Are children too old for their age?

my eight year old daughter going on 18  - i just worry about kids somedays
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
July 11, 2008 11:30am CST
my two children, aged 6 and 8 are both going to dancing exams tommorow. They dressed and to me look much older than their ages. I WONDER IF OUR CHILDREN are not growing old before their years?
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@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
I have been thinking the same thing for a while now, and at times I feel that in some ways we are robbing our kids of their childhood. They have responsibilities that we didn't have when we were kids. They have karate belts to win, swimming mets to complete, piano lessons, ballet lessons.... These are all good things, but on the other hand they are left with little time to be just kids. Then we are looking at videos, movies even commercials that show kids in a much more mature way, with clothes that are anything but child like. We teach them and expect them to make decisions, choices, think for themselves... again all this is positive, but with all this they are left with no time or choices to be what they are - kids. It's a double edged thing though, because those things are important too...it's complicated at the least I think :)
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
11 Jul 08
the reason i launched this discussion was to unpack that idea, not sure if we have yet
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
11 Jul 08
The thing with children is that in the past, most children had to work on the family farm! A lot of them were not allowed to attend school until it became the law, and even the law allowed for time off to do their farm chores!
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
11 Jul 08
I think they are when I listen to them they are so far advanced it is unreal but I think it is more Girls then Boys though
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
11 Jul 08
i agree its true, girls are certainly maturing faster than boys
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11 Jul 08
Beleive it or not but children are maturing faster then when I was a kid. Girls didn't mature till they wher 14 years old, but now it is as early as 8 years old. The same with boys! My 13 year old is already asking if she could date. God help me !
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14 Jul 08
Good discussion topic! I think they are definitely, my 8 year old sister has a PSP & a PS3, the closest thing I ever got to that at 8 years old was a clapped-out Nintendo. I also recall seeing a girl, maybe of the age of around 8 or 9, texting on a mobile phone! I think that that's ridiculous to be honest. It seems like the children are acting older and adults are acting like kids these days! haha
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
14 Jul 08
it is as if no one knows how they are meant to behaive any more. Children are sexualised by media and are sold things before they have money to buy. Rather than children they are treated as mini consumers. Men are unsure of their role, with the pressures upon them to perform as both carer and provider. Women are encouraged to work both inside and outside the home. Such an anomic situation is very dangerous for the maintaining of social stability. Interesting times indeed blessed be
• United States
12 Jul 08
Children seem to be maturing faster these days, don't they? I did a search on the things that added hormones have done to those of us that have been around since this started and was shocked. The study says this can actually be linked to early puberty and basically may "speed up our years". It doesn't seem right that this was done to Mass produce and may actually be causing more harm than good.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
12 Jul 08
i sort of wondered where the money was as with things like this it seems to be how you work out the answer, find where the money is and you find why people do the things they do
14 Jul 08
Children are very sensitive for encouragement and learning progress. They need the support from adults or guardians from their environment to grow up well balanced. Therefore, it is very important to know that the adults or parents play an important role for building self confidence in children. These days they play more inside home that the same age before use to play.They watch too much tv. I think this is the most important cause they seem older. The food has an important role too. BEfore it was more healthier.So we must encorage our children to play more with each other in the nature and stop them to watch all the time TV
@rebeka (364)
• Romania
13 Jul 08
i was also a daughter dressing to mature for his age. The teacher at school was always arguing me, so did my grandmother, but never my mother. I had very short dresses, lot's of make up, high heel shoes...ahh, those times, but now i overpass that. I finnaly understood that u don't have to show to much skin to be atractive. And i think that my mother attitude made me realised, because she never forbidden me to dress like that. When she's gonna be 18 she would think different.
@derek_a (10902)
13 Jul 08
Yes, kids are much more grown up than I was as a kid, but there again, I wonder if I really did ever grow up! LOL
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
12 Jul 08
for in this years children is growing up easly in there age, the way the talk, dress up, & move, not like us before even we are already 20 yrs old look like a kid still, not same like our children in this generation.
@BestTeam (54)
• United States
12 Jul 08
As for the part about being dressed to look much older than their ages of 6 and 8, at those young ages I would think that you would have control over their attire so maybe donate or sell the clothing that makes them appear older and wait to buy those styles in several more years when they are more mature. Mine are both boys, 7 & 10, so it's not as much of an issue in our home but I have noticed many little girls wearing clothes that I would certainly never purchase for a preteen. Good luck! :)
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Yes. they sure are. My daughter is now 16 but she has always wanted to do adult things as far as I can remember. she has grown up way too fast and I have tried to slow it down, but it just does not work. She has always wanted to do whatever the adults are doing, no matter what. She wanted to mature alot faster than when I was growing up. I enjoyed being a kid and she has never taken the time to do that. I think she wanted to drive at age two, LOL.
@olivemai (4738)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Yes, most children are older than their ages, but it is not necessarily a bad thing! Make sure to do the best for them while they are under five years old, as they are so independent after that age! Time has a way of going by rather quickly when you are busy, like raising children!