Lets talk about kids
By violeta_va
@violeta_va (4831)
Australia
March 13, 2008 8:48am CST
As a mother I know I talk about my son a lot. When I am with him 24/7 there is little else I can talk about somethimes. All my close friends have kids as well so we all talk about our kids. Yesterday I went shoping (son at school) so I was siting outside waiting for my husband when I young mother and a baby set next to me. Few minutes later a group of young women came (friends of the mother) judging by the things they were saying none of them had kids. The mother went on and on for 15 min about her baby when she sleeps, how she sleeps, what she likes what she hates. For the first few minutes the friends were interested but after that the only person saying things was the mother. And that is when it hit me "oh my god that is me I must somethimes bore people to death talking about my son". Do you do it? What do all the people without kids think about it?
6 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
14 Mar 08
lol...I know what you mean! After I had kids, all I can talk about is kids. But most of the people I knew then had kids of their own...and it was okay. Most of my classmates though were not married and didn't have kids...so, I just didn't talk much about kids with them...except when my kids were ill or something. Even now when they have kids of their own, we still don't talk much about our kids...just the main topics and that's it.
I think that once we have kids, we are so focussed on them and can't think of anything beyond that.
I realized early on that I can go on and on about my kid...and stopped doing it soon after my son started school. There's a little group I have that I know I can talk to about the kids (all of us in the group do that)...and that's who I will talk to.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
15 Mar 08
I also realized one more thing about myself...I do not want to talk about EVERYTHING my second one does to everyone who would hear me (except my husband because I don't want him missing anything). With only one child, I had the time to be totally engrossed in him all the time. Now, with the second one, I find I have too much time on my hands and hardly any time to think or talk about the kids (though all of it is still running across in my head). Only with people in the same boat as I am, I can put my point across with fewer words. I don't go on about everything that my kids do with people anymore. (and the younger one is just 15 months)
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
15 Mar 08
well I only have 1 child so far and as he has developmental delay everything new he does its a big thing for me the people that suffer the most from me going on an on are my sister and my parents because they share my joy. With other people I watch more or less what I say and its mostly more in general things not specificly what he does. My parents never talked that much about us when I asked my mother why she said that people can see what we did so as a mother what she saw was different from other people did so she left it for them to make up their mind.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
14 Mar 08
you are right once we have kids are focus is on them. To me my son is No 1 so its only natural that all I can think of is him. I have noticed as well that I dont talk about him that much now that he is not baby any more. I have my life and he has his (ok so he is almost 5) but we do individual things and dont have to be in the same room 24/7 like before.
@gemini_rose (16264)
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13 Mar 08
Its all I ever talk about, because its all I have to talk about! I am with children all day everyday. I have 4, and 3 are in school and then I have my daughter with me at home. My hubby sometimes says that I dont talk much but I dont see anyone but the kids I have no adult company whilst he is at work so I have no conversation in me other than what the kids have done. I do think that I must be the most boring person ever sometimes because if I do see a friend at school then she only gets to hear about kids!
@gemini_rose (16264)
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14 Mar 08
I never shut up when I find someone to talk to who will listen to me! If I speak to my mum on the phone we are always on for about 2 hours.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
As a father, I think its a little bit different. I don't usually talk about my kid unless the topic is all about kids. Though, when the people surrounding me are relatives and close friends, there is always the possibility that the topic of the conversation would be our kids.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Yes it is a bit different for men but with the new generation of men that are more involved with their kids I find that men too talk about their kids a lot which is great.
@beckyp (48)
• United States
13 Mar 08
I do it all the time. I usually catch myself, especially if I am talking to people without kids. I think it's second nature to talk about the things we know, which if you are with your kids 24/7, it's kids! I don't think there is anything wrong with that, especially if it is another parent.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
well if its another parents I dont care really if I talk about kids but I noticed how bored the others looked when the mother was talking. I do try to limit my talking about kids with my single friends but maybe I do talk a lot who knows.
@GreenMoo (11834)
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14 Mar 08
As a Mum, I do try & limit how much I talk about my kids. Thankfully I do have other things to talk about, but it can be hard to think of any of them when you are at home all day every day with no-one but the kids for company! When the contents of the latest potty is what your world centres around then you tend to want to share it LoL
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
14 Mar 08
you are so right and its is so amaizing how every conversation can end up been about our kids. I dont how some times if its about the war in Iraq and ends up with the latest picture on the wal but somehow we manage to make a conection right :)
