what nonsense is this? (a rant at language used in replies)
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
India
April 9, 2008 12:50am CST
Yesterday I had replied to a discussion under religion. An atheist had cited an experiment on flipping a quarter and thus proving that God does not exist. I had replied in all sincerity and the bottomline of my discussion was that most of us need a strength in our hours of weakness and that strength is God. Whoever is reading this discussion, pls go to ‘religion’ and read my response and say (frankly) if I deserve the kind of words this person has chosen in his reply to me. I quote his exact comment below:
Comment:
Did a christian just call me unintelligent? Pot, meet kettle. Kettle, pot. "bla bla bla i have faith bla bla blind stupidity bla bla" get your propaganda off my fu/cking topic faithtard. Maybe YOU are by nature the weak cowaring type, but I stand strong on my own. I don't need an imaginary friend to make me feel like my life has value. Also none of what you just said has any grounds in logic, science, or intelligent reasoning. Please kill yourself so that you can see how wrong you are.
Now the funny part is that this comment came to my personal email box and I cant find it anywhere in the discussion. My response is there, but the above comment is not. I would definitely have like to reply back to this person but I cannot. Also I had signed off at 2200 yesterday and now my discussion nos. show 2199. so one discussion has been deleted. I cant understand what is going on here but I would definitely have liked to reply back. Its been more than a year I am here, I have crossed swords with many die-hard believers and non-believers, I have even offended some here, but have never ever come across such filthy language. What nonsense is this?
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10 responses
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Apr 08
the latest on Gissi pls, long time no see from him.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Apr 08
Yes ‘awful’ …such a gentle word yet enough to express your dislike for something. Guess some people will never learn. Oh well…what’s up with you son lately? Have you kept us posted on his Army dreams? And how’s Gissy?
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@Wickedself (720)
•
9 Apr 08
Every individual has their own beliefs.
And sometimes the individual might become furios if he/she is not able to defend his/her belief
So you don't have to worry about that.
You cannot force someone to change their beliefs so just forget it (I also had a few bad experiences like this).
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Apr 08
I don’t want to impose my beliefs on anyone. Mylot is a great place for interaction of views, but the language! OMG…when I read it first thing today, my head was almost reeling….believe me. for a few minutes, I was flabbergasted, didn’t know how to react. I am over it now, but it seems that I will have to be more careful (or better still avoid) in answering to people who are relatively new here. But that again would not be fair to all.
Thnx anyway.
PS: 'able to defend his/her belief' It reinforces my belief that this person really has some problem in intelligent articulation of thoughts.
@Wickedself (720)
•
9 Apr 08
Yeah I feel really happy when someone gets mad at me when it concerns beliefs beacuse I know that he is not able to defend his beliefs. And his aggression is just a defensive strategy.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
9 Apr 08
Hi,
Well i guess there are various types of people in these site and we cant expect everyone to be polite. I think he is mentally sick and may be from a very ugly back ground. Thankfully i have not experianced any thing like that yet and dont wish to in the near future.
I hope mylot will do the needful and delete the whole discussion.
Cheers,
Tutul
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Apr 08
Hi tutul
yes, even I think he is mentally sick or does not know how to disagree in a civilized way. I was genuinely thinking of reporting him or marking him negative as a mark of protest but then I could not find his response to mine.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Uh huh. The guy disrespects you then demands your respect of him. Doesn't work. Not to mention the post is probably the worst I've seen around here (and I've run into several hideous comments). I think the show of weakness and depravity came at the "please kill yourself" part.
Look carefully at the response itself. The person may not need "an imaginary friend" but sure does a lot to slam you and prop himself up, or is that "stand strong on his own". He is the weak one if he has to resort to nonsense like this.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Apr 08
now that I have cooled down a lot, I find two things funny in his response. One is the automatic assumption that I am a Christian (that shows his religious intolerance and ignorance of other religions, inspite of being an atheist) and secondly the fact that he completely fails to understand that in my response I have actually praised atheists for their courage and belief. Absolutely thick!
@cynicalandoutspoken (4725)
• United States
9 Apr 08
Since the comment you left is still on the discussion and the discussion was not deleted you lost your number somewhere else, but that happens to me A LOT. I've stopped searching for the cause of this and just come to accept it as a way of myLot life.
I read your comment and I couldn't see anything wrong with it other then the fact you were right. Usually when people who are spouting off nonsense get backed into a corner by logic and reason they feel threatened.
And his comment and use of language was just further proof that his IQ leaves a lot to be desired.
I wouldn't take it personally. I have come across worse language used in a discussion I started. lol Some people just can't express themselves without resorting to vulgarity. I blame it on poor upbringing and a lack of education.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Apr 08
Cyn thnx so much for making me feel better. As I said, the moment I read it, my head was actually reeling coz I am NOT used to such language anywhere, least of all in mylot (guess I have been lucky). But now with so many comforting words, I am OK.
