why are people still racist?

Canada
April 21, 2008 10:58am CST
ive been dating my bf for 3yrs now, and everytime i tell someone am dating a black guy they look at me funny. or tell me to watch out black guys are bad news. i wanna know why are ppl still racist? as i said ive been dating my bf for 3 yrs now, ive never met a more loving, caring, and understanding guy in my life. hes so sweeet, he'll never walk away if he knows am sad or crying, he believes that one should always kiss their mate everytime they leave the house for work etc. why are ppl trying to warn me after 3yrs of dating the same blk man. he would never hurt me. why are people still racist these days, whats the deal with it?
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@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
21 Apr 08
I am not surprised to hear that really. There are many people who would do the same thing in my country also. Well, there might be some bad news about african people in Europe (I don't know where you are from) or US. Especially in the regions which don't have many black people inside. I mean, one of my Europan friends told me that black guys are very popular among the girls in her country and they usually have bad thoughts. She said the african guys used to come and after a few days leave the girls after taking advantage of them. This kind of behaviour simply causes some prejudices on many people. however, this issue doesn't really depend on the race. If the girls are attrackted to that kind of people then it is their attittude and it is normal. I mean, if a white boy in their country was attracted by many african girls in an african country, he would do the same. So, it is not something about race. It is something about the desire you see from the people you are living with, and about your personality. As long as you are saying you have been with him over 3 years, there is no problem about this because you don't have to worry about the problems I mentioned above. Especially, you say "I've never met a more loving,caring and understanding guy in my life." So, if he really makes you feel that there is no problem with that at all. I also have a similar problem with my girlfriend. but it is not about our race. We have the same race but we have a few differences in religious stuff (however, we still believe in the same religion) but there are many people who are always warning her about me and my family etc. Of course this doesn't change my girlfriend's mind because it is the idea of mindless facist (or religion facists) ideas. As I have mentioned before, the problem mostly doesn't happen between the couple but somehow everybody around them thinks the situation involves them!
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• Canada
21 Apr 08
I just dont understand sometimes you know. its like people can get hurt by one type of person, race, or one type of religion; then they go on to think that everyone in that race, religion , or type of people are the same way? wish things could be different lol dont see that happening. Am no different either am sure ive done something similiarly wrong
@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
21 Apr 08
In fact my situation was not about anyone got hurt by anybody in my religious way. It was just their prejudices because the majority of my country is in their way and we are only minority. And everyone is making their propoganda out there and trying to show our belief as a lie. Hmm, i am really surprised to hear that you did a similar mistake. howcome?
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
21 Apr 08
I am caucasian and my husband is of Asian descent. I don't think much about it but I'm sure there are probably people who do. I don't know why some people are like that. I don't know why they even care. Good men (or women) are hard to find. When you do you should hang onto them. I don't care what race they are.
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• Canada
21 Apr 08
i agree
@figjam00 (1450)
• India
21 Apr 08
I live in India and racism also prevails in India but in other form like castism. People term these as untouchables. Racism is everywhere and its because of prople trying to be superior to others. God has created all of us so why are we differentiating in terms of caste, colour race.
@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
21 Apr 08
wow, I read about castism in history books and I am really surprised to hear that now. Does castism still exist? Is it as intense as it used to be in the past? If it is, then there is a real big problem for that kind of people as the others will strive to keep them out of everything. What about the governement? Do they also accept castism as a truth?
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@mrsjbelle (1641)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Some people will always be racist. There loss.Black men are hot:) Best wishes to the 2 of you.
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@signum (547)
• Australia
22 Apr 08
Racism is crap. ignore people, don't let it get to you at all. You're happy in your relationship with your boyfriend and that's all that matters. You love him, he loves you, it doesn't matter what other people think as their opinions on this matter just do not matter.
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• United States
21 Apr 08
I have the same problem. I'm mixed, but for some reason "Mixed or multi-racial) isn't it's own so they automatically consider me black and I date a white man. It's been a year now and we are great yet some people still look at us weird. We drove out to some unknown country area while on our road trip and we stopped at the local store for some stuff we needed. Everyone froze and stared at me, then him. It was uncomfortable. One guy even asked my boyfriend why didn't he get a white girl instead of a black girl. He was very offended and was in shock that still, today people are against races mixing and I don't mean the elderly. I understand because during their time it was like that such as my grandmother and great granmother but young people around my age, 20 or even younger are against it.
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@bcote212 (1113)
• United States
21 Apr 08
It is really sad that things like this are still going on in the year 2008. I have been with my partner for over 5 years. He is Hispanic, and i am White. I have noticed that when we go out places that there are people who look at us like we are crazy. I just dont get it. There are also people that when they see him only speak spanish. He does know spanish, but what is it that makes them assume so? And because I am white when someone does not want me to understand they speak spanish assuming that I dont understand. i grew up right along the mexican boarder, and i am pretty fluent in the language, but we still find people who make assumptions. you knwo what assumptions do.
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@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
i guess you cant control it, thats just the way people think, and maybe they associate black guys that are beng stereotyped in the movies and tv shows, you know most of them are "gangstas", like most rappers these days. oh well, just dont mind them, who you date is none of their business anyway, with the exception of course of your family and close friends, if they tell you to stay away from your bf then something must be up.
