Another Shock
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
April 11, 2008 7:22am CST
I have just been talking to my Son on the Phone over an hour he is in a bit of a mess he so wants to know what has happened, I rang his X Fiancee to find out what happened she says that she left him when he barged into her room and started arguing with himself in different voices and she said a few more things, I then told her that she is going over the top telling him that she will not talk to him what happened as he is scared because he can not remember anything at all, she then said tell him to ask the Police, I told her that she has no worries on him wanting her back as he doesn't
all he wants is to know what happened
Anyway her answer was see the Police report, she then told me what he was suppose to have done, when I rang my son he told me that she told something different to 2 of his Friends so we have 3 different Stories so far
My Son then was in tears and said Mum I can't deal with this as well
I asked what he meant by as well
Well my Son was suppose to be at the Hospital yesterday as he has a Lump I did not know this he had not mentioned it to me he found it last weekend, he had to reschedule the appointment for Monday
Is it ever going to stop, please someone tell me how much more is going to be thrown she didn't even care about it and that is her wanting to be friends
Well I have to now deal with this as well and we will get through it as hard as it might be
I am scared for my Son, exhausted drained tired and to be honest at this precise moment I just want to give up, but I won't my Son needs me and I will find the strength and be with him all the way
Thank you again for letting me get it out of system and mind as I am a mess and I need to get it out
All my Friends have been hearing lately is sad things from me but I need to get it out because if I don't I will break
Thank you all for being here
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18 responses
@jasonwallace (71)
• United States
11 Apr 08
do yourself a favor be there for your son but stay out of the relationship read the police report like she said but do not choose sides and tell him either one was wrong because you DO NOT KNOW the whole story plus if they ever did get back together he might end up resenting you for saying bad things about her etc... Your son needs a mother that is not all stressed out quit making this lump more than it is by worrying etc... before you know what it is It might not be all that bad and easily fixed he needs a solid friend at the moment not one in a million pieces into all sorts of uneeded drama. Good luck with all this.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 08
Jason there is no more relationship
There hasn't been for a while I have kept out of it for 3 years we are not allowed to read the Police report
At the end of the Day I hope my Son will remember one Day
There is a lot of suspicion about this but no evidence
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@nannacroc (4049)
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11 Apr 08
Stay strong for yourself and your son Gabs. It sounds like his ex has some sort of mental illness that she needs treatment for. It sounds like the best thing for your son would be to have no contact with her.
I hope all goes well for him at the hospital. Most lumps are benign and he may have nothing to worry about in that area. I'm sure that with the support of you and his sister he will come through this a stronger person and find someone who really cares for him.
Take care Gabs, my thoughts are with you and your son.
@nannacroc (4049)
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13 Apr 08
Stay strong gabs and keep us informed. You and your daughter are strong enough to see your son through these bad times.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Thank you nannacroc
I have told my Son that to it could be through all the Stress
He has nothing to do with her any more and he was better today but still traumatized but we know including my Daughter we will get through this no matter what
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
11 Apr 08
I dont know what esle to say to you on this for I have always known her to be a liar.
and I do hope he gets this all sorted in his mind so both of you can get on getting on.
I just wishd that they could prove somehow that her or her new BF had giving him something.
SHe was sneaky not to call police at the time this hapened.
ya know you will handle anything thrown at ya just as you always have and I hope your friend is on phone with you also helping you throught this and ya know who I mean hugs and blessing hugs
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@Darkwing (21583)
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11 Apr 08
Gabs, my dear friend, this all sounds a bit confused to me. What is happening with Mike... is he so stressed that he's taken on two identities, and found a lump toboot? It all sounds so jumbled up here. Do you want me to arrange to come up this month, or what can I do to help?
This year seems to have started badly for a few of us. I don't know why, but there must be some common factor. Try to stay calm. Mike is letting things pile up, and he doesn't need this all at one time. It's pushing him very close to the edge. Just let me know if there's anything I can do my dear friend.
Brightest Blessings... keep your chin up. I have some thoughts on Mike, but let me sort my head out, huh? Love you... xxxxx
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
12 Apr 08
Gabs, you will get through this sweetie - just as you have with everything else that's come across your path recently. Things are all hyped up at the moment but when everything has had a chance to settle down, you and your son will both see things more clearly.
I know you are now worried about the lump your son has found, but all I can say is - don't worry about it until you know what it is. My son went through the same recently, and we were worried sick, thinking the worst - and the lump turned out to be a simple cyst.
We are all here for you my friend.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Thank you Abby and he is better today so I know we are getting there and my Daughter is being wonderful with her Brother she is looking after him when she is not working and she rings as well all the time as for the lump it could be caused by all the stress he has been through over the last few Months
Big Hugs
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
12 Apr 08
You sure are going through a rough patch..It sounds like the girl is making things up as she goes along...very sad..I hope this lump isn't anything too serious..I have all of you in my thoughts...I wish I was there to give you a hug...Hugs..
