Get off the computer!!!!!!!

United States
March 6, 2008 9:35pm CST
I don't know how many hours I spend in a day on the computer, but I can tell you its ALOT! My boyfriend always gets his feelings hurt, because he doesn't think I spend enough time away from the computer and with him. He's more than likely right, but I am so addicted I can't help myself. Do the hours you spend on the computer ever interfere with your relationships?
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
7 Mar 08
Yes my husband says he is a computer widower,after I get home from work the first thing I do is log on then I spend 2-3hrs. before doing anything else after getting household things done for the day I am right back on here sometime until midnight knowing I get up at 430am but I get so invovled with somethings I just don't get off.Have a great Day!
• United States
8 Mar 08
If you are anything like me, you just can't help yourself. You have to check your email to make sure you haven't missed anything important and then its straight to mylot.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
8 Mar 08
It's not always straight to mylot, I am sorry lol, I do sometime come to mylot first but not always. I sure hope your having a great night! Take care!
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
7 Mar 08
Me and my ex husband use to fight over that all the time. That still wasn't a reason why he should have cheated on me though.It was like he would get mad because I was on the computer instead of around him.
• United States
8 Mar 08
No matter how long you are on the computer, its no reason to cheat.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Mar 08
I agree it was more then just being on the computer. He says he couldn't deal with me having multiple sclrosis. But he knew that I had it before we married.
@subha12 (18454)
• India
7 Mar 08
I am not into any relationship so it seems it is not affecting me. But i guess in every possible case staying lot at computer can ruin your relationship. try to find a balance between the two.
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• United States
8 Mar 08
When you get into a relationship you will find that it is easier said than done.
• China
7 Mar 08
Hello! I have the same experience with you!My girlfriend complains me not to spend enough time with her.However,I want to say,computer has become the part of our life as the technology developed.Nobody has the right to refuse it.We have no choice.We have to use computer in our daily life.I think your boyfriend should understand you!
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• United States
8 Mar 08
He'd be on it longer if he could. Its just that he's at work all day and I'm not. When he gets home though, or on the weekend he spends plenty of time on it and then justifies it because I'm on during the week.
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• Indonesia
7 Mar 08
LOL. I also have spent too much time on computer. even when I'm off the work and the whole family just question about what I have been doing all the days in front of computer. I am so addicted too and just can't help myself working on some posts again here and out there and some other paying programs and also work on my blog. and yes, spending the hours on computer has made me forgetting the hang outs with friends. I rarely ask them out, but they are the ones who usually contact me. *grinning*, perhaps I've been over in spending times on computer. thanks for reminding me through this discussion. :P
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• United States
8 Mar 08
You are welcome, but I understand how hard it is to tear yourself away.
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@x7heavens (365)
• Singapore
7 Mar 08
Definitely so, it was not so bad before. But after signing up with a few websites, including MyLot, I cant seem to break away from the laptop. I have to reason with my children cause they also need to do some work in it. My husband now complains that I do not attend to him when he comes back from work. I dont know what to do. Maybe I could buy another computer and broadband line for my children. As for my husband, I think I need to force myself to shut down the laptop whenever he knocks the door.
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• United States
8 Mar 08
I know the feeling. I get hassled about it all the time. I wonder how many divorces the internet is causing.
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
7 Mar 08
i try to balance my time between my hubby and computer... and so far i am managing quite well... my hubby never complains... i am the one who actually complain that he spends too much time on the computer... and computer time never really interfere into our relationships...
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• United States
8 Mar 08
Thats good because as I just said to someone else, its hard to keep that kind of balance.
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
No, not really, I do everything else that needs to be done and my cellphone is here with me all the time so any time somebody wants to communicate with me, I'll be just within a text or a dial away. Besides, I only go online for about 2 hours in the day, and 2 hours again at night.
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• United States
8 Mar 08
Sounds like you are one of the very few that is able to keep things in perspective.
