Is it possible ever to go back?

@ESKARENA1 (18299)
July 11, 2008 3:40pm CST
After a relationship has run its course, is it ever possible to go back and start it up again?
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@mscott (1924)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I have personally tried, and failed. I found the same things that were issues in the past again came to the front. Somethings are just not meant to be and you should remember the good things and learn from the mistakes. I am sure it is possible for some people but if you never resolve the things that were the issues which caused you to break in the first place then it will probably happen again.
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@marciascott (25553)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Hey Scott I see we have the same last name.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
11 Jul 08
my instinct is to agree we must let water pass under the bridge blessed be
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@marciascott (25553)
• United States
11 Jul 08
My Husband and I have split up 3 times out of 15 years. We have a Anniversary coming up Aug. 5th.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
11 Jul 08
well for you it is possible# blessed be
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@ibcandy2 (40)
• United States
11 Jul 08
To answer your question....NO WAY.... NO HOW!!!!! Relationships end for certain reasons and it usually takes a lot of reasons for relationships to end. Are we to assume that all of these reasons would be rectified for the short period of time that you are apart? I am going to make my own statistic based off of personal experience but 99.9% of the time when you go back, it doesnt work. Why waste your time touring the exact same location over and over and you have already been there and know what to expect? That is insane. While you are driving down the wrong street, the right person may get passed in your journey. There are too many people on this planet to try and make something work with someone who you tried to make it work and it didnt. I am sure that we all try in relationships and they just dont work so what is going to be done different from when you were initially in the relationship? Were you not initially trying? Were they not initially trying? Well, if you werent trying initially then it isnt even worth trying to go back because I am sure the other person is go disgusted that they want nothing to do with you and if they do try it, they will never forget what you did to them and they will constantly remind you about it. If they didnt try, then I think that says it all.....they werent really interested. Change is good and you cant make someone want to be with you. Either they do or they dont and if they want to they will show you that and work to make the relationship work. How will you ever move forward if you keep stepping back?
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@ellie333 (21018)
11 Jul 08
Maybe, it all depends on the circumstances of it ending in the first place, older and wiser perhaps it can be rekindled but sometimes people are only supposed to stay in our lives for a moment in time and no more. Ellie :D
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• United States
11 Jul 08
That completely depends on 1. why did the break up happen in the first place, 2. How much time has passed and 3. Have any issues that caused it been resolved. If they have and the two people involved feel that they can do so, I think it's possible. I've seen relationships come back after bad break ups but it has taken time.
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@snowy22315 (64735)
• United States
11 Jul 08
Anything's possible, but should you really? Dr. Phil has a saying "ONce out. stay out" but I think people getting back together again can possibly work things out. It's not easy though, and defintiely not for everybody. It can work though. My husband and I were seperated for about a year before we were married, and then got back togehter again. I think we probably should have remained seperated but I have no plans to leave him at this time. You have to think what do you really want from your life?
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@munhozmib (3853)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
11 Jul 08
Hello! Oh, I doubt it. You can't start again what has already started. You can try to change the way the relationship is going through, but you can never start again. The start is already in the past, and you cannot change the past. But who knows the future can be better if you work for it in the present! Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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@makaira (1159)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
i guess it would be possible but it would all depend on how the relationship ended. and of course if the two of you still has feelings for each other despite all what happened. a lot of things can happen and if you were really meant to be, things will happen to make it come true. of course with effort also from both parties. cheers!
@derek_a (10898)
13 Jul 08
If a relationship has run its course, it has run its course. If you can go back and start again, then it hasn't run its course yet. To me relationships are like steps through our inner development. We either can accept that a relationship is about learning something, or not. If we can't accept the learning aspect of it, then we will probably believe that the relationship is there in order to get us happy and at times of strife, we will want to run screaming for the door. I believe that there is a form of resistance (discontent, boredom, irritation, etc) in my relationship, it is an opportunity to transcend such feeling by staying with it. When my past relationships have ended, I can't explain, but there was something within (not a resistance) that was telling me to move on. I think now though that those days are over.. :-)
• United States
13 Jul 08
Well the key phrase in the question is: "after a relationship has run its course" And I'm assuming what you mean by this is after all the ups & downs, round & rounds, hell and hiGH water, and going back & forth in circles trying to make things work have been exhausted...wooh...and then two people break-up -- Could it still be possible for them to return to each other And make It Work?? I'd say the odds are stacked-up against them. Very rarely will this work after all of the stress that the relationship initially endured. It's probably best for them to move on a learn from their mistakes/experiences so that it won't happen in their next relationship with their New partner. Now if a relationship ended prematurely or over something petty, or maybe a one-time incident, then it could have a higher chance to rekindle.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
12 Jul 08
maybe it will more time, before the pain will gone, but it will come sometimes. not easy to relationship to run in course, others will lost control & just waste thier life because of relationship.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
12 Jul 08
I woudl think that SOME ppl could pull that off but I personally couldnt....whatever issues caused the demise of the relationshp the first time would still be in my memory and that would be an issue in itself ya know....I suppose there are a few ppl who've managed somehow to pull it off..though I dont know how in all honesty UNLESS there was many yrs in between...
12 Jul 08
I think it depends on the situation - if you actually fall in love all over again and it feels different then maybe it can work but there are some relationships that run the course and should NEVER be started again but people involved believe it's right. x
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
12 Jul 08
Yes. I have done that so many times before but it only worked out one time. My husband and I had our ups and downs before marriage and we split up so many times also. This relationship is the only one that ever worked out after taking one another back. It still isn't smooth sailing but it has lasted.
@petiksmode (2986)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
yeah it is indeed possible very possible...the only reason for this not tot work is if both ofyou closes the door or you didnt had a good break-up or of course if any of you or both of you found new love.
• United States
11 Jul 08
It all depends on the way the relationship was and the way it ended. Perfect example. My children's father cheated on me repeatedly throughout our 5 1/2 year relationship, ending it by leaving me for another woman which he married. I cried day and night for that man, wishing he were back, but finally I healed and moved on. There was an encounter between us a year later concerning our daughter, and during which he told me that his wife had been cheating on him, and he wanted me back. I told him that there were so many nights I prayed to hear him say that, but now I didn't know how to respond. He said that he knew what pain he took me through, and he sees for the first time how it made me feel and that he would never do it again. I still didn't tell him yes, didn't tell him no. A week passed, and I finally told him that I couldn't do it, that even if he had changed completely, I would still think of him as the cheater, still be paranoid that every time he left the house, was he leaving to be with another woman. I told him that if he had changed, it wouldn't be fair to him for me to treat him that way, so I couldn't go back. Our relationship was damaged beyond repair. So it all matters on what happened during the relationship, and how it ended.