I'm So Depressed

It seems that you've had a lot of time to get yourself good and depressed, K. So, in turn, it's not going to be an instant fix, no matter what. But this isolating you're doing is dangerous, K. The longer you wait to open that door, the harder it is to do it. I'm so glad to hear that you're going out today to do some shopping for yourself. And listen, don't berate yourself for the size pants you're going to end up buying. It's not the number that counts, it's how you feel in them. Be sure to try them on with the shoes you're going to wear,and I certainly hope you wear makeup and make yourself as pretty as you can, because trying on clothing when you feel you look like shite can be demoralizing. I'm sure that by now, you've already been and come home again, and I'm hoping that you found something you like and that works for you. Psyche up for Monday, darlin, start now. Plan out your outfit down to the earrings and the color lipstick you're going to wear. Try the outfit on beforehand, too, and look at yourself in the mirror. Test out your introduction, right there in your mirror, too, and I mean this. Talk to your reflection like you're planning on talking to your prospective employer. Imagine all kinds on scenarios and act them out. This will help you be able to field whatever comes up in this interview. It might sound silly, but it's gonna help, K, I swear. I'm glad to read that you did your dishes, I'm sure that has helped too. Any step is a positive step. Baby steps are fine too - they are steps in the right direction, at least. This isn't going to be easy, but you can do it. You know what you are, you know what you can do and you know that you can wow them. So do it. Like only you can. I'll be looking for your story about how you aced this interview. Don't make me come looking for you! :)

I too wanted to share that you are not alone (as i sit here on a saturday,in my sweats)!!! I am actually in a somewhat similar situation, after being seperated and moving out, I knew I needed to find a job quickly. Day after day went by and I could not motivate myself to do what I needed to do in order to aggresively search. I fell deep into a rut of depression. Something snapped in me a few weeks ago though as I realized I have got to do this! I dont have a choice. I must say it was very hard, but with each day it is becoming easier. Going back to work and rejoining the world is a wonderful thing! I pray you will be back to yourself in short order! Big Hugs~Cheri

Oh I do widh you all the best, I know how it is to feel so down, but it only takes a small thing in life to lift you back up again, you know for me just to re-arrange my rooms and put plants around lifted me up a little, it actually took the passing of one of my best friends to wake me up to how little time we have and we should not waste it, think of yourself as number one, do what makes you happy, we all have our own journey to travel and we might as well enjoy the ride...cheer up my friend, we are all here for you and we will all wish you well...

Well done kb - you have made one of the biggest steps sweety - you have realised you have a problem! It sounds to me very like you are depressed and you sound as though you are now ready to fight the grip it has on you! Not all people who are depressed need medication and sometimes taking certain steps yourself will help, taking exercise, making an effort to keep appts or meet friends , giving yourself realistic goals can all help. I have battled against clinical depression for over 14 years, I have periods where I am well and periods where I hit rock bottom but getting to know yourself and the signs that you are getting ill is one of the best ways to deal with it! Of course I will keep you in my prayers - if you ever need to talk give out a shout and I will give you my email - there are many who understand what you are going through - you are not alone sweety! Big hugs xxxxx

Things will turn around. You are in my prayers and I wish you the best of luck with everything. I know how you feel. My husband and I are both unemployed cause our job went to Mexico. We've been trying to work from home, but we keep finding all the scams. My father passed away two weeks ago and I'm feeling horrible cause I wasn't with him. Anyway, enough of my whining. You have my support. There is strength in numbers, we need all the support we can get. Keep us posted. :)

Hi there Katherine, I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling so, been there done that. I am here to tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have had those times of struggling too. One thing I try hard to do and at times it is hard, is keep my space tidy. My mom told me that. She said it is hard to get started but once your space is clean just the act of doing it can lift your spirits.It works , I literaly force myself sometimes. But I feel so much better when it is done, and if often moves me on to other things. You and I both know it is only us who can get us moving. It is in the action that we take. I am glad you found this place to help you move forward. I have complete faith Katherine, you will find a job that suites you, and excelle at it. Just keep pushing foward G/F. and don't be to hard on yourself. *hugs* and know this too shall pass*smiles*

I have faith in you! I know you can land this job if let them see your sparkling personality and lively wit at the interview. They will be lucky to have you. I bet, after a few months there they will give you a big promotion and a fat raise. By this time next year, you will be running the place! My thoughts and best wishes always are and forever will be with you!

I applaud your willingness and courage to state your issues on myLot and use the wonderful support system here. Just putting your feelings in writing and seeing them on 'paper' is often cathartic. I would like to offer one tiny suggestion, do one nice thing for yourself each day. By nice thing, I mean a 'positive' choice. Each time you do a positive thing, you will feel so much more confident and in control. Example: this morning I CHOSE to take a 10 minute walk. After doing so, I felt so good...like I had done something good for my body. Yesterday, I chose a healthy drink midafternoon...a glass of water with lemon rather than my mid-afternoon coffee. I felt so good doing that positive thing for my body. If you do these things each day...it really helps with the feeling of being in control!

