My girlfriend is cheating!!!

@toteles (148)
Philippines
July 10, 2008 2:13pm CST
Yes she is, but i never confronted her...I don't know why maybe i love her that much. But If she do it again i'll also cheat on her...
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27 responses
@Debs_place (10528)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Two wrongs don't make a right. Maybe it is time to break up and getting into a relationship where there is love and trust.
1 person likes this
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
To tell you the truth i cheated my bf before which is my Husband now. The reason why i did that is because i felt that he do not care about me anymore and give more time to other things like playing games instead of spending the time with me or staying at their house. You should list some reasons you may think why she cheated at you. Learn to know your wrong and then when you feel comfortable talk to her about the situation. Ask her if you did something wrong or she just fell out of love for you.Learn to accept the truth because someone day if you are really meant to be together,Love will find it's way!
@toteles (148)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
you know it's the other way around. I sacrifice almost the things I usually do. I'm always there for her and as a matter of fact she's my priority. I really don't know why she did that to me and she keeps in doing that. Maybe by nature she's polygamous. Anyway it's nice to hear that your BF is now your wife. I wish that you'll last indefinitely.
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Friend, learn to let go. Why? Because your hurting yourself anymore..and she do not understand it. Let go and sooner or later she will realize that she have more than enough when you came into her life.
@Odamashin (434)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Hi..you know what if your girlfriend really loves you,then she must not cheat on you...but try to assess yourself..if you do have shortcomings as her boyfriend..that pushed her to cheat...think about it! It will cause you so much pain if you do the same thing..as you said that you love her that much..just confront her and asks her why she did it..what have you done wrong..If she's hurting you, then it is not worth it to stick to it..you can find someone better than her... Trust is the good foundation of a successful relationship
@toteles (148)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
I definitely agree that trust is the good foundation of a successful relationship. I'm planning to break up with her I'm just waiting her to initiate the closure. And I'm not sure if i will fall in love again the way i love her and i value her. It's just sad when i think that i used to love her before and that will never happen again. She's not my other half.
• Philippines
14 Jul 08
But what if she's doing the same thing?..i mean waiting for the same thing..what if like you, she's waiting for you to initiate to do the closure in your relationship? you will end up waiting for nothing right? so for me,go on..break her up..do the first move..who knows she's still waiting for that before she let's go of you. What makes you think that you will never love again? of course you can!Just let go..give yourself time to recover and move on..but don't limit yourself to love...i assure you, you will find someone better than her..
@pinkista (892)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
If I were you, I will not revenge cheating her. You should confront her first before accusing your girlfriend cheating you. Better to talk about your situation before doing anything just like you said that you'll going to cheat her also. That's not a good idea.
@toteles (148)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
yes it's not a good idea but the only way i can redeem myself is to cheat on her too.
• India
14 Oct 09
hi, cheating is never good and the one who gets cheated feels so bad. that is very hard when you love someone so dearly and find out that they are cheating on you, you should talk to her first and find out if she is really cheating and if so why she did it? Then after that, it is all on your hands it is up to you to decide if she deserves a second chance or if you would be better off with a person who would love you the same. But dont cheat on her as well, show her that you are not in the same level as her and that the loss is hers not yours, if she likes cheating and does not care for you, than you deserve someone much better that will love you and look after you.
@amrishkj (297)
• India
16 Jul 08
Buddy I cant understand the login behind what you saying. you said she cheats on you then confront her and finish off what doubts there are in your mind. if she is really cheating then there is no point in going the one way street coz you will only hurt yourself. On the other if it is just your imagination playing on your mind then it will get cleared and you will be only happy that it was just your mind playing tricks on you . Coming to the second point I am really confused on what you are trying to do. Whatz the point in being a relationship where in you both cheat . It would be better to call of the relationship then.
@yuye3000 (45)
• China
15 Jul 08
Maybe she just don't want to hurt you.Calm down, give her more chance to express herself.
