First dates.....what do you think about them?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
July 15, 2008 7:38am CST
At the age of ALMOST 61 I'm going on a first date with a guy Friday night and I'm a nervous wreck 
! I see him every day and we hang out on our front porch since he lives in the same apartment building that I do. We have a lot in common and it seems we are physically attracted to each other. Yesterday I went out and bought a new outfit for the occasion since we are going to dinner and a country lounge to listen to country music which we both like. I'm trying not to read too much into it but it's hard for me to do. He brings me dunkin donuts coffee every morning which to me is awesome...lol. But I'm a nervous wreck about it. I keep telling myself it's no big deal (although it is to me since I haven't had much luck on the dating front).
What are your thoughts on first dates? Aren't they nerve wracking?
! I see him every day and we hang out on our front porch since he lives in the same apartment building that I do. We have a lot in common and it seems we are physically attracted to each other. Yesterday I went out and bought a new outfit for the occasion since we are going to dinner and a country lounge to listen to country music which we both like. I'm trying not to read too much into it but it's hard for me to do. He brings me dunkin donuts coffee every morning which to me is awesome...lol. But I'm a nervous wreck about it. I keep telling myself it's no big deal (although it is to me since I haven't had much luck on the dating front).
What are your thoughts on first dates? Aren't they nerve wracking?5 people like this
16 responses
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Jul 08
hi ctrymuziklvr oh yes I remember my first date with myhusband to be. I was so nervous, and he came to pick me up and my hands were sweating. I think I changed clothes three times before I was satisfied , He came by bus from Phoenix as I lived in Tempe, and I remember being so nervous about walking to the movie theater as it was about ten blocks. I had never even thought how this would seem to him. But every few blocks he would ask how much further and I would say about three blocks to the west. he used to tease me about that walk after we were married. it was a nerve wracking date but it ended up with us holding hands in the movie which was nice. good luck on your dating.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I will probably do the same thing as far as my clothes since I have bought two different outfits to wear and can't make up my mind as to which one to wear. I know we are going to have a great time.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I've been with my hubby for 13 years. So it has been a while since I had a first date. But I'd say relax. (I know easier said than done) and just enjoy the date. Yes 1st dates are nerve wracking. Did I wear the right outfit? Do I have something in my teeth? All these silly little questions get in the way. Try not to concentrate on it. See if you can focus on what you enjoy about the guy. Try focusing on having an enjoyable time. And breathe, if he brings you donuts daily you are already off to a good start.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jul 08
In two days I have bought two different outfits to wear!! Now I can't figure out which one to wear. Yes, we do have a great start.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
15 Jul 08
Its nothing bad I think. its always better late than never. its good at this point of time you have found someone whom you can say you like to date. Its not a big deal. just be sweet to him./ evrything will fall in place. best of luck
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I've known this guy for about 7 years and I've always been sweet to him...that's just my nature and probably what attracted him to me in the first place. Thanks!
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Yes, they are, at any age. But I think you have an advantage, you already know this person and have a relationship with him. Most people on the first date have nothing more in common that they know of then the weather and they are sharing the same space. You know this person, you know about them. It sounds like once you get past the first 10 minutes, and forget the word first, that you will have a great time. So relax and enjoy the journey.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I think that knowing him for so long does have it's advantages and we definitely will have a lot to talk about. I just know we will have a great time.
@coopstar (282)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Awsome, have a blast.Don't be nervous, just make pretent your still sitting on the porch.And if you realy think about it its not your first date with him.Don't worrie about changing the relationship for the worse,you want more from this man thats aparent. You can't get to the otherside of the creek without getting some mud on your shoes.Be yourself,have fun,maybey he will lay a wet one on you at the end of the nite.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jul 08
lol....oh yeah! I'm looking for that "wet one" at the end of our date....if not more!
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I totally agree that it's never too late! I might be 61 but I'll never give up...lol
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Boy a new outfit and all. He bring you donuts and coffee too. boy You go girl. It's good to her that your are getting out and doing things. Having so much in common like country music You have a good thing going. I hope it continues to work out for you.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
23 Jul 08
We definitely have a great thing going and it's been less than a week since our first date and it wasn't half as bad as I thought it would be. I've never been so comfortable on a first date in my life. I'm sure that's because we already knew each other so well. I have a good feeling that this is going to work out.
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@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
I hate first dates. I prefer second or third dates, where we are both comfortable with each other. Good luck on your first date. He seems like a great fellow bringing you dunkin donuts coffee every morning. Believe me, that is awesome. No one would bring another coffee every morning if it meant nothing to them. Cheers!!
@JudithP (295)
• Canada
16 Jul 08
Hi ctry,
We are never to old to go out on a first date. You two have the advantage; you're already friends and that makes all the difference.
I'll tell you a story. There was a gentleman in my life and we became the best of friends. One day during our friendship he called and asked if I wanted to go out for lunch. I jokingly asked him if he was asking me out on a date? He said, yes, he was. We never looked back and that was 17 years ago. It's a beautiful thing to fall in love with your best friend.
@songzhiyong (10)
• China
16 Jul 08
Take it easy,everything is hard in the beginning!and when you do it more,you will feel better!we all deserve a happy life!so enjoy every point of your life,and you said you two had known each other for years,so you have the advantage,just take the it as two old friedns go out ! my first date with my girlfriend is amazing,
just like you two,we have know each other for times,and the relationship go smoothly because of the advantage.so just do it,and you two will have a good time together!
@blackmantra_x (2732)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
good day.. Enjoy yourself, it's only a date where you and him can get to know each other better. I think there is chemistry between the two of you and just needed to explore it deeper. have a nice date and please do tell a little about it afterwards.
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
16 Jul 08
Hey good for you! I hope it goes great. First dates always make me nauseous. I just get so many butterflies in my stomach, especially if its a blind date. I got divorced in my late 30s and entered the dating world again. Boy was that scary after so many years married. Took a few toads to find the next prince. :) Have fun, relax, it sounds like you already have a good friend in this one.
@Afallingrock (289)
• United States
15 Jul 08
Aww that great, some people say first dates are the most important one of all. If this turns out to be a lasting relationship then he might make the first date speacial. Everyone needs someone in this world, and it's no joke how hard it is to find that special someone. Maybe he'll be yours. Good luck and have fun, you crazy kids, hehe.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
23 Jul 08
You have that right and since we have known each other for a long time and even had crushes on each other after a lot of talking we realize that we are very special to each other and are acting like a couple of "crazy kids" and loving every minute of it.
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@aussieblonk (236)
• Australia
16 Jul 08
I reckon they are not that bad, a bit like a visit to the doctor, once its over you know whether or not you'll go back again.
And they are necessary to get to that important second date.
Sounds to me like your pretty keen on this dude? Hopefully it all turns out well, and if not.....i'm free monday and tuesdays!
@meganparsons_4 (97)
• United States
15 Jul 08
They are very nerve wracking...I think when you know the person it is probably even harder. I mean think about it you have known this person as just a friend for so long and now it could be more. You could spend the rest of your life with this person. This is when you learn about those little quarks that might drive you absolutly insane!!!!!!!!
@jlaparece (51)
• Philippines
16 Jul 08
During my first date I was so excited. There are fears but the excitement is still there. My first date was in the church we attend mass together and after attending mass we watch movie thats the time I am nervous. He buy foods and we eat together.
