Are they talking about me?

United States
March 23, 2008 12:25am CST
Have you ever been reading a discussion in mylot where the topic is about the way members post, don't post, the quality of their discussions being poor, that they have copied another recent discussion or other similar negative remark and wondered if it was you that they were talking about? Do you respond to those discussions and if you do, do you defend yourself? Do you pm the member to make sure its not you and that you haven't offended them or do you just let the discussion pass and wonder about it?
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@gemini_rose (16193)
23 Mar 08
Well I probably would not notice they were talking about me even if they were! I have come across a couple like that, and I read them and think what on earth are they talking about and to be honest it reminds me of when I was in school. I dont bother with things like that, I left all that behind years ago, if people want to be like that why should I add fuel to the fire, things like that are best ignored and not encouraged!
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@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Personally, I never give much thought on these type of discussions. Personally in all reality, I know I have been a member here for over 17 months now, and will continue to be an Active member in here as long as I can. I am sure over time, there are people who may not like some of the things I do in here, but that is up to them. I come here when I can, and do what I can, and always try to benefit from my experiences each time I come here.
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
If all the clues are pointing at me but they did not mention my name, I know what will happen. They have all the rights to call me insane, paranoid, you know what I mean. That's how crimes in the court room are dealt with by humans. Everyone knew what happened but because of technicality, the criminal cannot simply go to jail. I would rather not bother myself sending them PM. I will just satisfy them when they got tired of talking about me, they will stop anyway. It's such a waste of time to discuss things with them unless you feel they have open mind and they just need clarifications. But if they hate you for some reason, even that is unreasonable hate or misjudgment, they might even ask you, "Why are you defensive?"
@mummymo (23707)
23 Mar 08
It really depends sweetheart! If I know the person I would probably respond and ask if it was me who had upset them, I have done this in the past - probably as i do get quite paranoid! Luckily it never has been about me! I did however once get a discussion started about me by a membe who had been very rude to me in a previous dicussion - he then went on to start a discussion all about how stupid I was and how I had made all my friends (who did respond to his rude remarks on the original post) to attack him! I did respond to that very politely and civilly telling him that actually he was the only one who was rude and putting a link to the original post so that others who may have believed his warped tale could see for themselves what had happened! People like that though really are not worth worrying about - if only I could have believed that at the time! xxx
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• United States
23 Mar 08
so far i am back from mylot twighlight zone. i know i told you of my problems but i gues the glitch is fixed..so i am looking forward to being able to get your guys e-mails response to my post..you have never offened anyone that i know of but you never know? i think your post are in the upper 5% of mylot..be ware that some people got their accounts goofed up throgh no fault of their own..it happens..so here is to a happy EASTER and don't too much chocolate and Easter eggs..it snowed about a foot of snow yesterday in Michigan...lol..it won't last long...lol
@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
I don't think I have seen one or will be ever bothered by one. I find ever I find one, maybe, I'll see it as an advantage for me to check on myself. Why would anyone bother to talk about me? That is there experience of me. With the way I post, the way I react to certain discussions, that is how they perceive. I hope that will help me a lot and that will make me check myself if its an affirmative or negative reputation that I am trying to portray. JNY
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I don't usually give that much thought. I have never copied anyones discussion so I certainly wouldn't think it was me in that case. I could and probably am guilty of a poor discussion or response at some point. But I don't think people can be bothered enough to talk about it...lol I guess I just don't get paranoid about what people think.. Of course that's not to say people don't do that. There are many strange people here in mylot. Many people just thrive onh causing trouble or picking on others. I have seen people be targeted by groups of idividuals on here. I just don't worry about it. Hope that helps, Blessed Be.
@balasri (26554)
• India
29 Mar 08
Well I always try to explain that I never meant to hurt them if I am mistaken.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
I do get paranoid, which is one of my lesser qualities I have in myself, and if someone starts talking about discussions and negatively I automatically think I am the culprit, I'm the one they are talking about and immediately start apologizing when 99.9% of the time it's not me! Guilty conscious maybe? More irrational paranoia. I am also very sensitive and I worry about offending people. I did offend someone once when I responded with a humurous response to her discussion she thought I was taking the mickey out of her when that was the last thing I would do, I am very sensitive to other people's feelings.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I am not sure if others have started a discussion about me and if they did then I must be popular LOL The only time it would bother me is if the post was started by one of my close friends then I would be most annoyed and actually probably pm them and ask them if it's me they are talking about.
@praveenjena (1305)
• India
24 Mar 08
well i have not been in that situation till now and hope that i will not be ... again such misunderstandings do occur.. and if that occurs to me then i will certainly defend myself and clear myself out of this.
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
I never encountered reading anything about me here unless it's my own discussions nor even wondered. I have read some people discuss other people but not stating their name..just on how lame or poor the discussion is, etc.
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
23 Mar 08
There has been many discussions like that on myLot. I even did post questions like that in the first few months I was here. My questions were not directed at someone in particular... but to the many people here who are guilty of it... and if they recognise themselves in my question... GOOD!... That was the whole point of it! The whole point is to make myLot an interesting forum where people can enjoy themselves. We don't want the whole thing degenarating into meaningless discussions like I have seen on other forums taken over by teenagers. One of the good things about myLot is that the rules discourage teenager to come here... by making it hard for them. You won't earn a cent here if you just want to chit chat about the weather.
@myklj999 (13868)
• Olney, Illinois
23 Mar 08
It doesnt really bother me, because I know all those threads are about YOU! lol
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 08
Yes I have read those discussions and I did responds to a few. I tried to defend myself also by stating that a discussion of mine that had made a small civil war was started by me with all due respect to all people and their various religions and that my pint was only to show that I wanted the same respect due to me. Mist I just let pass and think do not be paranoid they are not talking about me.
@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
23 Mar 08
I must admit that I have never even thought about it but that is probably because I'm still a newbie and don't start many discussions, I only do replies!! I hope you haven't felt that someone was attacking you as you do some great posts. As someone says earlier on, not everyone can start a good discussion and certainly not on a daily basis!!! Please keep postin' :)
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
23 Mar 08
I just let it pass and not even worry about it If they have a problem with me until they contact me I am not interested and then I will tell them if they do not like it stay away from it
@p1kef1sh (45640)
23 Mar 08
I remember that I did once PM someone to check that her post wasn't about me, didn't I? The lady in question was very sweet and reassured me all was fine. But yes, often. But it is my own fault. I spend a lot of my time in what some might call the feral end of myLot. Certainly a fair number of the posts there seem to bring out the moral majority and more censorial folk. My perspective generally is that whilst I never write anything with the express intention of hurting or offending someone; if people don't like what I write, because it is at odds with their views, then post an intelligent, non emotional reply, or move on to someone else and save us both the stress.
@2btrueinu (703)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
I did not try to copy and paste I'm not allowed yet to do it but if I'm allowed I will not do it either. Yes I admit I got some poor topic but it up to them if they will respond into it. If they touch my well being I just tell what I think is right no offend. I want to express myself and want to brought out what I have inside. If I think they are offended in what I say I will say sorry to them but to the part that I will see it's my fault. I don't mind them at all that what we are here for, that what freedom of speech it all about.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
no I can't be bothered with that garbage.