Does She Fancies Me?

hmmm... well... if I gave a guy packed lunch everyday it's not really necessary that i'm in love with him or something... or maybe, i'm in the process of falling... either way the point is that i have gone the extra mile just to do something for him.. so there is really something... hehe... congrats man! =)

do you know anything about her, is she married or single, she might be just trying to be nice, but it might be more into it then that. if you don't make any advances she will eventually stop if all she wanted was for it to go further.

Some people thrive on giving to others, my friend. I don't know how old this woman is but perhaps she has a son who is grown and flown the nest, and has sort of 'adopted' you, so that she has a son figure to look after. She may be feeling that you need to eat, and has noticed that you don't pack yourself a lunch, so she is, very kindly, providing one for you. Maybe, offer to pay for the lunches she brings... she'll probably refuse, but she will understand that you don't have feelings for her, as such. She could also have a son who is in Iraq, or something? It leaves you at a loss as to what to do, when they have to leave home this way. You could well be filling the empty space it leaves when a son leaves home, especially if she only has the one son. Ask her about her family... generally chat with her, in a friendly and interested way. I think you'll find that her feelings are not that scary. Whatever you do, please don't refuse any of the lunches she offers you. Thank her, but don't project anything more than friendship. Maybe ask her if she would like to continue bringing lunches, might you pay for them... tell her you feel as though you're "putting on her" in accepting them every day. All will be revealed in a short time, if you just take the time to find out her background, I'm sure. Brightest Blessings and good luck with this, my friend.

I can see some people doing this just out of the goodness of their heart. If this is all she's doing then I wouldn't read too much into it. Are there other signals that shows she fancies you? If there is you might try mentioning a girl friend or something that would discourage her interest.

This is tricky. You're right, she probably would be offended if you didn't take the food. Has she made any other advances? It could just be a friendly gesture, some girls feel a need to play the mother role, so she might just be looking out for you. Why don't you try making the extra effort to pack your own lunches? That way next time she offers you have a polite way to turn her down without risking hurting her feelings. Keep doing this and maybe she'll get the hint. If she really is just caring, then she'll stop worrying. However, if she really does fancy you, then she'll find another way in. But at any route, you've closed off this route.

i think that's part of what you call "wholesome flirting". haha! I read that somewhere on a book that girls can flirt so that guys remember the good things they did for them. does it make sense? anyway, sharing or rather bringing for food for lunch can also be an act of goodwill. it could be that she go the mile to bring extra food. I think she really likes you but it's too early to tell if she's up to something beyond liking you. If you're the one on that avatar, then there's no doubt about it.. ^_^ but seriously, the best way for you to know is to gather all your guts to ask her. I think she won't take it against you. So, i wish you goodluck!

Now if somebody is bringing in food for you for weeks together and you expect that there are no feeling involved, its not possible. She is surely having feelings for you otherwise why would she care for you. Would you be doing this for someone unless you are very much concerned. You have been accepting that for weeks and now you say there are no feelings from your end. Then please stop accepting the food and open up the whole issue as the more you delay the more she would be hurt when she knows the truth.

I think she likes you or she would not care..Now if she is an older lady she might just be mothering you,some women will do this because they see you are not eating...If this woman is in or around your age group ,than i think she likes you..If you are at all interested at all ask he out for dinner or coffee,and get to knowing her better..One thing for sure ,she has a kind heart...

ya think she likes ya? seriously...most people do not do anything without an alterier motive...i would say she does like you...if you do not feel the same way, just find a way to politely say no and stop taking the food from her.

Maybe she just likes to bring you lunch. Unless she does anything else like ask you out or flirts with you I would say enjoy the lunch. Maybe you could bring her something or chip in part of the lunch or something. Like bring cookies or a cake for dessert.

In the first place, I think she does have a pleasant liking and not forgetting a good impression about you to begin with. However, before you jump into any conclusions I would prefer that we be a bit more practical with our perception and understanding. It would really be too conclusive that just because you accept her lunches means that you are misleading her. I mean the both of you had not even started anything besides sitting down and enjoy her home made lunch. So do be casual and not be too alarm by her kind hospitality. I believe that communication is essential here and that you should just be natural and go along with the flow. You can always be a friend to her and start casual conversation not forgetting to compliment her tasty lunches which you have enjoyed so much. I am sure as long as you are aware of yourself and your actions I am sure the other party will never be misled. I would encourage you to be open minded and share your views on certain issues in order for the other party to know and understand you a little more and as the days go by the both of you will have a better understanding of each other.

Hi Zed..well you dont say f she is the same age as you or olred?...but my first thoughts were that maybe she was taking you under her wing...and trying to look after you a little...a lot of females love to fuss over someone...and I quite like having someone to make a fuss of too!!!....it could just well be that she is keeping an eye out for you....and looks upon you as a friend... But maybe just carry on sharing the lunches with her...take something into work for her....and you could say something just gently in conversation to her..such as...Oh you are just like a sister/mum to me...that maybe would give you an insight into her feelings for you.... But it could well be Zed that she just looks upon you as a friend...

hey, I really admire you for you have got so many kind and useful suggestions. hehe. have you begun to find out it now? how about today? is she still bringing you lunch? hehe, i think anyway she is a careful and kind girl. be careful not to hurt her. when you solve this problem, will you be kind tell me the result? hh, hope you feel better.

wow, this is a tough one. is this lady much older than you? if so she is probably just being motherly. i tend to be that way because i have a son. if she is closer to your age she most likely has a thing for you so if you do not feel that way about her you should not accept the food anymore. in addition, no offense, but you are a grown man and you should be providing your own food.

hmm. i think you can better know this. look for the gestures she makes.also try to understand what you would have done in her situation. if you can get an answer, its best.may be she cares for you.

Well may b she does care about you, but in which way? dont know. THats gud that you dont want to hurt her feelings, but if you think there is something to it and you dont wanna make her feel you have feelings for her, you better stop accepting what ever she gives you, just politly refuse and make up something for not accepting . Then you can find out whats going on after all

The question is does she do this to other co-worker too? If she does, probably she is just a caring person and concern about her co-workers welfare. If not, then she might just want to know you better than the rest of the co-worker. Why don't you bring her for a free lunch one day as a token of appreciation and see what is the outcome from there.

Ok Zed, could it be that after all these weeks of her brinking you lunches that just maybe you have taken a wee bit of a fancie to her? You have been eating her food for weeks now. I take it that the food is homemade,so you know that she is a good cook.She seems to be about your age.You have been letting this go on for weeks now...so I'm wondering.

hmm a tricky question dear. well it is def not natural for someone to bring you food every single day that sounds odd. firstly other then the food that she brings you, do youll chat a lot what about meeting have you'll ever met out of work? well you can be a bit suttle about it. there is no need to hurt her feelings. just talk t her and tell her that you are not very comfotable with her going through the trouble of bringing you food everyday or better still a couple of days just dont go to eat at the same time as her. try to go with someother coleggues. but do not be rude as she got genuinely mean well

Perhaps she is fond of you or like you a lot as a friend or more than that. I tend to bring packed lunches for my guy friends but not always though. if you feel that she harbor some feelings for you but you don't then you may talk to her regarding about it (if what is doing is making you uncomfortable).