Clean your room or else!!!

okay get the bleach.

take EVERYTHING out of it for a week! clothes, toys, everything! then after a week, give her one thing back a day and make her put it away with it everytime she plays or wears it! She will get the idea i bet! lol. that' my gameplan... i just hope i dont have too many toys for her by then!! lol.

LOL If I had the answer to that one sweets I would be a lot less stressed and probably very, very rich! lol I take it she is a teenager? I have a teenage boy and a 6 year old girl and boy I am I dreading my daughter reaching her teenage years! lol I think a lot of it is that they think we are old and old fashioned to boot - and that old age makes us expect them to do things that are stupid! I'll tell you how I stopped my son putting clean clothes back in the laundry as he couldn't be bothered putting them away shall I? Easy he got an extra household chore every time he did it! Eventually he ended up doing his own ironing too - I roped my ex hubby in and he taught him how to iron shirts etc - ever since he has put his clothes away and not left them all over the place! Good Luck xxx

Let me know if you see any suggestions that work! I'm going through the same exact thing and it's driving me crazy especially since I have such limited time it seems like- nowadays. I'll be keeping my out on this one for sure...

Take her computer, her stereo, IPOD, Cell phone, TV ...and other favorite toys out of her room, and make her stay in there with nothing until she cleans it up. Then start giving her things back to her as she proves that she can keep her room clean over time...if she fails to do it...keep her things away from her. Make her do her own laundry and stuff like that when she complains, and do not let her play soccer or go to the movies or anything else until she does better at keeping her room clean and organized...may sound tough, but it works...that is what I had to do with my kid...

Give her lesson and make her responsible for washing and putting away her own clothes. No cooperation~No Soccer; case closed.

bella I have three children they are now ages 8,9, and 11. When my oldest was 6 years old, I thought her how to do her own laundry. Matter of fact, we have a list of different things, that they have to help with at different ages. All three of my children, if they want clean clothes, has to wash said clothes themselves. They all take turns doing the dishes.(They are spoiled, we have a dishwasher.)They take care of the cat. Feed, water and clean her litter each day. I also homeschool my children, so I feel that teaching them household chores is apart of their schooling. They also each cook. My oldest cooks a little more than the two younger ones, but they all know how to make bread from scratch, eggs, cakes, cookies, mac and cheese, hamburger mac, pizza, and many other things. I think that is where alot parents go wrong, they do everything for their children and when they get older, they don't want to do anything themselves. As toddlers, they want to help out and my advice to anyone with young children is to let them help out. As they get older, even if they don't want to, you know they know how, and they learn that being apart of a family means helping around the house. Being family isn't just a birth right, it means helping the people that live with you, and picking up after yourself so you have more quality time together as a family.. Ok I sound like I am preaching, So sorry for that. Just putting my thoughts out their. Have your child read this and show her, that if these children can have so much respondsbility than you can keep your room clean. Me, I would teach her how to do a load of laundry and then tell her if she wants clean clothes she will have to wash them herself.

LOL! I totally understand where you are coming from. I have been telling my two son's for the past two weeks to clean their room or they were grounded. Today, at my wits end, i went in and cleaned it for them. I threw everything out. LOL! They tried their best to be happy about it asking if they could help and i just told them to start getting trash bags. I had had it and went on a cleaning rampage. I didn't throw out all their toys, but i threw out all the ones they never play with or the ones that were broke. I threw out all the clothes that didn't fit them and once i was done, i told them that if their room ever looked like it did that way again they were grounded for a month. LOl! A little extreme, i know, but i was so frustrated. They had food under their bed and everything. I completely went off. They promised to keep it clean now though if i didn't throw anything else away. ha ha ha! we'll see. good luck to you and your daughter cleaning her room. I know how frustrating it can be. just hang in there. God bless

After I've told my girls a couple of times I always give them this final ultimatum.. Either you clean it or I will! This always gets them moving because they know if I go in there I'm more than likely going to find things they don't want me to find and I'll most definately throw out everything thats not important to ME. They also know they're going to have to deal with my ranting the whole time I do it. Of course mine are teenagers so the privacy issue is what gets them moving pretty quick. This doesn't work on my son though because he doesn't feel he's got anything to hide and he's developed a pretty convenient hearing loss when it comes to my ranting, so for him its no hockey until its done. Good luck.

just finished cleaning my room...am so tired doing it...but i am thankful some of my classmates help me to did it...

