I am so Upset

@pinklilly (3446)
Australia
March 12, 2008 12:50am CST
My 5yo son has cut my 3yo daughters hair.. It has taken her 3 years to grow it, and was nice and curly and still a little short. Her hair is very slow growing now she looks funny... It's going to take another 3 years for it to grow back... I am so angry and upset... I don't know what to do....I can't watch them 24/7... I was busy cleaning the floors and thought they were playing as they normally do with their toys... But instead they had to play hair dresser's and cut all her beautiful hair... I can't even look at her without getting upset and as for my son I don't want to see him for what he has done... He should know better... Sorry but I needed to rant... Can anybody shed some light on this situation... Anybody have any stories of their own to share??? Please do... It might make me feel a little better......
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@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
My dear Woman! You are sooo lucky to have two healthy children,and you should be laughing at their antics, instead of feeling bad. I helped to raise 4 good boys and now I have grandchildren. Its difficult to remember them when they were 3 and 5. Get out your camera and take some pictures right away, so when you are 74 you will remember the funny things your adorable children did!
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
16 Mar 08
I know.. I did take some pics. My friend came and fixed it a bit the next day just evened it out.. I still don't like it but hey I geuss that's life and that's what children do - get into mishcef.
@mansha (6301)
• India
14 Mar 08
My aunt's eight year old daughter had plucked out the whole right eyebrow of her six year old sister. She had seen her mom doing that to her customers. Don't be annoyed with your son, he is just a kid and for improving the growth of your duaghter's hair try oiling her hair and then giving her a good head message. If you do it with olive oil her hair will be healthy and shiny and long.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
16 Mar 08
Thank you Mansha, it's ok I'm not angry at him, I was jus6t so dissapointed but It's ok now, I can look back and laugh and they are only kids and they do what they see Adults do...
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@mansha (6301)
• India
17 Mar 08
Very true and I think you will have a story to tell when they grow up.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Mar 08
All kids do this you know if they get hold of scissors then the first thing they will go for is hair or something thats yours! I can understand you being upset, I would be too if it was my little girl but please dont hold it against your son too much, as long as he knows he has done wrong then he will learn. I have 2 stories that concern my friends children, the first was pretty much the same as yours, her daughter was about 3 at the time, and she has proper curly hair and hers took ages to grow, it was just starting to grow a bit and gain some length when her brother who was 4 at the time literally cropped it, she had to have a really short cut on it, she looked like a boy for ages my friend used to call her peter! The second story is worse and happened to someone I knew years ago, her son at the time was 10 and he wanted to shave his own hair, his mum said no wait til your dad gets in. He seemed to accept this and went upstairs, she had 2 girls too who were also upstairs, anyway they were up there playing quite quietly and then after about 45 minutes the girls came downstairs and one was 4 and the other 6 and they said look at our hair mum, and im not kidding you they had bald patches all over their heads where the eldest boy had found the shavers and had tried shaving their hair off! They had long hair too and they just had bits shaved off on there scalps! I sit here now and think about it and laugh but at the time it was really bad she had to have all there hair shaved off because he had just made such a mess. So you see I know its bad but it could have been a lot worse!
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
OMG... I know it could have been a lot worse... my son is the one that needs a haircut not my daughter... Her hair isn't real tight springy curls they are just lovely spring curls but as you say they take ages to grow the longest strand of her hair straightend out was 20cm and that has taken her whole life to get that long, but of course it didn't seem that long because the curls make it look shorter... I know it will grow back but I hope it won't take another 3 years to get to how it was. (it is so slow) she will be at school by then and still have short hair...
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Mar 08
Im sure it will have grown some by then, it does take longer to grow, but it will grow.
@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
. Sorry pink but it's perfectly normal foer kids to do stuff they see in life. My daughter at about 5 had lovely long straight hair and she cut her own fringe...right up short. There was no point rousing on her or being upset because the damage was done. The lesson here for you is that you may not be able to watch them 24/7 but you absloutely must know what they are doing. You cannot leave anything to chance. That's how kids have fatal accidents or lose their hair.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
That's what scares me.. I checked on them before I started cleaning the floor and they were happy playing with their toys away from each other and 10min later when I check again he had decided to cut her hair....
