You Might As Well Delete Me From Your Friends List

@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
March 22, 2008 3:16pm CST
Right now. If you think that I am going to be anything less than honest and sincere with you. I am not talking about being mean and uptight. But when you hit me with a serious subject, I am going to go with my gut feeling. I may not be right, but I am going to go with what I know to be right. I take friendship of any kind very seriously and I do the best I can to be genuine with everyone. So if you think that I am attacking you or picking on you unjustly, I would like to take this time to tell you that I am not. But if you choose to be my friend, I can not go against what I truly believe to be right, just to keep you smiling and make you feel good about yourself.
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47 responses
@sergeantrom (5721)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Hey are you related to Rose O'Donnell? LOL. All jokes aside, I for one appreciate down to the bone honesty. Saves time in the long run. No room for misunderstanding. Thanks for the warning.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 Mar 08
You are most welcome.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Happy easter everyone! did someone offend her? she is a sweet girl!
• United States
23 Mar 08
Can you believe there are still some people out there who want you to LIE to them??? They would rather hear and live a lie than to hurt their feelings. I know a ton of people like that, so sad.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Ok who pressed your buttons, let me at'em!! It's going to take a lot more than just words to delete you from my list Rozie. I respect your views and opinions just like I do others. You tell it like it is and I respect that, but I am not going to delete you because we may disagree on an issue, or you may see things differently to me. That's why I requested you in the first place because you are so honest and upfront. I may not believe or understand some of the things you have faith in but you're still my friend and you better not delete me or else ... NO CHOCOLATES!!!!!!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Mar 08
haha just having you on my friend Maddy has been a little under the weather so that's why I haven't been on much this weekend. I didn' get a chance to post the chocs to you on Saturday, but I am definitely going down to the PO tommorrow as Maddy is ok to go to school. I also have to return overdue library books so the PO is just around the corner from there :) you should receive your package within a few days as I'm sending it fast post :) I bet you're dying to get them and SORRY I took so long. Don't give up on me yet :( hehe!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
24 Mar 08
It is alright. I understand that you are a busy wife and mother. I am just glad to hear that Maddy is feeling better now. I hope it wasn't anything too serious. He is such a cute little boy. Hey, what ever happened to his little sister Anna? Lol, just kidding.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 Mar 08
Hey, whoa, whoa, let's not get too hasty here. We don't want to put the chocolates on the line. Why you gotta go there? Now I am all nervous and stuff, LOL. And I expect my friends to tell me the truth too. That is the only way for me to learn and grow. It is also the only way that I can respect my friends. em]wub[/em][
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
Good for you, I am exactly the same way as well.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
Then you and I would probably make good friends.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
23 Mar 08
There's nothing wrong with honesty and realism. Gut feelings are there for a reason and I know I've made a few people mad by giving mine...but oh well, there are more people who appreciate honesty than who just want their butts kissed.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
That is very comforting to know and very well said.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 08
Rozie I am so glad you brought this up I have felt really hurt because several posters were angry at me for a discussion I posted. I expected various viewpoints of course and did not disrespect anyone for opposing viewpoints so I could not believe I was being sort of attacted so to speak for my viewpoint. Like you said I have go go with my own gut feeling and I may not be right but it is my feeling and should be respected. thanks
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
I get attacked all the time. I am starting to get use to it. It is the people who are telling the truth who get attacked the most, because no body really wants to hear the truth.
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23 Mar 08
i say go you sticking up for what you believe in! if someone has a problem with that then it is there problem! maybe they should learn from you!
• United States
23 Mar 08
Rozie I totally agree with you.Most of my life ,I have kept my mouth shut when I disagreed with anyone,because I don't like confrontations.But as I've gotten older,I think, to heck with them.My views are not the norm nowadays because I believe in God and living your life to please him,and my convictions are a bit old fashioned by nowadays standards.(I'm 56).But I have evolved to the point that,if you ask my opinion,you better want the truth.I don't believe you have to be rude or nasty,or hurt someone's feelings,but say what you really believe.
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@heidibur (310)
• United States
22 Mar 08
AMEN: someone REAL!!!! I feel the same way. like you said if its something I feel strongly about (hell I may be so wrong) but its how I feel sometimes I make my response and in it I tell people not to bother doing all that typing because thier little fingers are going to get tired.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 Mar 08
It takes all kinds to make up a site like this. I do not have any prejudices against anyone. But when I recieve a topic in my e-mail box, I go with my hoest feelings when answering it. I am not rude, I just tell it the way I see it. But there are those that can not appreciate that.
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@heidibur (310)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I feel the same way, and I thank you for being so candid. I only wish half the people here were. I say things that "normal" people would consider to be offensive however it is the truth. and thats how I feel.
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@heidibur (310)
• United States
23 Mar 08
If they were a ture friend they would not question anything that you said. and anyone who does is just an acuantice ( you know what I mean) I've had a bit to drink tonight.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
23 Mar 08
I understand.I got deleted from your friend's list for one of my discussions which I thought was funny and which offended you.I think you have done the right thing and very honest to your judgment.I appreciate that and consider you as my friend still.Great going Rozie.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
24 Mar 08
Thanks Rozie.That makes us really good friends.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
25 Mar 08
Thank you very much friends.I understand your concern and appreciate it very much.Well I am a very proud person too and I just wanted to prove that I am decent and don't bear any grudges.That's it.I will never demean myself.Thanks again.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
Thank you.
