Do You Scold Your Kids in Public Places?

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@Muelitz (1592)
Canada
July 1, 2008 8:11am CST
Do you have a habit of scolding your children even when you are in public places? Don't you wait till you get home before you nag about the things that they did wrong?Just Curious, SFC
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@bethyboo (399)
• United States
3 Jul 08
It is really hard for me to say what I would do because my little guy is only eight months old so I haven't had any trouble yet. I always hated when parents jerk their kids around and yell at them. I do believe that children need to know right then what they are doing wrong and why they shouldn't do it but I think I would calmly take them aside and talk to them. I realize that may be easier said than done. I just strongly feel that parents should not cause a scene scolding their children in public. That is only scolding them for exactly what you are doing.
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@kezabelle (2985)
1 Jul 08
If they do something they shouldnt then yes I will tell them off in public, I wont wait until I get home as IMO the behaviour must be corrected at the time not hours later when chances are they have forgotten what they did. I dont care if it bothers others to see me scold my child I will discipline them how I see fit as their parent and if others dont like it they are very capable of walking away and averting their eyes its truely no ones business so I dont have any problems scolding them in public
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
Letting them know right away about the bad thing they did right away seems a good idea as well but in this case I would try to talk to them in an adult way and not scold them. :)
@kezabelle (2985)
2 Jul 08
Yes but like I say my girls are only 2 and 4 years old an adult conversation is not always possible certainly not with the 2 year old as she is only just 2 and to be honest i dont think just discussing the behaviour is always enough sometimes if its not really bad then yes but often a scolding is needed aswell because there are times where their behaviour is just not acceptable and there will be no discussions on that
@ellie333 (21029)
2 Jul 08
When they are little they need to be told immediately that their behaviour is wrong, there is no point in waiting until you get home. I will take to one side and explain what they have doe and why they shouldn't and if the bad behaviour continues they will be going home. My older ones I will give a look too and they know boy are they in trouble when they get home. Ellie:D
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
You got a good point there. Thanks for sharing.:)
@mayka123 (10292)
• India
2 Jul 08
As far as possible I try to avoid saying something in public. But then there are times when you just cannot control your temper and then I start immediately and just cannot wait till we get home.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
Yes that sometimes happen, can't control your emotions. When that happens, I let someone else handle it. :)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
It shouldn't be a habit. For me, it's something that you do out of a need for it. But I don't really scold them just to embarass them. I simply talk in a normal way. I believe we never should raise our voices specially to our kids. We just have to talk to them as normal as possible. I always tell them that we can only shout if the house is on fire.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
You have a good point there. Thanks for sharing your thoughts:)
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
I never scold my kids whether in public or at home in private. What I do is talk to them like an adult and I try to teach them how to think smart and do the right thing. I don't say this is wrong or right, only that they should learn how to think and find out which is the right thing and to do that right thing all the time and it will save them some grief.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
I believe that is the right way to go. Talk to kids in an adult manner. Thanks for the input. I will try to see if this will work with my kids. Thanks:)
@baileycows (3669)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I try not to because you never know who is going to turn you in for abuse. I dont abuse my children but they do get spankings when they deserve them.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
In the country where I come from, there are minimal cases of someone turning you in if you spank your child. Having said that, I still refrain from spanking and scolding them in public places.:)
@judelen (428)
• Philippines
1 Jul 08
Hello! I will not scold my children in a public places. I believe that scolding them is not right for me. If i get mad i talk to them in a good manner because i believe that children felt bad when they ashame in the public.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
You are definitely right, it is not good to scold the kids in public:)
@bubbles89 (122)
• United States
1 Jul 08
I have done so in the past. My boys are now 10 and 13 and know not to show out in public. I never had a problem with it because I figured if they were going to act out in public then they would be disciplined/corrected in public. They didn't like it because they said it was embarrasing. They realized that mom wasn't a push over and they needed to behave otherwise they (and who ever else was around) would hear me. Great topic
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
2 Jul 08
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I on the other hand have small kids who still don't know that its shameful to get scolded in public places. So I try to be nice and let them know my feeling when we get home.:)
@sirfsuraz (468)
• Nepal
10 Jul 08
My parents always scolds me in public place. I really got depressed when my dad did that. My mom never scold me in public.But its my dad who scolds me so much in public. When i was a kid he beat me so hardly in just a simple matter such that an old women near to us further scolded my father for giving so much punishment. I hated him a lot at that time and i also do it now when he scolds me in public.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
9 Jul 08
I always warned my son to be good outside because when he got home if he wasn't he would get it. He was pretty good outside so I didn't have much to worry about.
• Canada
5 Jul 08
I do not have children, but if I did, I would not scold them in a public place. If they were really misbehaving, I would take them out of the public place to somewhere private, and scold them there.
2 Jul 08
For me it depends pretty much on where they are and what they have done. I fthey are being down right obnoxious or generally causing a scene then I will tell them off or try and move them somewhere else so I can give them a good telling of. To be honest I tend to find that on most occasions you are far too aware of the reactions of people around you when it comes to disciplining children and the reactions I have had from complete strangers when I have told my kids off has made me quite sensitive and wondering whether I am over-reacting. On other occasions though I couldn't really care less what people think especially if the little darlings are doing/saying something they know full well is out of order. At the end of the day children need to have boundaries and know how to behave in public. I try to avoid smacking them as much as possible and wouldn't really do it in public so scolding would seem to be the most appropriate action.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
2 Jul 08
That's always been a tough one for me. I HATE causing scenes in public. I often find it just too embarrasing. Unfortunately, when you have children, sometimes it can't be avoided. If they are going to misbehave in public, they are already creating a scene. If they are doing something minor I will try to let it go until we get to the car. But, sometimes you can't let it go. Children tend to test their boundaries and see how much they can get away with. If you never correct them in public they will just keep taking things further and further. I won't hit my children in public. I pretty much don't hit them at all, but I can't say that I never have. What I have done in public is loudy scold them and I have been know to say to them once or twice very loudy..."If you are going to embarass me in public, I will embarass you right back!" A couple times that embarassed them into behaving themselves. Mine aren't horrible in public, but sometimes they do get obnoxious. Their worst problem is that they argue with eachother and the bickering and name calling becomes embarassing and rude to those around them. Sometimes they will want something that I can't or won't buy them and they will gripe about it a little too loudly or for a little too long. sometimes I have to get on them about that too.