shy about being examined by a male doctor.

@winterose (39916)
Canada
March 11, 2008 9:14am CST
I have never been shy to go to my gyn, who is a male, he has known me since I was 20 years old. But last year I was taking by surprise, I had to go for a heart test and the technician was a young man, I had to take my bra off, now I was 52 years old, and I felt so uncomfortable, and this is the first time in my life. I think if he had of been my age I would not have felt that way? are you uncomfortable being examined by a male? or men are you uncomfortable being examined by a female?
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@stephcjh (32388)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I am very uncomfortable being examined by a male or a female. I don't want anyone else to look at my body or toucvh it for that matter. I was mainly concerned with a male doctor examining me, but now that I have aged and my body has changed since giving birth to my daughter and gaining a little bit of weight, I don't like females looking at my body either.
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@rinaaus (1203)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
i have to say yes at the first time, but not for the next time with the same doctor. During my pregnancy I had to see doctor every month. As you know what the doctor do when you are pregnant. The first time I was so shy even my husband was on my side and the doctor is my husband's friend as well. I was so uncomfortable. However, when I saw my baby,I forgot everything. And the next appointment less and less shy, in fact i have to accept the truth even shy or not i have to do so i choose do with no shy
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@Ldyjarhead (10162)
• United States
11 Mar 08
It's never bothered me. I was in the Marine Corps for more than 21 years and you don't get to pick who you get for a doctor or dentist, and you rarely see the same one a second time. Actually, by the time you get done with boot camp (living in close quarters with 40-50 other recruits) you have very little modesty left anyway. :)
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Well Sweets Good question I don't know how I feel about it I do dislike the bother of an exam I don't treasure the idea of the gyn about as much as the dentist It's not the being naked thing I guess I don't like people poking around my body lol xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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@rockvixen (896)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Well, I'd say yes, but see all my exams were done by women, this time I have to change doctors to go to a new gyn in my area, and the doctor is male. They do have a female but the main one who does the exam is male. My friends say not to worry ahout it, but I just feel uncomfortable and a bit uneasy about it. But I gather if the doctor is doing his job then fine, if something were to happen that crosses that line, then I'd really worry.
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• United States
11 Mar 08
Thankfully I've never had to be examined by a male, at least anytimes that I remember. But I think I would be very shy about it. And I don't blame you one bit! But to try and give you some comfort...this is his job. He's done it before and he is a professional. It's what he does for a living, and he may or may not know how uncomfortable you are, but he won't try to make you any more uncomfortable. Anyways, wouldn't you be allowed to request that you be seen by a female? Or does your hospital not do that for you?
@winterose (39916)
• Canada
11 Mar 08
when you go for the appointment you take who is on duty as I said these are technicians, who do the exams not a doctor
@mtdewgurl74 (18124)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Oh yeah I would rather get my hairs on ly body plucked out one by one then have to let a male doctor examine me anywhere on my body.I just hate it. Once I was rushed to the ER for abnormal hemorraging after being bitten by something I had a bad allergic reaction to and it was a male attending doctor I asked for a female one just to be told their was none. I was horrified.But I was hemmorraging and didn't know why so he had to check me and I swear I clamped my legs so tightly together he couldn't get them open I begged to find someone else but he got short with me and told me to grow up and I did say something stupid I said to him but you'll go blind. The nurses snickered thought it was funny and for that he got rough with me and even hurt me when examining me after I finally gave in. When I got their to the ER I was in terrible pain and was throwing up and they gave me some pain medication stronger then I have ever had before and shot me up with two other medications and I will say I was flying a little that day and that is what I blame the silliness on. My sister in law said I was saying some silly things and grinning like I ate the cannary. But seriously the next exame I got I made sure it was a woman gynecologist. And a woman Docter since then. I think if we feel uncomfortable then we shouldn't have to do it.
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@comfort55 (1574)
• India
12 Mar 08
Thank God here percentage of male gyn is very small.. Only in Army I have heard there are male gyn otherwise you'll hardly find any male gyn in civil. Thats a good part so no question of feeling shy for women specially.