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@MsTickle (24752)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
You must have triggered a devil in me sweety. I cut my own hair the other day...it looks okay too.
@iamsarah (39)
• China
17 Mar 08
Sorry for hearing that! I think your girl is so luck that wasn't hurted. The only thing I can do for you is tell you that ginger can help hair growing fast. You can try it.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
22 Mar 08
Ginger??????????? How by putting in her hair or eating it?????
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
13 Mar 08
This is such a common story with kids. At one point kids will inevitably either cut their own hair or that of another kid. Kids much older than 5 are not immune to this. 2 of my girls cut their own bangs the day before school pics......it was horrible. I understand that you are upset but hopefully you'll be able to soon see the humour in this. My youngest daughter....I thought she'd never have hair. when it did grow in, it grew in wisps. Seems that each time it did start to grow either her dad or older brother would cut it and cut it very badly....oh i'd get so angry! [em]happy[/http://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/happy.gif happyem]
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
16 Mar 08
oh Dear..... I am starting to see the funny side now... Kids and the silly things they do......
@Hatley (154559)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Mar 08
I think almost all of us have something like that happen to us my son started a hair cut on my little girl but I heard her say Rob rob dont no no.I dashed in and stopped him before he had got very far.thank goodness the scissors were really dull.He had already cut the fringe off one end of my favorite towel and I asked him why and he with the logic he would grow up with said it was coming all unraveled. okay. He is now forty nine and cannot believe he did that but he did. also the dolly got a haircut. hooboy!
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
16 Mar 08
ha, cute.... I think cutting hair is a big part of our life and children are just curios, so they try to mimic us... The things kids do- you really do have to look back and laugh even if it wasn't funny when it happend....
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
12 Mar 08
Just remember that your daughter's hair will grow back and next time keep the scissors away for goodness sake. Be glad that there was no further incident with that pair of scissors which may have worst consequence. I know you are feeling bad for the hair of your daughter, you may want to pay your hairdresser a visit. And if you are going out you may want to get her a cap/scarf over her head.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
The scissors were up high in the cubbord, so out of reach well so I thought but he said he used his chair to climb up and get them... My friend is a hairdresser and she is going to come here today and fix it... I did make my daughter were a hat after it.
@Madona1 (2097)
• Gibraltar
12 Mar 08
Hello there, please don’t worry as they are kids and just play what they like. As long as they don’t harm or hurt themselves with the scissor, I think it is fine for them to cut their hairs if they are happy with each other. Maybe they will become famous and successful hairdressers when they grow up…My daughter used to cut her own hair until she realized her hair didn’t look pretty. Once she put the chewing gum on her hair accidentally and was very upset about it. Children will know from the experiences.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Thank you Modona1. They know now it was wrong and he told me he won't do it again...
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
don't worry friend, her hair will grow back soon....the important thing is that she was not hurt. It's really dangerous for a kid to hold scissors....luckily, he only did that to her.....just stay calm, don't worry too much, it's done, you can change it....just let it pass, explain to him that he should not do that again.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
he got the silent treatment from me which was worse for him he does know he has done wrong.. He was in one of those playup moods and couldn't help himself but upset me... My friend is comeing today to try and help fix my daughters hair, make it look a little bit even. I hate looking at her like this, becuase of how long it has taken to grow...
@cydzzj (356)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
I think it's lucky that he only cut her hair, didn't hurt her. It's too dangerous that let child touch the things like knife and scissors. I never let my son touch those things. Because sometimes they don't know the result about the things they did. I think you don't need get upset for your son. He is still little boy. You need teach him step by step.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
I know but he knows he is not aloud to play with scissors anyway only under my supervision because I am paranoid about cutting themself or yeah as you mention cutting her....
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@subha12 (18463)
• India
17 Mar 08
thank god that he only cut the hair. actually children sometimes do things like this that is going to drive you crazy. what to do. she is still 3 year old.. it will f=grow soon and she will look nice again.