@Hatley (164777)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Mar 08
you reminded me of when I decided to go back to college andget my BA at age fifty and of course I had a lot of home work to do as I majored in English.I had to do a zillion papers and one night when I was frantically trying to finish typing up a paper due the next morning my husband was fuming at me for not paying enough attention to him.I was flabbergasted as he had supported my going back to college and he knew I would graduate in just a few months. I guess maybe he did fall by the wayside a bit but it was not intentional at age fifty it was a tad harder to do all the things that I had to do to graduate than it would have been at age twenty or even thirty when I was busy with two toddlers. but now its sort of funny I am on my computer and my son is on his and the house is quiet and sometimes when something goes amiss then I have to ask my son for help and sometimes its like prying up an ironbar to get him to respond to my tap on the door. and other times I have my headphones on listening to music and aftertapping on my door. he opens it to tell mewhat he wants so I guess our relationship is not interfered with as we are both internet junkies.
• United States
8 Mar 08
Congratulations on getting your BA. Many people would have thought it too difficult to go back to school after children, but I say its never too late and you are proof of that.
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
Although not relationships, my addiction to the computer had actually interfere with my life. I'd rather sit all day, looking at the computer rather than going out to shop or have fun with some of my friends.
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• United States
7 Mar 08
Sad, but I'm the same way.
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@KKKBsmom (1093)
• United States
8 Mar 08
YES.. you are addicted... and so am I... that is why it is 12:30am... I wasn't on the past two days... but my inbox is FULL of mylot discussions... I have to clean it out.. lol so... I am having fun...with mylot!!!
@lala766 (240)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I try to get all of my internet time during the day while my husband is at work. He hates it when he comes home and I am just sitting at the computer lol. Oh well at least it keeps me busy during the day.
• United States
7 Mar 08
My husband does the same thing but i learn to just deal with it.
@ellie333 (21029)
7 Mar 08
No I am on my own so I can spend as much time as I like, or should I say I could until my daughter moved back last week, but I have resolved that one by ordering a laptop for her and wi-fi. Must admit though I do spend more time than I should on here sometimes. Ellie :D
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
7 Mar 08
It did initially when we only had one laptop. Now that we have two it's not a problem. My husband actually works in the computer industry and then comes home and plays games on the computer the whole night. I've asked him aren't you sick of working on the computer at work then at home, he said no because at home its all fun and games LOL fair enough. Weekends are our family time though so we always make sure we are doing something both days :)
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 08
That's another reason why I love being single, is that I don't have to please anyone, no one is going to say anything if I spend the whole day on the computer! The beauty of freedom! Actually I have been trying to spend less time on the internet of late to give my eyes a rest and to do more walking, more reading and do other things because it was starting to dominate my life and I would spend all the time on the computer, now I have restricted my time, but it's because I want to no one else telling me I should. I think your boyfriend does have a point my friend, time should be evenly balanced you don't want to lose him.
@mrpippo (756)
• United States
7 Mar 08
i'm not in a relationship at the moment but it does mess up my day sometimes because i keep putting off things i need to do
• China
7 Mar 08
mostly i spent my all days on the computer,as a matter of fact ,i hate this,i prefer spending my time on shopping or touring to do that,but that is my job,i need it to own money,if you have other choise ,my advice is to put your heart on your family or your other interests,because it is bad enough with your relationship ,your beauty even your health
@p1kef1sh (45642)
7 Mar 08
Not exactly. But I do feel that when my wife gets home from work that it is selfish of me, who can, and has accessed the computer all day long not to sit with her and find out how her day's been. During the evening she tends to unwind by watching the TV. I'm not a huge TV watcher so I tend to come and play on here. I am in a separate room but we have glass interconnecting doors so we can mostly see one another. Most evenings we will shout to each other or sit in our respective seat and do silly things like sticking our tongues out etc. If she wants to look something up I always get out of the way for her or do it for her and if she wants to come on, I finish up what I am doing, or put it into a separate window and pick up when she's finished. My worst habit though is at bedtime. She'll say she's going up, I reply that I'll follow her in 10 minutes and 2 hours later I'm still here. When I do go, she's snoring away! No wonder we only have one child.
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
Well, it has actually affected my time with my wife and son. And somehow I feel guilty. That is why as much as possible I try not to get tempted to much since I am losing my quality time for them. It think its just a matter of control and discipline.