How would you deal with your child's teacher who gives too much homework?

Homework is getting more and more exercises. It's not only too many exercises but also difficult. Nowadays, everybody want their child more intelligent than others.

Hi Bebs08, you are in N. Carolina, I am in New Jersey...I have a 32 yr. old and an 18 yr. old who is just about to graduate high school and hopefully go on to college but let me tell you it hasn't been easy...here, getting to see any homework, starting from Middle school is like pulling teeth...I hardly ever saw any homework come home and that bothered me to no end, it still does...I feel that homework is sooooooooooooo important...and I am guessing that the people that wrote in that they do their children's homework didn't express themselves correctly...I bet anything that they sat down with their children to do the work, not that they actually did the work for them...when I did see homework and she needed help I would sit with her and try to help without giving away any answers...she would have to locate and figure out the answers herself...I think it has payed off...but my point here is that you really should thank whatever powers you believe in that they do give homework. Also, in many schools they have homework clubs...and if you search the internet there is homework help for children of all ages...stay cool and keep doing what you are doing, remember your child is the future of our country and who knows he or she may grow up to be President!! Good luck and keep on homeworking!! ~G~

homeworks are just fine as long as these can cater the capacity of the child. parents will really indulge in this activity because there are assignments that requires scissors and all. just enjoy doing it. it also creates bonding between you and your child

i have a preschooler and he too has lots of homework. it depends on how you motivate your child to do his homeworks. from my experience i ahd to build a habit for him. i mean you will be the one to make his schedule.after school i let him sleep in the sfternoon since he attended classes in the morning. upon waking up, i let him answer half of his assignments then i would allow him to play after that. after dinner, the half should be answered again and let him play after. i hope this would help.

First of all I will be talking to the teachers about it. My expectation is that my daughter will get class time. If they are giving work without class time, either she will not do it, or I will do it. As long as she learns and retains the concepts, there is no reason for her to do anything outside of school, and I will not change my mind about this. *I* never needed extra reinforcement outside school and I don't think very many kids actually do. If the teachers are not teaching and then giving time in class for practicing what they learned, then the teachers and the schools are at fault for this mess. Like your nephew, when I have work I need to accomplish, I just get it done. I don't care whether I learn or not, and likely I don't, I just try to get things I dislike done as quickly as possible so I don't have to waste my limited time on something of no importance.

It is easy to me ,because I'll tell my child,do the homework if he is interesting it,and if he know how to do the homework, I'll tell him that don't do the homework if he doesn't like it.Because it was that when I was a childern did.

I think I would go to the school and tell the teacher that my child goes to school 8 hours a day and any more than 1 hour at night is to much. I have a good working relationship with my childrens teacher and let them know up front what I expect and they do the same.

If teachers could get back to teaching (through no fault of their own) instead of teaching the 'test', it would be better for all students. That being said, no parent should ever do their childs homework, the child will not learn anything that way, and possibly fall behind in class. I always gave my kids some down time when they came in from school, about an hour, then it was homework time. I didn't pressure them, however long it took them was how long they didn't have free time in the evening. I always checked their homework when they were younger and in middle school, as they got into high school they had less homework. The curriculum is not set by the teacher only her daily planning is under her/his control. Before taking this issue to the principal or superintendent, you should check with other parents in your childs class/grade and see if they are having the same issues, if so, then take it above the teacher. It may just be that the child needs a change in the homework schedule as I stated above that I did.

Here the homework is just so heavy. I already didn't know how I could survive from those days. I hated it as I didn't have more spare time to do something I liked. But I had no choice. The teachers were very strict and I couldn't do anything to change it. I had to finish my homework everyday anyway. I love China

The homework given by the teacher, must enthuse the children to learn, more and more, in the sense it must be light and innovative, not that asking the child to do the problems or exercises in the books, but should be develop and horne the skills of imaginative and adaptive skills. Who ever doesnot fit in to this criteria,be it a teacher or a parent,does not do good the children.

I would schedule a conference with the principal of the school asap. I would explain to them your child cannot do all of the homework and that you do not want them to do that much homework - you send them to school to learn, don't you? I would explain to the principal from now on your child will only be doing 1 hour max of homework and after 1 hour that's it. This should be a wake up call to the teacher! I was always bombarded by homework in school. I ended up doing most of it in other classes - like doing my spelling homework while everyone else was doing math problems - I did this all the way up until high school.

