What do i do??? My husband is going to Iraq.

United States
June 18, 2008 12:00pm CST
My husband will be leaving to go to Iraq in Feb. I have never ever delt with someone one leaving me like this.... Mostly my husband the person that i'm suppost to spend the rest of my life with???? Please help... How do i keep the love alive and going while he is over there???
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@kymber86 (165)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Speaking from experience, hun, you will do much better than you anticipate. You will be fine as long as you know that he is coming home. He's been there before and he came back, so you know he'll be back this time. Just remember that good friends are always a great thing to have around during a deployment
• United States
19 Jun 08
I dont know where i am going yet.. it so confussing
@missybal (4492)
• United States
24 Jun 08
My husband is over in Saudi Arabia right now, keeping as eye of the third world citizens working for the U.S. It's scary I know. My husband did the same. He volunteered to go, of course asking me first. As a military wife you can't hold them back, he wanted to go so I couldn't say no and we needed the money anyways. Really things are a lot safer over there than they were before. It's not like it's full out war anymore and for one there was a guy who came home from Iraq and shortly after he got home he was killed in a car accident, so honestly I don't worry about his safety anymore than I do when he is home except for the fact that if he gets hurt I can't help from where I'm at. Honestly the main thing is making sure you don't go mad. The hardest thing for me to deal with is my husband can only call me one to two times a week and only for 15 minutes each. I'm greatful he is where he can access the internet and we are able to chat on armychat.com. You just need to keep yourself incredibly busy. My husband has another 2 months to go, then he will be home for 4 but he is already signed up for another 6 months come January and not sure where right now. He wants to go to Iraq but it depends on what is needed. You have to be strong, and support them every way possible. I don't know about your husband but mainly what mine needs is plenty of reasurrance that I will still be here when he comes back. Even if your relationship is very strong now you need to keep telling them how proud you are to be his wife and how much you love him and tell him everything that is going on in your life so he can feel as much a part of it as possible. He will meet many people who the military has cost them their marriage and that is enough to put thoughts in their heads even if they won't admit to it. Send lots of letters and cards and my husband always appreciate when I'd send him a lock of my hair when he was away. Let him know you miss him but don't make him feel guilty about it. Stay positive, and get some hobbies. Honestly surviving all this has made my marriage so much stronger than I could ever imagine and I hope you find the same. Surviving military life and marriage means you can survive anything.
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@momz2gd (295)
• United States
19 Jun 08
I am sorry and I don't know how to cheer you up.
• United States
12 Aug 08
Thank you for the response have a nice day
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
18 Jun 08
It will be hard. There is no doubt about that. He is your husband. He is serving his country. That is something for you to be proud of. He will need your support. There will be letters. Emails, and the ocassional phone call. You just have to make those more precious. Cherish the time together now. Add in a bit of prayer. Just keep him in your heart.
• United States
19 Jun 08
YEA i know that i need to cherish the time we together right now
@spalladino (17924)
• United States
18 Jun 08
This is such a hard thing to face, I really feel for you and your husband. There are many things that you can do to keep the love alive while your husband is in Iraq, things that will help both of you to get through this. First of all, write him letters...lots of letters...even if he has access to email. Having hand written letters from you that he can read anytime he wants will mean a lot to him. If he will phone access stock him up on prepaid phone cards before he leaves and send him more as you're able to so that he can call. Pick a time in the evening that you both promise to look at the moon and tell the other goodnight. I know you won't be looking at it at the same moment in time but the idea that the two of you are sharing that moon and that "good night" can be special. Also, for you...have a support system at home. You should have friends, family, other military wives available to talk to whenever you're feeling down or alone and want to talk. I wish the best of luck to the both of you.
• United States
12 Aug 08
Thank you for the response... Have a nice day
• United States
18 Jun 08
I don't have any experience in this but I will give my best opinion. I think you should send care packages whenever possible and fill them with pictures, snacks, video games, and anything else that would make him think of being home with you. I'm sure this would be a difficult time for you. Surround yourself with friends and have them give you ideas. Volunteer on base to keep yourself busy and from going crazy. Take it one day at a time and make the most out of the time you two have together now before he goes. Tell him I said thank you for defending our freedom.