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@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
I agree with yo on this one. In fact, I am like that. Call 'em as I see 'em. Many times I am wrong, but if I feel strongly about something I state it. It is fine to disagree with someone too. That is what makes discussions so much more interesting. As long as mutual respect is there, there is never a problem the way I see it! Happy posting!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 Mar 08
Exactly, you do not have to disrespect a person to be honest with them. But it is annoying when people ask me what I think, then when I tell them the truth, they get upset with me. It does not make sense.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I agree with you 100% on this. I think that people should tell others their honest opinion. I too let others know my feelings on issues. I won't act like I'm someone else to gain more friends or get more positive approvals. I like to tell it like it is-- but I think we can agree/disagree with class... I think you summed it up wonderfully.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 Mar 08
I have to say this every now and then on here. People start expecting me to stroke their ego and make them feel good about doing the wrong thing. Well I won't and I do not want my friends to be that way with me either. It does not help me one bit.
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• United States
23 Mar 08
you go girl That what friends are honest and tell them you gut feeling if they are true friends they will know that you are not picking on them stay with what you believe
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
24 Mar 08
Thank you.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
23 Mar 08
It is good that you are like that. I don't expect my friends to be anything less than honest with me. Critisism stings a bit but I try to take it and learn from it. I am a very sensitive person but I can take a lot if its not mean and abusive. You sound like a very honest and upfront person and that is a good thing.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
When someone tells me something that I need t know, I am able to honestly evaluate myself and work to change it. If I do not see that in myself, I will ask a friend if they see it. I always want to work to better myself as a person. I use to believe that everyone wanted the same thing, that is not true at all.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I know. Don't let it change who you are....by the sounds of it, you won't.
@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I think that it's nice for someone to be honest. I would rather someone tell me the truth, rather than tell me just what I want to hear.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
Very well said.
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@cortney09 (1345)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Thanks. I wish there were more people who were honest with other people.
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@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I completely agree with you Rozie! I'm glad that you are honest when responding to my discussions. I wouldn't want a faulty answer, which could lead me in the wrong direction. You just keep doing what you do best, and we'll just keep listening to what you have to say!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
It is not only about leading people astray. I do not think that it is at all fair to just people what you think they want to hear. If you don't have the guts to tell them the truth, then skip that discussion.
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• United States
22 Mar 08
I am like that, and I know the difference between being honest, and being rude and tactless. But there are many who think if you say how you feel, that you are putting them down, and that is kind of sad.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
22 Mar 08
You have to say what needs to be said in a nice way and not worry about the consequences. It's called integrity.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 08
getunaddicted tell me about I started a discussion on religion and got thouroughly lambasted by two posters for my own viewpoint and I took great pains not to be rude or disrespectful of anyone's religion but I asked the same of them and got some rude replies and I was not putting anyone down
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• United States
23 Mar 08
Some people are like that, but if they go to far then you can report them hatley. We have to keep in mind for ourselves that as long as we stay espectful to others then even if they are not with us, we have dignity.
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@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 08
why i should delete you inmy friend list about this matter? i don't think regret to accept you as my friend. i just like to build friendship to everyone so i don't have any idea why i should delete you. by stating like that, it prooves that you are really wonderful friend to have
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
Thank you. The smiley faces are heartwarming, along with your response.
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@tess1960 (2385)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I think the key word here is respect. I get so tired of the being politically correct stance all of the time. I have to be that way in my day job to get along and keep the peace. Here at mylot I like being able to say what I think and how I feel and not have to worry about being politically correct. However, I also know if I want others to respect my view/opinion, then I have to respect theirs also.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
You are absolutely right. And I understand how you feel about having to be politically correct at work. It is a bummer.
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• United States
23 Mar 08
I don't mind if a person is BLUNT but they are honest..but some people are mean and petty..so they just are immature? I added you to the friends list hoping to find some quality friends over quanity..its not good to kill anyone to hear the truth..it is most refreshing sometimes.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
I do my best to give my friends what I want in return.
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23 Mar 08
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions even if they are not in step with what you feel as an individual, we all have to accept this fact. I hope all of my friends either here or on other social networking sites will treat me with an honest opinion, I think that is a sign of true friendship
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
This is definitely a sign of true friendship, but there are people who are not yet ready to hear the truth and can not handle it.
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23 Mar 08
A true friend wouldn't expect you to beat around the bush anyway. I hate people who expect you to suck up to them, or not be truthful to make them feel better about themselves. They'd never learn that way! Also, they won't learn anything, and won't grow as a person if they only ever hear but I also don't want to be rude or seem over-critical. ^^ =]
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
That is very true. There is a right and wrong way to say everything.
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• Australia
23 Mar 08
Go for it Rozie Personally, I prefer my friends to be real and tell me when I'm being stupid or whatever (as long as they do it in a sensitive way rather than an insulting one) Better the rebuke of a friend than an enemy who multiplies kisses
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
You got that right.
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