Since becoming a mom, what has changed with you? How are things different?

@cream97 (29087)
United States
June 20, 2008 11:00am CST
What do you go through since becoming a mom? What things have changed with you? How has the effect been?
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17 responses
• United States
20 Jun 08
My life has changed so much since I had my daughter 6 years ago. There is no more drinking or going out to party. There is no more late nights out with friends. The main thing is the money I use to spend on myself for material things. I no longer spend money on nice clothes, if anyone gets the name brand it is her. I use to get manis and pedis alot too, these are gone. It is all worth it though and would not change it for anything. She is my life and I brought her into it...I would sacrifice anything for her.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 Jun 08
What a wonderful mom you are! I believe that your daughter is very pleased with your love! I am so happy to see that there are mothers that really do love their children.. How sweet you are!
• United States
20 Jun 08
The biggest change for my husband and myself has been the freedom to do what we want, when we want to do it. We no longer get up at 1 A.M. to go have breakfast or go to an all night bowling lane. It isn't a change I regret, or one that I wish I could get back. Other changes include the fact that I do not spend money on something I want before considering my child's needs. I think about how that money could buy something my kids might need, and generally spend it on them instead of myself. It is amazing the things we are willing to give up for our kids, and I do it happily and willingly on a daily basis.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Yes, it is amazing, what we as mothers will do.. It is braveness to do for your kids without nothing in return..
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
26 Jun 08
My time. I used to spend time doing things for myself, and for my husband, and now I spend every extra minute doing things for my children. Also it is much harder to keep the house clean than it was when it was just my husband and I. Mostly though I have more love in my life, and I get lots of kisses and hugs every day.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
4 Jul 08
changes?matured minded and always worrying about my kids future its not like when i was single easy go lucky.
• United States
26 Jun 08
I got pregnant with my first when I was 19, he was born when I was twenty. I had my daughter a month before I turned 22, so I would say that what has changed me is my way of life. At nineteen I was going out to the club, hanging with my friends, etc. Since I have had children I have gone to the club once. I don't really miss the lifestyle, I just have toned down a bit since I became a mom.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
4 Jul 08
Well, since i became a mom my priorities has changed.Everything are all for my daughter's needs.I don't shop for myself but for her.I don't buy things for myself that i used to but i always thought she needs it more than me.There were times that i had to give my share of food for her because hers was not enough.I sometimes sacrificed my happiness just because of her.I want to provide her everything that she needs and evn her wants.
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
21 Jun 08
well, I spend my days with children, changing diapers, cleaning up messes, laundry, dishes, etc. I used to always be on the go doing this and doing that, and not really having too many responsibilities. four months ago when my third child was born she had a birth defect and had to be flown almost 230 miles away that day for surgery, and as a mom I learned the true meaning of terrified. Children are a great joy and a lot of work, and they are worth every second!
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
21 Jun 08
HI Cream, its a big responsibility, after i become mom i had to change my life style eating outside was stoped. then behavaior was cahnged (bit matured). Start focusing to one aim (my son) now whatever i do is for my son, how thing can benifit him. Life is become more busy and more of surprizes. enjoy :)
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
20 Jun 08
I became much more patient and understanding of people, especially children. I also became more resourceful and inventive and rediscovered the good times of childhood!
@ch88ss (2271)
• United States
24 Jun 08
Since becoming a mom for the second time I have matured a lot. I don't think of myself as much. I don't shop as much, I don't have as much of a PMS time (if you know what I mean). I am less selfish and a more responsible person. Though my biggest challenge is this time around I am a mother to a little girl who has learning disability and at the same time, my oldest becomes a teen. I am prepared for a trouble year but that is how motherhood changes me. I accept whatever comes my way.
• United States
20 Jun 08
Everything has changed. Now when I make a decision my first consideration is how it will effect my daughter. I used to be a party animal, now I'm a homebody. I think about the future which I never did before. My daughter has completely changed my life. Having a child makes things that used to seem like a big deal now seem trivial. At the same time it makes things that used seem little seem huge. I take joy in her little triumphs and pride in her achievements. Having a child has changed everything for me and I would not trade it for the world.
@4ofmyown (1119)
• United States
21 Jun 08
My oldest child is 10 and I can still remember exactly what I felt the minute I saw the first time. I remember thinking..So this is how much my mom and dad love me!!!I remember thinking...now I understand why the told me and taught me all the things they have. What an overwhelming feeling of emotions. I actually couldn't believe that I could love someone so much and there those feeling were in a matter of seconds. Now I have 4 children and am amazed with them everyday. I don't think I could honestly say I love anything more than them, they are the air I breath!!!
26 Jun 08
Were do I start, Im soooooo tierd I have two sons and i'm always on my feet with them. They can be a handful but I love them soooooo much. I have huge bags under my eyes, cause of the early mornings and going to sleep when they go to sleep. My whole rutine has changed from before i had kids. I feel more like a mum now since the children, Im going out less, and only going to local places where my buggy can take me. I have more stress from being a mum with bills, Babyfather, family and finding what to put in my childrens food. What food is safe for my children. Thanks B
21 Jun 08
there's been a lot of changes in my life since i had my son 7 years ago.before i could to malls every payday but when he came to my life whenever i go thru the items it always happened that i go pass by the women's section and i end up at the children's section and bought a thing for my son.my husband and i always think first of our son's needs before we buy things for ourselves.but we dont regret it anyways, seeing our son smiling and hugging us is like heaven for us! :)
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
20 Jun 08
So many things have changed. I wouldn't know where to begin. I guess my overall self changed. I know that I have more patients now, I am better at chooseing my battles, I take the time to stop and smell the roses now, I clean more now too. The effect all good things. I mean I was a wife for 3 years before we had our daughter and I did calm down a lot from when I was single to married but having her finished me off. I am a lot calmer now. I was over parties and stuff before I had her but even more now. My husband and I still take time for each other so that part hasn't changed a lot. Its been more of me as a person. I changed a lot. People that I run into from my past can't get over hoe differnet I am from before. Its all good change in fact I like my self more now that I am a mom then I did before. I do more for me now. I take the time to care about me so that I have reason to care about some one else. I also make better choices because I know that I have some one looking up to me now. I love being a mom. Its nice to have that unconditional love for some one. My daughter makes me a better person.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Oh so much has changed for me since becoming a mom. I was 19 when i got pregnant and just like any other young adult I was not making good decisions. Having a child helped me to realise I can have fun without all the parting. Plus I got confidence in myself after having children. Even started modeling after having two kids.
• United States
20 Jun 08
I have felt heart break, fear, love, happiness, joy, laughter, and a whole range of emotions that have been amplified by being a mother. Kids have brought out the best of me and made me become a better person. They have taught me so much about life and love. As a single person with no kids I thought how can any one want kids and now as a mother I think how can anyone live without kids. they have completed my life and showed me what living really means.