maybe im opening a can of worms here but im up for it are you??

@nut_nut (251)
July 7, 2008 1:01pm CST
what do you think of lesbian parents? i mean two women having a child together? or in fact two gay men? would just like to know everybody opinion and the reasons behind them.
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• United States
7 Jul 08
I believe that it depends on the couple. I have some gay and lesbian friends that are raising children together. These chidren are in better homes with the homosexual parents than they were before. I was raised in church and I know that many christians look down on this situation, but sometimes the children are better off emotionally. I can't say this is so for every situation like this.
@katsmeow1213 (29016)
• United States
9 Jul 08
I don't really have any strong opinions on this. I'm not against gays or lesbians, and I'm not against them raising a child, everyone is entitled to raise children if they are capapble of it. Besides that, the majority of gays or lesbians would end up adopting children, which is even more beneficial because they're giving a home to a child who didn't have one. It may not be the traditional mom and dad home, but it is a home. I am old fashioned, and believe the best situation for a child is having both a male and female parent, as there is so much children need to learn from each one. But many people grow up into happy, well adjusted adults without the influence of both gendered parents.
@nut_nut (251)
9 Jul 08
i see your point, what about in the case of a single parent? i mean if they dont see anybody, they still learn from only one gender right?
• United States
9 Jul 08
As I said, I'm a bit old fashioned. I don't really see a single parent home as being the best option for a child. I suppose all in all it is rather the same... although the financial situation would be different. In a gay or lesbian household, their will be either 2 incomes, or a stay at home parent. In a single parent home there is less income and time spent in daycare. Neither one is really optimal for the child.
@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
7 Jul 08
I don't agree with homosexual couples raising children, as I don't agree with homosexuality and I think that will just confuse kids. Kids need a MOTHER and a FATHER. However, with that said... in this society nowadays with so many people giving up kids for adoption or people abandoning kids; kids need love, safety, nurturing and if that means a homosexual couple adopting them, I guess so be it. Rather them being loved than sitting in an orphanage.
@nut_nut (251)
7 Jul 08
i have to ask? how does sexuality effect the ability to raise a child in your opinion?
@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
11 Jul 08
IMO - and studies will show... That kids need a male and a female figure in their lives. Single mother homes suffer because the mom has to play the role of mom and dad. Show the boys how to be a man; how to be tough, stand up for themselves, etc... When I was a single mom, I didn't try to fill the shoes of a man...I was the mom and that was it. I tried to get my brother and uncles involved in my son's life to show him things from a man's point of view. Again, my opinion, I don't agree with homosexuals raising children - yet again, I rather see these kids in a safe, warm and loving environment..So it's a catch 22 for me - I'm damned if I agree and damned if I don't :-) I guess at the end safety, love, nuturing, and all that important stuff is what matters.
• United States
7 Jul 08
I knew a girl who was being raised by her father and her uncle and his lover (the uncle had the lover). There were very loving towards here and bend over backwards to give her everything she could want and need because her biological mother walked out on her and wanted nothing to do with her. So if they are a loving committed couple I would have no problem what so ever seeing them raise a child. I would hold them to the same standards I hold myself and my husband up to and those are pretty high standards, according to some too high but they are my kids so it's nobody's choice by mine and their fathers.
@nut_nut (251)
7 Jul 08
wow great story. 3 guys in her life. its new but its sounds like she was well cared for which is what matters. thank you for sharing.
• United States
9 Jul 08
Actually this was over 25 years ago. So it isn't so new. And yes she was very well cared for.
• India
10 Aug 08
Well, g-a-y or l-e-sbian couples should be allowed to parent kids if the law of the land permits them to do so ... a marriage would b a desired pre-requisite but not indispensable.
@nut_nut (251)
10 Aug 08
thank you for your comment have a lovely day ;)
@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
7 Jul 08
While I think its preferable for kids to have a father and a mother, I think the number of single parent households is alarming and try as they might, single parents just cant be there for everything that the kids deserve. I think gay/lesbian parents are certainly better then single parents just because there are two there to do the job. Two people will always be better then one! PS I would also prefer a gay/lesbian household to one that contains any kind of abuse or ahcoholism Cheers, Tianna
@nut_nut (251)
7 Jul 08
my friend is a single mu of 3 and she does an amazing job. its not always true that 2 is better than one.
• United States
7 Jul 08
I think it depends on the parents, just like it would with a heterosexual couple adopting/having a child. If they are emotionally and financially stable enough to have a child in their lives, then I believe they would do a wonderful job of it. While I have yet to meet any lesbian/gay parents in person, I've read several articles, both online and in print, about the successes that lesbian/gay parents have had (also, their children were most often straight, and completely comfortable with their parents being the way they were).
@nut_nut (251)
7 Jul 08
i have a friend whos lesbian and has 3 kids. she didnt have them with her current partner and they were bought into the world under difficult circumstances and she does a brilliant job and all kids are comfortable with who she is.
@Hatley (164772)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jul 08
I have known lesbian parents who are far better parents than most heterosexual parents so it all depends on the people involved. a lot of lesbians are very gentle and caring people who really love their kids and the kids seem to be normal healthy outgoing kids so I am not at all upset by this in any way shape or size. if they are good parents, fine, thats all we need to know.
@nut_nut (251)
7 Jul 08
all true! great response! why would you say lesbian parents are better? i dont disagree i just wondered what your thoughts were?
@Latrivia (2889)
• United States
7 Jul 08
The effectiveness of parenting depends on the parents, and not their sexuality. Perfectly healthy children have been raised by homosexual couples, and disfunctional children have been raised by heterosexual couples. Sexuality really plays no role in there. You don't necessarily a man to play the father figure, or a woman to play the mother figure in order to grow up a healthy and normal child. There's no evidence to support the belief that a homosexual couple raising a child can be harmful, so I think it's perfectly fine for homosexual couples to be raising kids.
@nut_nut (251)
7 Jul 08
i love your answer. thank you for your comment
7 Jul 08
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