It would depend on the specific situation, but my first suggestion would be to call a meeting with the other parents and the teacher and school administration to discuss the problem. It is important when you confront such a situation to have all the facts and present those rather than spaking from emotion.

I am going to be brutally honest here and, I really hope I don't offend anyone but, it has to be said because, you asked for my opinion so, here it is. I had a ton of homework when I was in school and, I did every bit of it by myself. And, when I say a ton, I mean it. I would bring home a backpack packed full of 4 books and, another 2 or 3 in my arms. I would get home and start my homework right away. I would work until dinner (maybe and hour and a half or 2 hours. I would eat dinner (maybe an hour) and then I would get right back to my homework for another 2 hours. I was a good student. That was my job. That is all I had to do. Learn, do my homework, and learn some more. I never once complained about too much homework. Why would I? It was my job! I had to do it! It wasn't my teachers' jobs to make sure I could spend enough time playing once I got out of school for the rest of the day. It was my teachers' jobs to teach me. To mold my mind into a bright, intelligent person. Job well done! I hate to hear of parents that complain on behalf of their kids that their kids are getting too much homework. School is their job. Are you going to complain for them when their boss has them doing work at their office someday? This is what is called a "Helicopter Parent" and the Helicopter Parenting has got to stop! Children today are our future tomorrow. If they can't take care of themselves because mommy and daddy went to battle for them over actually having to do homework, who will do the jobs that need to be done in the future? No...kids don't get too much homework! Some kids don't get enough! And, this business with parents doing their kids homework? Are you serious? Will that parent find a way to take their test too? Because, I would love to know how they manage that!

To much of home work is not good to a normal student. A Student who has interest in studies, in doing work daily ,will think a burden if his or teacher gives a lot of work at home . Naturally , he lose interest in studies. I have to deal his or her class-teacher or subject teacher, who gives lot of home work,by saying his or her politely that, too much of home- work will play in two ways: 1.it is advantageous .2.it is disadvantageous. so, Please see the capacity and interest in the student to do the work. otherwise the student will lose interest in studies for ever by doing the more work. So, I request you to give him or her that much of work , which he or she accept it happily.

I think this is a very common problem. Kids these days get so so much homework that they have no time to just be creative or socialize. It also starts at such a young age now....first grade. Other than a book report once a month, current events and studying spelling...I did not get much homework until middle school. I did complain to the teachers and it did absolutely no good at all. It wasn't just one teacher....it is how it is now all over, i think. I think it is over-kill and really does have the opposite effect on many kids and like your grandson, they just are tuning out rather than really learning.

There is no easy answer to this. One problem is probably that once the kids get into middle school here they suddenly see a huge increase in homework. That can easily lead to an overwhelming feeling. However, homework is important for retention purposes of that what had been taught in school that day. It's also a way for the teacher to assess whether the information was really understood by each student. Unfortunately, nowadays with schedules being so tight and curriculums bulky, teachers don't get to teach in class everything that needs to be taught and homework serves as a catch-up mechanism. Either way, it's a necessary evil. For our kids, we stressed from the get-go that homework is important and has priority over everything else in their little lives. Ours come home from school, have a snack, and hit the books. If friends knock on the door, they are informed that it is homework time in our house and whichever child of ours they want to play with will come outside or over to their house once they are done with their work. They have a structured setting and work area, which makes it easier to concentrate. This said, it won't guarantee retention, lol. Of course kids would rather go and play or watch TV, and they will think about that while doing their homework. But even though it doesn't look like it, their minds will absorb at least some of the information they deal with. To ensure some sort of retention, we do check their work and make sure they understand it. And if we have to do it over dinner, lol. Now, my kids are still at elementary level or below. Of course it's easier there, but you just have to start early to make sure they understand that school and homework is their job. Now, if at a higher level a teacher would assign three hours of homework just for one class to be finished and handed in the next day and that on top of regular homework for other classes, I would complain to the teacher, the principal, and the school board. I'm sure if one does a web search one could find some rules of thumb as to how much homework per grade level is acceptable for the average student. That said, if you notice your child struggling with the homework assignments, you will have to work with him/her to find out what the problem is, to find a solution to the problem and maybe even to tutor him/her. Furthermore, the teacher should get involved by offering suggestions and maybe coming up with more interesting homework assignments. Homework doesn't always have to be dull. Properly designed, homework can be an engaging activity. Dang, I'm rambling on again. Hope you found some of the suggestions helpful;)