Oh yes, all the time. My only child is forever twisting me around his little finger and cant say that I don’t enjoy it either. I have not yet started sending him to the shops so don’t know about that somehow he gets everything he wants from me so smoothly that sometimes I really wonder if its actually me or the mother inside me that is being taken for a ride lol!
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• Australia
10 Feb 08
Thankfully, my kids are still way too young for those sorts of games, but they do try to get away with other things, like taking non soft toys to bed.
@musicman6 (2333)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes, my kids do it also, but they already know me, they know that I let them do it, and they know when I don't approve of it, I definitely will let them know! I love my kids, and all of them have turned out real good, they give me the same respect that I treated them with, and we have a good relationship!