@reejane (295)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
I will be uncomfortable as well since I'm used to having a female doctor do the checkup/s on me. I'm not sure how will I handle a male OB-GYNE...hehehe.
@34momma (13920)
• United States
12 Mar 08
for me, i rather have a male doctor. to me they are more gentle then woman. i have only had a male gyn doctor. i had a female once when i was pregnant with my oldest son, and she was so rough and to me uncaring. now don't get me wrong i think women make great doctors, but for me I rather have a male doctor
@jewel76 (2306)
• Canada
11 Mar 08
I have always been uncomfortable being examined by a male, from when my mom used to take me and my brother to this male pediatrician. I couldn't stand it! Funny though, my family doctor is now a man, but i had no choide, no other doctor accepts new patients anymore these days! But my obgyn HAD to be a woman..no way i was gonna have a male obgyn!! But lucky me, my ob wasn't on duty the night i gave birth, and i got stuck with one of two male residents!! Me and my luck LOL But at that point, i couldn't care less who was in the room, i just wanted to push!!
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@queenofarms (1665)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I don't like being examined by either one....But if I have to choose I'd perfer a male doctor....A woman just makes me nervous...I have found that male doctors are more gentle than a female doctors...
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@moneyandgc (3439)
• United States
11 Mar 08
It all depends on the day and how comfortable I am with the person, as in first impression. My ob/gyn's have all been mostly male and I have never been uncomfortable. Funny thing is, I am more uncomfortable taking my shirt off than my pants. Self-esteem issues I guess. Maybe I am weird.
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• Australia
11 Mar 08
Heck yeah, I always opt for a female doctor. I'm sorry but that was meant for my husband's eyes alone and I don't want to hear none of this, "Well, it's nothing to them, they are so used to seeing it". I'm sorry but they are still men and one has to ask oneself why men become GYNs in the first place. Sure, perhaps they want to deliver a baby but don't tell me that seeing naked women's parts for free and get a free touch doesn't sway them just a bit. I'm not buying it LOL....
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
11 Mar 08
The doctor who was following me during my pregancy was a male. At first I thought I would be shy the first time he would have to examined me, but I wasnt. I felt so comfortable with him. I discoverd that I wasnt that shy about my body :)
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@SHAMRACK (8350)
• India
11 Mar 08
Dear Winterose, I had only few times examined by a female doctor that too I hope when I was a child. Later I prefer to opt a male doctor so that I could easily communicate what ever inner feelings I have without any hesitation as I may not be shy to face a female doctor and what if the doctor is bit shy to examine freely. Hence I opt for male doctors moreover for my own personal needs I hardly had went to doctors after my childhood days.
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11 Mar 08
The doctor that I see at my clinic is a woman. There are two men there but I will not see them. There's just some things that I will not talk about with a guy. I certainly wouldn't let a male gyno come anywhere near me. Last year the clinic had a new doctor, a young male, complete with pimples. He must have been fresh out of school. I did get stuck with seeing him that one time and the only answer that I got was, "you are of that age". I don't care how old or young the male doctor is, I just don't want to see them.
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@peedielyn (1211)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Most of my doctors are female. I have no problem with whatever, male or female. It makes me no difference. I do, however, see dr.s who have their spouses in the same office. My gyn is female and sometimes her hubby has to do the job, I think they are equal and don't make me feel unccomfortable. On the other hand, my dentist and his wife work together. When I first started seeing them, I was shocked by how rough she is. I don't make issues about peoples weight but this woman had to be every bit of 350 and only 5'2". She sat on my chair straddling my chest while I was leaned back. She took the metal thingy and propped open my mouth and started digging. It was the scariest thing ihave ever seen. I started seeing her husband for my cleanings after that. He made me feel really comfortable! I have no problem with who sees me, and I can usually tell by the handshake and the "listening factor".
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• United States
11 Mar 08
I uncomfortable being seen by men and women. I just don't like going to any doctor and having to remove clothing. I guess I am just extremely shy.