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 08
Hello toteles, What kind of thing that she cheated you? I think you should confront her and discuss the matter. I don't think it is a good idea to do the same like her. If I found out that my spouse is cheating, I will definitely want to know the reason of it. If he cheated me because he doesn't want me to get hurt, I will think twice before I start arguing with him. But if he really really cheat me on something I can't accept, I will let him to have a silent treatment.
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
Hello There Toteles! I think you better tell her that you know what she has been doing all along. Don't cheat on her because you will just end up like her. (you know...), Talk to her and if things hasn't change then it would be better to end the relationship. In that way, you don't have to cheat on her.... better yet, you might be able to find another girl who will love you true sooner or later. Take care! Cheers!
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
well, it is better to confront her to know her side. But if she cheats again leave her..she is not worth it to be loved by you. A relationship need trust and love. If trust is not there then the relationship will not work until you find yourself loving someone who love someone else.It hurts because you sacrifice for her but she still wants someone else. let her free to find what she really wants. Don't waste time to someone who doesn't love you back. And of course, you can never force her to stay with you or love you till the end. it's better to say goodbye early than to find yourself alone in the darkest side of your room feeling sad and worthless. break a leg man.
• Philippines
13 Jul 08
your just continuing yourself to be hurt by trying to hurt her, just pray to God that everything will be ok. we can make the difference, we cannot correct the wrongs by doing another wrong. all we have to do is love and give.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
13 Jul 08
what is that going to accomlish?? if i knew for sure she was cheating i'd dropher like a hot potato & find me a nice girl that was faithful. if she's cheating now she's not going to stop even if y'all were to get marriied. once a cheat always a cheat.
@_sketch_ (5709)
• United States
13 Jul 08
You should definitely confront her about it and you shouldnt cheat on her back. That wont solve anything; it will only make things worse. What if it turns out that you are wrong? You wont be able to take back what you've done and you will have ruined the relationship. You say you love her, but then you say you'll cheat on her. That sounds pretty paradoxal to me. I think you should stop and think about that. I think that if you love someone you would never want to hurt them no matter how badly they've hurt you. You say you've never confronted her because you love her, but I think that that's a reason to confront her.
@checapricorn (16069)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Hello toteles, if that will be your situation, that is unfair to you both! What you need to do is talk to her, ask her and convince her to be honest.. If she will admit it, ask her if that will make her happy and if yes then let her go...It's painful but that is love, you have to support what makes the person you love happy..
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
13 Jul 08
Women does not like men who cheats and men even do they will not admit it also hates women who cheat. No matter how much you love a person, if that someone cheats, it must be dealt with, no one is a martyr these days. She must be confronted so you would know where you stand in your relationship. She may not love you anymore but she does not have the heart to hurt you (sounds like a song huh? LOL) so she goes on cheating. It is better to know the truth even if it hurts. :)
• New Zealand
12 Jul 08
Well, that is very hard when you love someone so dearly and find out that they are cheating on you, you should talk to her first and find out if she is really cheating and if so why she did it? Then after that, it is all on your hands it is up to you to decide if she deserves a second chance or if you would be better off with a person who would love you the same. But dont cheat on her as well, show her that you are not in the same level as her and that the loss is hers not yours, if she likes cheating and does not care for you, than you deserve someone much better that will love you and look after you.
@subha12 (18454)
• India
11 Jul 08
If she cheated on you, you should come out of it. taking revenge may be something that seems very pleasing at time sof rage, but does not help much.rather concentrate on other aspects of life.
@Hatley (164777)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jul 08
toteles and what will that help two wrongs have never] made a right. talk to her find out why she is cheating if she is and tell her to stop or you are through. dont let her keep hurting you.why do you young people not talk to each other? communication is a two way street and keeps love going.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
Shes cheating u say? Has she ever swore on a stack of bibles that you were her only Lover? If not-then she's not cheating on you. As for you cheating on her- did you get the stack of out for her? And never mind if she plays around. Whats good for the goose is good for the Gander!Lets all Have Fun!
@darkjack (199)
• Portugal
10 Jul 08
My advice... find out why because there might be something that you could improve (most of the times, both sides are to blame)... anyways, you will probably be better off without her... Good luck.