@xvandyx (121)
• United States
23 Apr 08
Hi. I would like to start off by saying that people like that will never change. It's called being closed-minded. Honestly, it's ridiculous how far people take being conservative. It doesn't make sense to me. I mean it's okay to keep your beliefs, but when race is involved I think it crosses the line. You should just IGNORE THEM! They obviously don't know what true love is. If they are blind to see that then maybe you shouldn't associate yourself with them. Just because he is black doesn't mean trouble!!! There are white, mexican, asian people that do bad things. Not just blacks. It's ridiculous if people stereotype like that!! Keep your head up girl
@focjop20 (233)
• Puerto Rico
23 Apr 08
Hitler, saddam, Bush, chenny,this are only some of the good white faces, people think are good. What about Martin Luther King, was he bad. Don't worried about it, they are just some ignorants suckers.
• Hampton, Virginia
23 Apr 08
i think maybe some people have a point. but it's not black men you should avoid. it's men every where with actions that could put you and your family in danger. lot's of times it's always black men are dangerous, they are untrustworthy blah blah blah ! you here this just about everywhere in the world today. people are so blinded by color they would rather hire a serial killer than an honest man. or love a rapist more than a true love all because of the color of they're skin (or if it has color) not all black men are the same. black people world wide are just like any other minority. there is good and bad in them as well. i think some people would know that if they would just give them a chance. i think your right for dating this guy if you love him and if people do not wish to accept that then that should be there problem.
@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
22 Apr 08
well i believe there is racism everywhere , although i am not able to understand how people have so much time in the world to pass racist comments on anyone. My bf was in europe a year back and a guy just passed him by and pushed him in one corner just because he is an indian. I don't really understand why people do this. i feel you should ignore their comments and do only what your heart says.Troublemakers are everywhere. ~pinks~
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
22 Apr 08
I know how you feel. My husband is white and I'm Hispanic. I look more Hispanic than white. Anyway, we've been married for a long time and he is a really great guy. I love this man so much, but at first my mother was surprise, but after awhile she got to really like my husband. However his stepfather is another story. His stepfather and uncle don't have to much of a liking for Hispanics or Mexicans. So being around them for me is odd. A lot of the time in my husband's family I am treated like the outsider, because even his cousins and aunt don't really like me because of my race, but they at least try to get along. If you love someone then love them and who gives a rats butt about what others think. You seem to have a great guy, so keep that guy of yours. Be happy.
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
22 Apr 08
My general view is that our people, reformers, elders, religions,political system, education system are not working towards a non-racist regime.
@stacyv81 (5905)
• United States
22 Apr 08
well,... Unfortunately racism is abig issue. Black people and white people are (At least in the US) the two groups that seem to be against each other the most. I think that people just need to stop, and realize that this way of thinking is not doing any good for anyone! YEs, there are some differences, but there are also similarities, as for dating, I think people should just let people be with whomever they choose, after all the other people do not date him, you do, so whats it to them? People just need to grow up and realize there are way more important things on this earth besides the color of someone's skin!
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
Racism just like discrimination; despite the fact that racism or any acts of it are being condemned now, there are still people that practice it. I really think that some people is not open to that idea. But having a relationship with another race is far more accepted now than the past years. I guess movies and TV shows has contributed big for mixed races to be accepted. As for your situation, I guess movies also contributed to it because most of the time bad characters were being portrayed by blacks. And maybe some people generalized some times, they have seen a black one committed a crime and they're thinking that all blacks are capable of doing it. I guess people should be more open minded, should not generalized, and should not judge anybody by their physical attributes.
@cripfemme (7718)
• United States
22 Apr 08
First of all, congratulations on your relationship! It sounds like you are really happy. As to why people are still racist, remember that slavery ended in late 1865, 143 years ago, hardly a hiccup on the evolutionary timescale. I'm sure that in 1000 years, if we're still here and haven't destroyed ourselves yet (which we might at the rate we're going), racism will be an odd concept people read about in encyclopedias. As to people bullying you about your relationship, stand up for yourself and your boyfriend! People probably talk to you like that because they know they can get away with it. If you actually like them, tell them you'll stop talking to them unless they stop memtioning this line of thought. If you don't like them just tell them to F off! Just my opinion.
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
22 Apr 08
Today in this society, i think there are a lot of stereo types and a misconceptions that people still have. i am thinking the experiences that they have had may have been negative when dealing with black men. that may be the case. it is up the individual to educate themselves about people of different races so they wont be believe things that aren't true. if the guy u are with treats you right, and you are happy. u shouldn't worry about what others say. its your life. no one can live for you. have a good day
@drumbum04 (172)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
There's a concept in sociology and anthropology called ethnocentrism and this means believing that your culture is superior to another culture. I think that it is wrong and immoral because each culture has its beauty and no one has the right to discriminate and be a racist.
@Hatley (164757)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Apr 08
questgionsnoanswers I am so sorry for all those stupied bigoted people who do that to you. We should be a lot more advanced than we are. Its inbelieable how yet today there is so much bigotry in this country. I feel that if two people love and respect each other then hey thats wonderful Ido not care if their skin is black green yellow or white. People are people and some are good and some are not You sound like you have a very kind and loving boyfriend and who could want for more that that.AS I say some people are so bigoted that nobody can get through to them and that is one very sad fact. God Bless.