The Book of Rules

United States
June 4, 2008 10:29pm CST
How many times have you heard someone say, "children don't come with a rule book"? If you could start a book and add a rule what rule would you make sure that it included? After the recent dissapearance of my son, I would have to say the first one that comes to my mind is "I must know where you are 100% of the time." Which rule would you like to add?
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
5 Jun 08
I have heard that said many times too over the years. I would have to add the rule of, no one knows how to raise your own child better, than yourself. Not everyone has to raise their child the same. Love comes in many ways and it is not always money that makes your child respect you. It is the love and guidance that comes from your heart that makes you a good parent.
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• United States
5 Jun 08
It also doesn't mean you are a good parent just because you were the one to "make" the child. You don't have to be the biological parent to be a good parent. Its the love you give them.
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
5 Jun 08
My first rule would be... - Earn their respect from day one. Be good, be nice, be generous... but be firm in what you expect in return. And they will respect you for it. Once you have your child's respect... it never goes away. And the rest is easy... because when you ask them to do something... even if they are reluctant... they will listen to you and obey you. Many parents make the mistake of spoiling their children when they are young and letting them get away with blue murder. By the time the child becomes a teenager at 12... the mother decide to change the rules because she wants to have control of what her child is doing. But by that time... it is way too late. If the child has been given total freedom for 12 years... it will never let its mother remove that freedom... and it will rebel against her.
• United States
5 Jun 08
What you said makes alot of sense. My son is starting to show some of those tendencies all of a sudden and I have to admit I have been spoiling him.
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@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
5 Jun 08
My rule would be Never ever talk to strangers!!!!! My 4 year old daughter loves to talk to anybody and everybody. It scares me but she never leaves my side and she is never with anyone but me. I hope everything turnes out alright with your son. Kid should come with a manual lol. It would have made my life a heck of a lot easier!
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• United States
5 Jun 08
Thats a good rule. My son has been found, but it was very difficult when he was missing. Children do tend to be very trusting, overly so at times.
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
6 Jun 08
well 100 percent of the time is a bit much, but check in with me when you plan on being aways longer than expected would be my rule.
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• United States
7 Jun 08
You are probably right. 100% of the time, is a bit much, how about 99? LOL. After what I've just been through with my son, its hard not to say 100%.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
5 Jun 08
what a wonderful question. now is rules for other parents to use, or rules for children. I think if it was a rule that children must follow, it would be to love, honor and respect yourself at all times. If it it's a rule for parents to use when it comes to raising children, it would be to love, honor, and respect yourself at all times. it's a wonderful way to live and teach
• United States
5 Jun 08
lol it would be nice if they came with rule books huh? I think the main thing is saying please and thank you , and being respectful.
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@Rosekitty (19499)
• San Marcos, Texas
5 Jun 08
Morning Kat... Don't know if it would be a rule but maybe a promise to always say i love you to eachother! Not much on rules but feel its a very important thing for all to say and mean...would hate my last words to be anything else! Huggs
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@p1kef1sh (45647)
5 Jun 08
For older children that have left home. "Phone!" When they are away you wonder what the heck they are up to. A call every now and again reassures you that all is well (or not). Let's you remind them that they are loved - they might even tell you that you are too! Usually of course it's "I need money". Don't we all Sweetie, don't we all.
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@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
I don't have children but I'm sure that when I do that rule would be one I'd love to have. The rule I'd love to add is "Take the time to listen to the advice your parents give you, even if you don't follow it consider what they have to say" I guess thats because I value my parents opinion and It bugs me greatly when i see others get a parents opinion then sit there and go but but but or not even bother to listen.
@saundyl (9698)
• Canada
5 Jun 08
I must also add..i now like my moms rule for my sisters and i as teenagers. The "What do you think you deserve as a punishment" and that rule that if we didnt come up with something she thought fit our misdeed...Her punishment was going to be ten times worse than ours. (The one she used on me that had the most effect was taking away my bedroom door)
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Don't tell lies, they will catch up to you anyway. It's not worth the problems they cause. Be Honest. You only asked for one. This is mine.
@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
6 Jun 08
Well I would like to add "Be polite and respectful!" Because I do don't like the freshmen students. I have been in this university for 3 years and the freshmen is the worse I have ever seen. They will jump the queue when everybody is waiting patiently. They think they are the best and never show any respect to others. They always yell for something and don't really think of the consequence. All in all, I don't like them at all. I just want them so show some politeness and respect!
• United States
5 Jun 08
I am glad to hear that your son was returned OK. I think that if there is one rule of parenting it is that kids should have a mother and a father who live in the same house. In this country we supposedly have a 50% divorce rate. Well, That means we have a 50% success rate too, but instead we focus on the negative. And then we wonder why our kids are killing each other, their parents and themselves. When Hurricane Andrew hit Miami, Florida, there were people down there going thru the rubble and trying to figure out what made the buildings fall down,(well beside those 180mph+ winds) And more importantly HOW TO BUILD THEM BETTER. From the ground up they changed the building codes and learned from adversity. You can't prevent the winds even with the all positive thinking in the world. But you can learn from the past. instead we just perpetuate the past. See my next discussion "SWINGTOWN: Has America really sunk THIS low?" One other thing that I noticed while skipping around myLot. The subject of "Parenting" is filed under HOBBIES. Is it any wonder?
• United States
5 Jun 08
As a mother of three boys (8 year old twins and a 2-weeks away from being 4 year old) who all have chronic medical needs (including but not limited to: epilepsy, cerebral palsy, visual impairment, bleeding disorder...), I think my #1 rule (learned by way of the school of hard knocks) is: Don't sweat the small stuff! Pick your battles.... some stuff is just not even worth it. If your three year old wants to wear the tie dyed shirt again, even if its the fifth day in a row...sneak it off of him when he's sleeping and throw it in the washer with a load of laundry you'll be doing anyhow. We homeschool and because of the chronic health needs, safety stuff is important to me (I can't imagine one of them disappearing on me! How horrified you must have been!), but, thankfully, I've not had to yet really "separate" because I kind of have to hang around in case of the ever-present possibility of seizures or bleeds....but I do like the "I must know where you are at all times" rule!
@Hatley (159236)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Jun 08
in the bookof rules for children I would add this one,do unto others as you would have them do unto you. its so simple yet if we taught that to our 'kids it might lessen a lot of strife.
• United States
5 Jun 08
Mine would be "You don't own your kids, you rent them for 18 years." Too many people think they can treat their kids any way they want. Their answer is always, "They're my kids!" Oh, they're yours to screw up and then release on society. I've seen people wailing on their kids in public. Imagine what they'd do at home. And if a cop saw them, forget it. Their completely mystified that it's against the law to beat your kids. And another rule would be "When you use violence on a child you teach that child how to be violent." I don't know how these people sleep at night. I could never harm my child.
@mummymo (23709)
5 Jun 08
OH my there are so many to choose from but I think the one I would add is that just because you think you know everything does not make it true! lol If only I could add that one1 xxx