I feel the same way most of the time nowadays... although i have a job that is close to my apartment and the time is flexible... i feel that i am not doing what i am suppose to do... i want to find another job but that would mean lesser time for my baby and more time for travelling... What keeps me going is the thought that my priority right now is my family... career is only a second option... and that when my baby is old enough... i can get apply to a job and finally have a career again... but then... i want to get pregnant again.... so i think i will take me a long while to return to the professional world again...

I will definitely be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. And I hope all goes well with the interview Monday so you can start to feel like a new person. Trust me, I've been there done that as far as being that depressed goes so I know exactly how you're feeling.

I'm wishing you good luck at your interview, I'll pray you get the job. I know how life can get you down sometimes and you need that first little break to start lifting yourself back up. Also, I know you said that you were feeling down to the point where you don't even want to get dressed or brush your hair, but my advice would be to force yourself to a day or at least a few hours in which you pamper yourself. Take a nice bubble bath or whatever you prefer, maybe paint your nails, etc. I know it might take a little more effort than you feel like putting out, but I find that when I'm really down like that, that sort of thing really helps me to feel a bit better. It's kind of hard to get started to do that when you're feeling so down, I know, but once you get into it, it helps. In any case, I hope things start picking up for you and all. I'll be thinking about you. Take care

I will definitely keep you in my thoughts kbourgerie. It must be boring not working. You don't feel like your contributing to anything. I give thanks everyday that I work because you never know what is going to happen. I know people who haven't worked in years and I am like, how can you not work? I am check to check, but i would still rather work. Don't get depressed because that is just going to make your situation all the worse. Our heavenly father knows your situation, just depend on Him because He knows all of our needs. Is the sun out where you are? If so, open the curtains and let the sun in, turn on some uplifting music and try to think positive for your interview tomorrow ok. I wish you the best and will pray for you as well. :)

Of course and I am genuinely sorry to read that you are feeling so low. I have no doubt that you will get your self respect back. I am not going to try to advise you. Just that I'm thinking of you. Take very great care and good luck on Monday.

well, i can't give much advice to you but to wish you all the best. for me, whenever i feel depressed, i try not to think about it. yes you can say i'm running away. but when running away, for a while it makes me relaxed about other things, then when sober, i knock myself and push myself back up. don't stress too much. you'll have grey hairs sooner. hehe but, i do hope that you'll feel better whether you get a job or not. well, if you don't want to go out to work, then might as well do freelancing then. but feel better soon. like you said, there are many who support you and give you advice and just listen to your frustrations. so we'll also be really happy when you are your cheerful self again. take care

Statistically you are more likely to be hired if you are employed. My theory is that being unemployed lowers your self confidence and you don't look as good in an interview. Anyway, whether it is paid work or volunteer work you need to be working every day. Volunteer for a non-profit a few hours a day and job hunt the rest of the day. You've got to kick yourself out of the house and get going. The job market isn't going to get any better while your wait for a job to come to you. I hate job hunting, so I know how you feel. But you just have to do something. Good luck to you!

I will certainly keep you in thoughts and prayers, but the little price tag on that is that I get to nag a bit. So please allow me to just remind you that a big part of self-esteem is physiological in the sense that what we are is what we eat and it is very easy for people who have good reason, as you do, to feel a bit down to seek out comfort foods and choose what is expedient over what is nutritious. Here is a very good link that may help you even more than moral support: http://www.healthy.net/scr/article.asp?Id=2805 Good luck with your interview and remember that sometimes we have to let bad things go to make room for good things. In the circle of life there is nowhere to go from down except UP again. :-)

I hope you get the job!! Even if the pay isn't so great, just being out and with other people will be a boost to your ego. It is really hard being a single parent. I was out of work for a short time when my girls were real young. I had to resort to welfare and my ego which was already pretty down went even lower. I felt like such a loser. I finally got a job...not a great one and we did struggle but it made me feel so much better about myself.hang in there! It is so tough but if I did it...you surely can. you aren't alone. And you got your son!! Thats a step forward and incentive right there! keep us posted!

I understand what you are going through. The thing to remember is your children need you. Do what you can for them and everything else will come to you thereafter. Good luck. You are in my thoughts and always remember you can vent on here it helps to get things out.

i can't give you of too many opinion,you shouldn't give up,should have an oneself of target,my wish you.

Thanks for sharing your experience.Can totally relate as I have been doing alot of what you're describing. In fact, some days I won't even leave the bed. Have gained weight and don't feel motivated to do very much. It is nice to know that I'm not the only one out there feeling this way. Hopefully, I'll snap out of it soon. I wish you all the best. ingridb7