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
11 Apr 08
I am sorry your family is going through this. Really sounds like right now he needs family close by to him to help him get through this situation.
There are many thing that can cause the behavior he is having. I hope for his sake that they find out what it is early on so that it can be remedied.
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@dana234 (2114)
• Spain
11 Apr 08
It must have been a terrible shock for you to find out about your son´s health problem. I´m sorry that there´s another problem for you to deal with. I know it´s difficult to be of support to others when you´re not well yourself, but I´m sure your determination will help you with this.
This girl seems ruthless and evil to me, her behaviour is absolutely appaling.
I´m here to give you moral support whenever you need it. I´m wish I could do more.
A huge hug to you, gabsy
XXX Dana
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Dana I will get through this with him no matter what when it comes to my Children I will not give up no matter how ill it makes me
A big Hug back to you my lovely Friend and you are doing enough for me you are always here in my need supporting me and that is the world to me and I love you for that very much xxxx
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Im sorry this has happened to you. It always seems that when things go bad they come in groups. Hope it all works out for you guys.
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@blackbriar (9076)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Very sorry to hear this going on with your son, gabs. It really does sound like his drink was spiked. Hope everything turns out right for him. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Gabs I honestly don't know what to say...I did read your other discussion, but just plain didn't know how to answer since I thought anything I said just might sound trivial...and what I'm about here might sound trivial too..but here goes
You're one of my most loving friends here and you have told me a bit (not all) of some of the details of your past in one of your emails to me...and you have also done a bit of revelations here as well.
Yes it does seem that at times it's one thing after another and we all go through periods of time when all we see is the darkness around us and no light..we wonder if it's worth it all...the pain (both physical and mental), the sorrow, the grief, the obsessive depressive thoughts that circle in our minds non-stop...we wonder if things will EVER get better. But they do...eventually. I think each traumatic episode we go through is to teach us some lesson in this lifetime, and we may not always understand what it is when we're going through that period...maybe someday we will. But after each "episode" we do become a bit stronger. When I went through some of my"episodes" it truly gave me the real meaning behind living in the NOW, the present, to live one day, one hour, one minute, one second at a time...
I know your life is in a jumble now and a lot is on your plate...but just take each moment at a time...be grateful and have gratitude for even the simplest things in life. It's hard to do when you feel the world is crumbling around you, but the moment you wake up...say "thank you" for one more day of life..."Thank you" that I can see, thank you that I can hear, thank you that I can speak, thank you for that silly little Gissi who loves you and gives you pleasure and laughs in life..thank you
And thank you for being my friend
(((hugs)))
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Sweetie it is not trivial at all what you have said here
My Boy is doing better already so we are getting there and my Daughter is looking after him when she is not at work she is wonderful she also phones him a lot to make sure he is ok
Thank you sweet Friend
I love you and a big Hug to you
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@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
12 Apr 08
It sounds as if your son's ex has a different story that tells to different people for the sake of her own pity party.
I hope all goes well for your son. I send big huggers your way.
P.S. Please don't fret over getting your feelings out. It is best to let them out and not keep them in. You know that you have many shoulders to cry on here Gabs. You never have to feel alone here.
Big Huggers to you.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 08
Elusive thank you and again you here to support me
We might not see each other for while but we are always there when one of us is in need and that goes for many Friends here we always support one another and that is the main reason I am still here because of you and all my other wonderful Friends
Big Hugs to you
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
12 Apr 08
sweetie I will always be here for you, make sure your son stays away from that crazy woman, get the dog and get out,
I wish I had seen all the posts yesterday but I am always running a day behind,
I will always be here for you, you can pm me anytime including my personal email address at home home.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
13 Apr 08
What kind of lump did they find of your son?
I am so sorry this is happening to your family. I am so sorry this is happening to you.
They say God only gives us what we can handle. Sometimes it seems we cannot handle anymore.
Call me later this eveing. I usually go to bed around midnight on the weekends. If not you can call me tomorrow.
My heart hurts for you and your son.
Love ya
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Apr 08
gabs its so hard to know just what to say but sorry is one of the things. You have really had a bad time of it.Seemsto me that girl friend is really bad news. It must be very frightening to your son not to be able to remember just what happened. It does seem from what you have said that his girl friend is somehow involved in this. Its just awful that she is acting like this but at least your son seems now to see just what kind of a girl she is. I do hope that this lump he found turns out to be something benign so as to alleviate some of your worried. Sometimes life seems to throw all the bad stuff at us in one fell swoop. gabs I hope that everything will get cleared up soon and you can begin to pick up your own life again. best wishes from your friends at mylot.
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