How Can You Trust Your Man, If he has Broken It Too Many Times??

I can't be a martyr for him. Why waste your time to someone who don't know the true meaning of dedication and faithfullness. Just let him go and maybe at the end of the road you will meet someone you deserve.

I was there...trust was broken too many times. Finally, I violated one of HIS rules and he flipped. Maybe it was my way of breaking it off, I'm not sure. But I loved him and that made it even harder to break it off, even knowing that I couldn't really trust him.

I actually went through this 3 times with my on again bf....NORMALLY with any other guy I wouldnt do it..I'd just walk away licking my wounds BUT with him its different. I know why he has done what he has and I understand his headspace during those times etc..this IS however his last chance and he knows it. I've put my foot down and he KNOWS that he has to REALLY REALLY PROVE HIMSELF to me this time and I'm not goin to make it easy for him at all...Plus I know in my heart and feel deep in my soul that he DOES love me but outside influences and personal issues got in the way in the past...Do I think it wont be the case again? Not at all, in fact I'm all too aware that it COULD very well happen again but I'm willing one more time to give him a chance..

Anyone can make one mistake that is perhaps human nature and you can give them the benefit of the doubt. When they repeatedly act the same way over and over it becomes a pattern of behaviour and it is quite obvious that despite whatever they may say nothing will ever change. Why ..... because if they didn't mean it the first time why would they the nth time and by "forgiving" them everytime they screw up you are reinforcing the belief that in truth it doesn't matter anyway as you'll just forgive again if they mistreat you like every time before. For your own sanity and love of yourself break free and find someone who will treat you with love and respect you deserve. Leopards really don't change their spots!

This man will never change. Maybe some day, way down the road, he will wake up and see his hurtful ways, most likely because he, himself, is hurt. But it is highly unlikely that he will do it any time soon. I was married to such a man. I have heard the words, "I'm sorry. I'll never do it again" so many times that I finally had had enough. I told him to get out. (It was my house we were living in, so I wasn't going to be the one leaving!) He has since changed, but that was 26 years later! When a man like that has someone whom he knows will forgive him over and over again, and believe his promises, he will keep doing what he has been doing and has no reason to change. These types do not care about the feelings of others. I loved my husband long after I divorced him. But I knew that I could not live with him the way he treated me. But I have never trusted him again. He has changed, and is a better person today, but I still would not trust him. If you are in this relationship, get out of it now! It will only continue to hurt you. It will hurt leaving, of course, but you have to ask yourself what are you getting out of the relationship. It sounds like it's nothing but pain. He promises you he won't do it again so that you will stay with him. It's an insecurity these men have. But he keeps doing whatever it is that he promises never to do again. Broken promises are broken promises. They can't be taken back. They can't be "fixed". If you are in this relationship, and you stay with him, you are only setting yourself up for more heartache. You have to decide whether to stay or go. But, honestly, how can you love a man who constantly breaks promises to you? This is not a nice man. He is certainly not considering your feelings. I wish you the best.

There is a saying, "Everyone deserves a second chance!" A guy has his chance to fix his broken promises. But more than 3x of wrong doing is just enough. If he truly loves you, he won't do stupid things to upset and hurt you, cause that's the last things he will ever do to someone he truly loves. Love the person, there's nothing wrong with that, the 10 Commandments even said that we should love one another. But enough is enough. Before he does something that he knows will ruin his relationship, he should really start thinking hundred times before doing it.

I know I speak so boastful but for me I don't really believe in " love is blind". I think in this kind of situation "one is enough, two is too much" more applicable. Certainly a broken glass will never be a glass again.

This is one of the reasons I've made a rule, everyone gets the same deal: three strikes, they get to break my heart, hurt me severely only three times. Three life-latering chances, I like to call them. No one gets more than three chances. No matter what happens, I will always love the people I've been with. But trust is a fragile thing, and once it's obliterated it's hard to rebuild. For my own sake, I would cut him loose. No one deserves that, no matter how much you love somebody.

hi dear, sorry to hear that, but it is very similar to what i have gone through and if you wanna know the truth if he has got away with one lie he will never change. and if there is no trust in a relationship wht is the use of it at all. I do believe the basis of a relationship is trust.

my answer to this is you probably cannot. once he gets started down that road,there may be no turning back. Love can be forgiving and can be stretched and stretched but there comes a breaking point and then its just no good anymore. I would give this person an ultimatum. either you straighten up this time or I am out of here. I will love you and help you but if you break this promise then it is over.

If the relationship has been going on for a while and he hasn't changed I would either kick him out or pack up and leave. There are alot of other men that are are worth my time and love out there. Staying in a relationship that is going no where only brings you heartache. get out.

once your partner broken your trust it could never be the same... you will always have the doubt,then it will be the start of disrespect on him...ofcors its always good to try,or give it another chance,but until when you will be willing to give him the chances...until you cant go on?, until you lose you respect to your self?... for me...when you feel tired already,dont try to make it up again for him,thrice is actually enuf for you to get tired on his lies,and start to think of your self...cos the several times he did it means he would do it over and over again... besides if he really mean it to make ryt his mistakes,hes the done shuld please you,and will do everything to regain your trust,so open your eyes and,,,we all can see which is the truth...

I used to be that way too eihdra that the man I trust broke my heart so many times.I give him many chances too,but you know there's always end for being martir type:-).So I finally I give up and let him go just like the bird,but I have no regret bcoz I know I did the right thing...wink!

do not trust anyone what he or she says, instead the things of anyone did in right way can only be trusted. actually someone was born for something, maybe you were born for him. ask yourself it is yes or not, if yes in, if not out. people can never change one's character lifetime as a building, that means it is hopeless to change him. ask yourself whether you love him very much. I think you should stop the relationship if you have only one reason for him what is love, in opposition, you chould not leave him if you have other reason for keeping the relationship.

I would try to move on and love and respect myself first and more. You cannot continue loving a man who doesn't have "palabra de honor" and respect to himself. You cannot force him to change either or change only for your sake. He must find the initiative to change and not prompted by other people or else, it won't be effective. Sometimes, we tend to show so much love to someone that they abuse it so start showing him that you have yourself to love first even it it would him leaving him alone.

It really all depends on how severe the broken promises are. I guess if they are so bad that they break your heart, its probably not worth all the heartache. I know that when I first got with my fiance, I let him know that lying is the most terrible thing he could ever do to me. Since then he has told a few white lies and hid a couple things from me, and I've caught him every time. Every time he would say he'd never do it again, because he knew how much I hated it, but he would end up doing again anyways. I continued to forgive him and let him have another chance. I love him and I'm willing to keep giving him tries because our relationship is just not worth ending because of the lies. Then again, most were stupid lies that if he had been honest would not have been a big deal at all. He reasoning though was because he didn't want to make me mad. I explained to him that I will only be 1000 times more mad if you lie about it than if you tell me truth in the first place. So finally, after many chances he has gotten the picture. I've had full trust in him for the last full year (we've been together 3, and he lied a lot in the beginning, at least every other month about something stupid). He just knows that if he is honest, I can't really get mad at him, but if he lies, I can lose his trust and hold a grudge for years.