PS: Go slow with the thumb.
@rpegan (596)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I'm not a Christian, but that response is absolutely hideous. That user cannot disrespect your beliefs and then ask for your respect. To claim that you're using propaganda when this user is relying on the mentality of a two-year-old to respond makes me sick.
I may not have your religious beliefs, but I respect you as a Christian. I also expect you to respect me as a non-Christian. However, if I ever made a response like that, the ground beneath my feet should spit upon me.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Apr 08
hi pegan,
you know what the funniest part is? I am not a Christian either, I am a Hindu by birth but by faith, I don’t adhere strictly to my religion. I would rather be spiritual but I respect all religions and atheists too. To each his own, and to me ‘always respect that God which resides in each of our souls’. This is what I wanted to reply back to this atheist, but as I said, I could not find his response to my answer! Oh well!!!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
10 Apr 08
It's possible to delete certain comments. Was this rude comment given by the one who started the discussion or was it someone else who commented? If it was another person, then the original poster must have deleted it.
I'll have to go find the post first to read it. It would have been better if you had given the link.
I'll be back with my comment on your response:)
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
11 Apr 08
here's the link
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1466561.aspx
sudipta
@SViswan (12051)
• India
11 Apr 08
Well, your response wasn't rude. It was just your viewpoint. And like you said, the comment you mentioned isn't there (probably the original poster deleted it because it was VERY rude...or maybe mylot removed it).
But some people who believe very strongly in their viewpoints refuse to look at another viewpoint and agree to disagree. If the rude person was really an atheist, would have seen from your post how you have put atheists as brave people and how you have explained your stand in the matter....but the person probably just glanced at a part of your response and decided to attack.
The original poster too seems to be quite okay with different viewpoints....though I didn't go through all the responses and the poster's comments to all of them....the ones I saw seemed like they were just putting their viewpoint across.
Another thing I feel is that the person who was rude was probably offended by the fact that you said that the video was a total waste of time. Probably that was all they read and decided to attack.
There are all sorts of people in this world. Hope you've let it go...for the sake of your own sanity.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Some people just don't know how to disagree civilly. A lot of them hide on the internet, unfortunately, because they have no idea how to act in real life, if they behaved the way they do online, someone would slap them in the face, fairly soon.
However many people do know how to disagree appropriately, and I enjoy debating with them. I'm sorry you got caught up with someone who has no manners whatsoever. Please don't discount the community because of him. Here my own vice is showing because I'm assuming that it's a guy as I assume no girl would behave like that. But I could be wrong.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Apr 08
even I think he’s a guy coz his screen name starts with ‘lord’ and yes many people misuse the net for the safety it affords. But I am not disowning Mylot for anything (except if Mylot ever throws me out), I have had some wonderful experiences here, learnt a lot and thoroughly enjoy posting.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
10 Apr 08
Sudipta!
I could not locate your discussion, where you replied and received unexpected commetns. If possible, please send me the link.
I would like to say that I feel 'religion' related discussions are very delicate and dicey, you cannot make understand your point of view easily to the host of the discussions. If is a matter of faith and all across the world people have different ideas and notions about following a religion or existence or non-existence of God. Those who do not believe that there is a 'God', I think it would be futile to make them understand by arguments.
It is, therefore, I do not feel comfortable discussing issues coming within the preview of 'relegion'. I feel it becomes unnesssary controversial.
It would be better if you igonore those unexpected nasty comments and please do not take those comments to your heart. 
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
10 Apr 08
Hi Dpk,
Here’s the link, see for yourself my response, but what this person has responded back has been deleted.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1466561.aspx
so I have added it to my discussion for complete understanding.
Sudipta
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
hi sudipta!
wow. you really stumbled upon a dirty foul mouth. i think it was a good thing that you weren't able to respond back and that the discussion was already deleted. if you were able to respond back, what else could that person had said right? probably a lot more bad things that could have offended you and got you in a bad mood for the rest of the day. i think what you should have done was to report that user and the discussion to the myLot admin. but then, i guess a lot of offended people had already done that and the discussion was deleted. that's the reason why i don't like responding to controversial issues. 
wow. you really stumbled upon a dirty foul mouth. i think it was a good thing that you weren't able to respond back and that the discussion was already deleted. if you were able to respond back, what else could that person had said right? probably a lot more bad things that could have offended you and got you in a bad mood for the rest of the day. i think what you should have done was to report that user and the discussion to the myLot admin. but then, i guess a lot of offended people had already done that and the discussion was deleted. that's the reason why i don't like responding to controversial issues. 