Do you TALK LESS and LISTEN MORE?or TALK MORE and LISTEN LESS?

Philippines
June 27, 2008 3:54am CST
Truly listening to another person is a GIFT-- the ultimate sign of respect for another's thoughts. But its a difficult gift to give.Most people i meet always love to talk and always want to be listened to. Whenever I am in a conversation, i am more of a listener than of a talker.It actually depends on the mood of the conversation and who i am conversing with.I usually give my piece when i am asked to.I am the type who listens and asks in line of what the talker is talking about.I talk more when i'm comfortable of talking freely with the other person and when i can see that i am given a full of the 100% attention.Let me write--thats where i am so very talkative at. lol. Whats your mode? Talking or listenning ?
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@gtdonna (1740)
27 Jun 08
I listen more, so much so, that people say I don't liek talking to them and I am too quiet lol. Talking much is just not my thing...I listen and then give my input. However, I do shut people up who have the tendency to talk, talk and don't let ne even get in a word. Or they ask me a question and before I can answer assume they know what I am going to say or I am thinking...
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• United States
27 Jun 08
I am called quiet too. If I don't have anything to say, I don't babble on. However, if I have an opinion on something, watch out. I think I am a pretty decent listener.
@gtdonna (1740)
27 Jun 08
I agree on that opinion part...I'm like hat too, when I do have something to say then I say it....an elderly man once told me to be like the Wise Old Bird. He said the more he spoke the less he heard, the less he spoke the more he heard.
@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I think the best communication comes from talking when we should and listening when we should. Most people don't master this. I think most people, while thinking they're listening aren't really doing that. They're considering what they will say next. True listening doesn't mean you're thinking up a great answer. It means you're listening.
• United States
2 Jul 08
Thanks for giving me best response on this one. I've actually taught a class on serving (as in ministry) by listening.
1 Jul 08
i think that most of the time i am a listener. though i am a pretty well balance. i'm a middle child, and we are normally more quiet. but once i get really close to a person, i'm more extroverted and fun. tell someone that really knows me that i'm quiet and they'll say you're lying. lol
@_Honey_ (781)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
There are times when you don't have to talk to much especially if there's a need to. There are times when for us to understand the situation, we have to listen. But not just simply listen. Make sure we pay attention. You may be listening but you're not understanding and you're not focusing your eyes on details. In this way, when someone needs an advice or point of view, you have enough understanding of what the situation is so as to be able to give a good, helpful, constructive feedback. If you pay attention, you won't only know what the situation is, you will know it's depth and impact to the person you're talking to and you will feel how it greatly affects him as a person.
• United States
30 Jun 08
I definitely listen more. Talking has never really been my thing. I've always been the shy/quiet girl. I've learned how to listen very well because of that.
30 Jun 08
I would rather prefer listening than talking.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
29 Jun 08
Hi mommyscribbles, For most of my life I talked more, now I try to do the opposite. Many people just need someone to listen to them. I can remember, more than one occasion when someone came to me with a problem. I would listen to their story, ask a few questions, and eventually, they'd have it figured out for themselves. Then they would thank ME, for what they had really done for themselves. Blessings.
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
29 Jun 08
i talk less and listen more. that is why i have so much interesting ideas from all the garbage that i let them ramble on their diarrhea in the mouth and they gave me a headache in the process, but also gave me ideas to create weird characters for my novels.
@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
28 Jun 08
I tend, depending on the situation and the person, to listen. I have a bad habit of interrupting when the story gets too exciting though. My background is psychology and communication....so i agree that listening...really HEARING...is a gift.
• Australia
28 Jun 08
i'm more of a listener myself. i'm quite happy to just go with the flow of the conversation rather than initiate a topic. but if i'm being given the floor and i got something to share that i know will be interesting to everybody around, then that's the time that i will do more talking.
• Philippines
28 Jun 08
I always prefer to listen especially in discussions in which I can learn a lot from them. If I have a chance or idea that are haven't talked about, that's the time I talk. Also, listening is the best thing you can give to someone who needs to be listened. Listening is another way to show respect to others, if you want to say something, listen and let them be finished first. Afterwards, the floor is now yours.
@iskayz (5422)
• Philippines
28 Jun 08
Hi mommyscribbles! I think I am both. I've just learned to balance it well. Not too much of a talker cause' it might irritate the person I'm conversing with and neither too much of a listener cause' they might find me boring to talk to. I also take caution every time I speak or share my views. I don't just butt in into a conversation and I always choose the right words to use, so as not to hurt anybody or misinterpreted. Ciao!
28 Jun 08
I am not a good listner, when i am talking to someone who is closed to me or even when two of my friends are talking to each other, i poked my nose in and add a piece. I cant stop myself of jumping in to a conversation which attracts me or of i know something intresting. If you have any suggestions about this you can guide me up. With Regards, ES
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Without a doubt I am more a listener. Always have been. And because of this all my family come to me with their problems because they know I will listen to what they need to say. And usually there is no need for me to do much talking. They just need someone to listen to them. But I'm like you, I usually do my talking in writing. That way I can read through it and measure my words and hopefully make sure I haven't said something that I should not say.
@bevvy22 (279)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Well mommyscribbles, I am unfortunately a talker. My husband says I never listen to him either. In my defense, I have taught myself to tune out others and not on purpose. I work in a doctor's office and we see babies. I tune out their screams and all the noises in the office. When I concentrate on something, I tune everything out. Unfortunately, I do it at home now.
@walijo2008 (4647)
• United States
28 Jun 08
Yeah I'm a listener, not much of a talker, but if I'm writing like I do here on mylot I always have alot to say..lol. Like you it just depends on who I'm talking to, and whatever they are going thru at the time, most of the time I don't have much to say.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I must confess I am a talker, but I do like to listen and offer advice if I'm able.
@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
27 Jun 08
At one time I was a total listener and it was difficult to get 2 words out of me, even if I was asked an opinion. I would give a short answer and be done with it. I find that I sometimes talk when I am nervous with someone new but I am also a listener, but I don't always remember what others tell me. My kids tease me about having Alzeimers. I also have always been much better at communicating with the written word which is where I met both of my husbands as well as another significant other..........but I also divorced both of them and am no longer with the significant other!!
@alexsis (2149)
• United States
27 Jun 08
I listen more. I'm not much of a talker anyway, so all I do is listen. When someone is talking it is right and respectful to listen and pay attention to them. Some people talk too much and just don't know when to stop.
• United States
27 Jun 08
I tend to be the listener. I may not have the answer to solve the problem, but feel that if I listen and give my friends the ability to talk it out, they may find the answer for themselves. Sometimes just a shoulder to cry on is what someone needs to move forward and overcome the issue. On the opposite side of the spectrum, I am not a talker as a rule. I use my writing as an outlet for my thoughts or problems and try to find the solution while writing.