I have to ask, since I don't know, how old is your daughter? I have an 8 year old daughter and a 6 year old son. My kids have had issues getting dirty clothes in the laundry hamper as well as getting clean ones put away. First I have to say, the punishment should fit the crime. Grounding kids from doing things that have no relation to the crime is only going to cause resentment in them and make them less likely to do things that you want them to do...I have found this out the hard way... For clothing, depending on the age of the child, I have a hamper for each of them and a laundry basket for clean clothes for each of them. Their clothes go in the their dirty clothes hamper and they get put next to the washer for me to do a load when it is full. If this doesn't happen, they don't have clean clothes and they must wear something dirty (this is the punishment for the crime.) Once their clothes have been washed and dried they get put into the laundry basket. I fold the clothes that are to go into the dressers and lay the clothing that is to be hung on the top of the basket. Each basket goes into the bedroom and they are told to put them away before the day is done on their own. If it is not done that night before they get ready for story time, they must do it with my standing them watching them. If they want a story they have to have it done, or the story time gets cut into, and sometimes not at all. After about three weeks of stories not being read when clothes had to be put away, they got the message that they had to get it done before bed. Now after they do their homework they put their clothes away before they do anything else and I no longer have to ask. The thing I found was that I just had to stop doing it for them. The only thing I do is wash and dry and fold into the baskets...and as they get older they will take over different steps. At this point now, they both match up their own socks, I no longer do this, and they hang their own clothes up. My daughter has only once gone without putting her clothes in it's hamper. She had to wear dirty clothes to school one day and that was it for her, she never did it again. My son has never had this problem...so apparently the early you put this into place the better. Good luck.

I would let her do whatever she wanted to do in her room then it will be her responsibilty that her room is messy and sooner or later she will clean it up and also make her do her own laundry because she should has some responsibilty to have clean clothes also I remember when I was a little kid my mom didn't want to wash my clothes everytime I told her that my clothes is dirty she would wait like a week just to clean my clothes but then I couldn't take it no more so I decided to tell my mom that she can teach to wash my own clothes and she did now from on to this day I been washing my own clothes. Also I think that grounding your kid doesn't help because I bet your kid will hate you and won't listen to you when your older my advice is to give her responsibility for her actions.

You should find something that she really likes, and take it from her. I also agree with the making her wash the clothes. Tell, he rif she does not wash her clothes, she will not have any clean clothes to wear.

Well after two years of battle of the wills with my obviously "unclean" 16 yr old daughter, I have decided to close the door to her room every time I walk by. I no longer go in and look for dirty clothes etc. If it gets washed she washes it! Man I feel so liberated now! Honestly, I could care less and I am a perfectionist by nature, but just learned to pick my battles and that is not one I have time for!

I have 4 children...3 are grown so i've been doing this for a while. The thing with kids rooms is that it is THIER space. My first daughter....I hounded her to make her bed...clean her room...etc. I even went so far as to put all her belongings in the middle of her room one time and have her sort thru them...couldn't leave her room till it was done. it did work but only for a time. As time wore on, I found that I really didn't care about their rooms and especially if they didn't. I could after all just close the door. I taught them to do their own laundry, early on and so that was not an issue for me. They did have chores in other areas which I did put my foot down on and there were certain behaviors that were not acceptable but as far as there rooms...i concluded that if they were ok with it...I really did not care. I Keep the rest of my house neat and clean and so they have a good example. I found that by not nagging...sooner or later...they will tidy up on their own.

This was an ongoing battle with my now-grown boys!! They were fairly clean when they were growing up but when the eldest hit 14 he became a real slob. After weeks of cajoling, bribing and then demanding, I cleaned his room one weekend while he stayed overnight with a friend--yes, it took 1 1/2 days!! Then I gave him a bill for it. He didn't have any money, of course, so he had to work it off. He's still a slob but while he was at home, there was a path from the door to the bed and the desk and he did his own laundry. I got a lot of work out of him every other month when he asked me to clean his room and he paid for it with chores like digging flowerbeds, scrubbing floors and yard work. His room never got that bad again. Hope this helps! Remember, make the consequences fit the actions.

If she doesn't clean her room, she will never have clean clothes to wear. Tell her that is her responsibility to arrange the things of herself. Furthermore, if she is old enough she should help with some housework. Don't be so kind. Mothers should be cool some times.