Have you ever taken the initiative to flirt a man?

Hi Dpk......Today I casually logged in and came across this old discussion of yours.....I see intersting comments where passed by u,Aps and Cupie....... Any way when it comes to flirting I am afraid I do not have much comemnts to make from my side......I have led a sheltered life,and (thankfully)brought up as a typical Bharatiya Nari,and you know what that means..... It is said that even if a rose falls on a thorn or a thorn falls on a rose (he,he,mind you here I am not talking of my avatar),it is always the rose that gets hurt.......That is perhaps the reason why men tend to flirt more.......And this is perhaps also the reason that Aps ,me and SV have jointly formed NARI Sakthi,here in mylot .............

I used to have this phobia of men as my father has instilled in us that men are no good and with his iron fist control of his daughters we weren't allowed to even go for parties without a bodyguard (usually my younger brother) and were only given 3 hours of party time. I never even dare to flirt with a man as my father's fierce face was always behind my head. That is maybe my regret in life for being too timid and being too fearful of my father. The first man who dated me was my husband and it was only a short while before my father told him to marry me or get loss.

Wow! Very interesting topic of discussion!! I feel the very concept of flirtations has been profaned to a great extent. We have moved and deviated greatly from the innocence and the healthiness that it supposed to be associated with. OK, let’s not go into the theory and before you attack me with your queries let me come to the point. I am an introvert kind who would not go beyond her dos and donots. I cannot remember the time when I started it all. However, if it came from the other side and if I liked the person, I might have flirted. Now, no one dislikes being liked. ‘You look gorgeous’, ‘You are enigmatic’….. There is hardly anyone who doesn’t contemplate on these. And some words of appreciation which we term as flirtious words can change the whole day. I had some friends who would flirt hugely with men. They would even come up with pick up lines and pick up moves. But then, I am talking about the time when we were young and turbulent and they were smart and carefree. So going by this, I feel, women do flirt a lot, they give the initial signal for men to pick up. And healthy flirting adds charm and spice to life. After it’s just flirting! Happy flirtings!

When I was young and I liked someone I would take the initiative to make friends with that person. But I dont think that would be called flirting because I would not try to entice him to any kind of relationship. I dont think I would be able to flirt and entice anyone into a relationship. BTW since it is a year that this discussion has started what conclusion you have come to in this one year.....is it the men who flirt more or women.......I still say in comparison it is the men and not the girls.

yeah sometimes..but i noticed..after all it's not me who is flirting it's not the man..once the man will know that you are flirting to him...he will be taking advantage of it..he will gonna make you believed you too is special..but he's just playing your feelings...this is commonly happen to those guys who have looks.

Hello deepak! I never ever flirt to man. Our country is conservative full of judgemental people and when a girl flirt to a man or who make a first move to court the guy, she is considered as cheap which is not good to judge her immediately.

I don't think I have taken the initiative...but I've seen lots of women taking the initiative to flirt. And frankly, I see nothing wrong if they are not attached....and if it's clean flirting. Coming on too much isn't very pleasant for the others around. But I've had friendly banter with men (before I was married)...but the initiative has always been from their side and not mine.....so I can't speak about the success rate from my end. Most of my friends who did clean flirting were successful.

i am an introvert but i do like to have fun at times.i,once flirted with a colleague of mine and at first he was bit confused(all these at my hubbys knoeledge),when he started becoming serious,i backed off,now we are good friends.

HI Deepak! This is not the 'done thing' in my upbringing friend.It would be blasphemy;We had a fairly conditioned upbringing and both in school and college we were monitored by the school/college authorities[not that it should be a deterrent to the determined and bold I know of an 82/83 old lady [a relative of ours-- ]who fell in love , had run out of the hostel by jumping over the compound wall[] to meet her date and later had had a love marriage[though of course within caste and community , but with parental resistance and subsequent helpless approval]; So, coming to my experience I am from a reasonably conservative family whose clothes too had to be censored/approved by mother. So, the thought too would be wrong to me.Then of course it is an arranged marriage,and so we must be on our best behaviour lest our reputation suffered--we would go to college and come back straight and that was all.I belonged to a forward thinking parent that did not prevent me from going a long distance to the University Library on special occasions with a group of friends. My sister also did he PG in a coed college and this was quite unusual in those times, in our place.

no never i did so. i am just not that type. i have also read about this in today's paper. but i still believe its men who mostly flirt. i have seen also women who flirt on purpose.

Hi Nice discussion Deepak i dont know why u start it but its good women always blame men are flirt , so lets see if some one speak truth and reveal their secret but u know girls know how to temp and seduce man so ----------- no further comments other wise i will be bombared by ladies LOL I will enjoy the replies of ladies and hey sorry if u dont like reply from Male Byee

Oh we do that all the time. Most of my friends will go out of the way to provoke a guy and I feel there is no harm in healthy flirting. It is what gets us going. Life is full of tensions and it helps reducing it to great extent.

To flirt a man??? yup, i did. You know what? girls should be flirt sometimes. This can add an excitement to guys.

I did and I experiment, if the man who are the eye of my attention will response back. I do not mean that I flirt in a bad ways but just an innocent flirting. When, I talk to him, I make sure that he is looking and I smile coyly. I even touch my neck but not occasionally. And whenever, something is being discuss i make fun and smile then look down and look up again to him. I also notice when I laugh loud, everyone in the rooms smile. Well, it seems successful,I don't need to dress sexy just to be notice. He said it my smile that is attracts. Then, he started to call and talk for an hours at any topics.. Do you experience the same things? I do..

i think i did, but it was on senior high school. on that time, my intention to flirt him was to get his attention. he was so brightful student and also good appearance. i really wanted to get closed with him in order to know how bright he was, it was a challenge for me to get more every person who has "bright" performance in their brain. it just made me want to defeat them and yeah, it was succeed and we still communicate also had relationship as good friend till now.

What ah discussion you have dpk! I never thought about this..well, it's seem so interesting topic you got my friend. As they said, girl taught to learned in flirting with guys in a way of not staying single for a long period. Those other girl's that not usual of this kind of way. They should know a little bit about it. Lot's of old maide as this days and one reason co'z they are not IN with this kind of a thing. Too much conservative and aloof with guys are not good also..Need to be look attractive and daring sometimes. But used it in a right way and in a mean of a conservative way? . As my experience, if i like the guy and if i knew he didn't committed with a relationship. Sometimes im making things that sound not obvious that i like him. That's what i did to my first boyfriend when i was just 23 years old. I tried it and it's work. Probably it last for 7 months only co'z we decide both to end it due to the fact he is still studying that time and he taken up nursing. He is 3 years younger than me. And i am busy of my work and no such time for him. And i just found it also that he's really a jerk!!!!!!!!! lol.Well thats life. So, now...I never flirting anyone no more. IF i like a certain guy... i show it to him in my little way of friendship and then observe.

I have flirted with only one man and am now in a loving relationship with him. I surprised myself when doing so, but I suppose I had the guts to do it because this man was a shy one. It boosted his confidence and mine as well.