Date Night For Married Couples

United States
July 19, 2008 3:50pm CST
My husband and I try to have a date night once a week. We have been married for 30 years this Dec. We have found that a date night helps to relieve the stress of everyday life. We do not spend a lot of money. In fact many times we just view a movie at home or go to the local custard stand for a hotdog. Sometimes we just take a hike. No matter what we do together, it seems to strengthen our relationship. I think every couple needs to find some way to relieve stress and to strength the bond between them. What do you do for fun with your spouse? Do you feel that you have to spend money for it to be a date?
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
19 Jul 08
It sounds like you and your husband have a great relationship. My husband can not stay awake or get off the couch long enough for us to do anything fun. I wish it were different. Spending money is not the issue, we do not have any to spend, but he won't take a walk with me, because "he is tired" actually he is sleep right now.it becomes so boring at times. But I am glad someone is enjoying time with their husband. Keep it up for the next 30 years.
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• United States
19 Jul 08
I am so sorry that you and your husband cannot find time to have a great time together. I do hope you find that it changes in the near future. Keeping the bond alive is important, I think. just my opinion though.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
19 Jul 08
You're right
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• Alexandria, Virginia
19 Jul 08
I think you have the right idea and other couples follow your suggestion. I f couples did that consistently there would be a dramatic decline in divorces!!!!Another idea is to check out marriage encounters catholic lutheran versions are available...Both my wife and went to the Methodist version but that version is no longer available in US Marriage encounters is a three day weekend where couples learn to communicate more effectively
• United States
19 Jul 08
I have never heard of the program Marriage Encounters.
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• Alexandria, Virginia
19 Jul 08
you will find marriage encounters on the internet
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• United States
19 Jul 08
Being married to the same person for as long as you and your hubby have been married is a triumph. Too often you see couples throw in the towel because they are not willing to work at the relationship. Congratulations to you and hubby for standing the test of time. Date nights are wonderful. You needn't spend any money at all. We usually cuddle up on the couch and watch a program on television together. When we want to get away from everything we hop in the car and go shopping in a place that nobody knows us. This usually involves filling the gas tank and that can be costly these days. But, taking the time to be with one another is really more important than the cost of a tank of gas. We recently went to the beach for 2 days. It was wonderful. We spent about $150 for the entire weekend. We had sandwiches for lunch and had breakfast at the hotel. We only ate out one night and kept it to a minimum.
• United States
19 Jul 08
I remember reading that you were going to the beach on Gather. I am so glad you had a great time.
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@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Jul 08
good for you!!I have been married too for 27 years ..and i guess like yours we do also a lot of bonding together..fortunately we have somewhat same in some aspects when in terms of interests..hes fond of watching movies which of course i do too ..dining out together with the children or even only the two of us on several occasions .. watching movies is our favorite past time and we always do some walking around the block after dinner...i really enjoy much if we do have some extras(money) when we go out on date..and afterward do some malling..but if we dont have then we are just contented on watching dvd's at home..
@austere (2816)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
i think it's nice that you spend time to bond with your husband. spending time with each other will relieve your from stress and will make your closer as well. there are a lot of things that you can talk about when you get spend that special time together..I'm not married yet, but i have a steady boyfriend, and we have been together for almost three solid years. and dating for us doesn't mean spending plenty of money. it's just spending time together. whether just strolling in the mall or in the park. sometimes we just go to his place to watch DVD..it doesn't actually matter where or if doesn't spend at all, what matters is that we are together and happy!:)
• Canada
19 Jul 08
My mother told me that the miister reccomended the same thing, when she married my step'dad in 1996. I think it's a great idea. When my husband and I are in he same counry, we like o do the same thing. Unfortunately he's working in AZ right now, so we don't get to see eachother that often. He'll be here in 3 weeks, though. I can't wait to see him!!!
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@GardenGerty (96669)
• Marion, Kansas
20 Jul 08
We do not do "date night" as such. We usually have morning coffee together, either on the front porch swing or now on the back patio, since I finally (he finally) located a top to put on an iron base my mom used to have. It is great to see nature unfold, hear the birds, smell the fresh air, and be together. We also like to sit in the evening in the glider swing, and light the chiminea. Other than that, our favorite together times involve driving to a lake, there are two that are around forty miles from here. I took him to a lake the first time he drove here, because I decided that was a better way to get acquainted than to sit in a movie theater.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
In the 30 years that we have been married, we have probably been to the movie theatre about three times. We watch movies at home on the TV. LOL
@AshleyHasan (1024)
• India
20 Jul 08
WOW thats really nice idea! Normally me and my spouse we spend week ends together what ever work we may have we just cancel and every thing sat and sunday both of us will be together we go for shopping, some times we will go together and have lunch or dinner in a hotel , watch movie or what not we do what ever we like together and we both will share about every thing , yes that makes the relationship stronger and you can understand your partner very well.
• United States
20 Jul 08
Where we live (close to a river) there are free concerts at the river park near our home. They are on every other Friday night in the summer. We take a jug of ice water and our lawn chairs; provided it doesn't rain. We pack up the car for a free concert! I have not been disappointed yet! Even a few weeks ago when there was rain. We just sat under the shelter and waited for it to stop, then after the downpour they set everything back up and resumed the concert. There is dancing, food is grilled and homemade ice cream is offered for a small price. We normally have a very enjoyable time and it breaks up the same old routine every weekend thing syndrome :)
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Village, I agree with you totally that couples need to make time for each other and that by doing so they will strengthen their relationship. Hubby and I do the same thing, we MAKE time to do things together. As you said, it doesn't even have to cost money, it is the time that matters. We too will often take a walk together, stroll through the gardens at area parks, go for an ice cream or anything!
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• Malaysia
20 Jul 08
I feel that you are a romantic couples. I will agree with you that the couples should have fun time. But I think it's expensive. It's because we are facing inflation over the world nowadays. We can't avoid the price increasing. It's better not to spend too much. Else our life will be suffered for the month. The price for everything are increasing, but not our salary.
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• United States
20 Jul 08
We have date night often villageanne. Every day we're together is (literally) another date for us. We've been together for many years as well, and we don't spend much money either. We do a lot of picnics. Whether we go all out and take a picnic to the park or if we have a picnic in our living room floor, it's something we've always done. Sometimes, when we go out, which isn't really that often, he will drop me off at the entrance to our favorite club. I will go inside and get a table or set at the bar while he parks the car. I'll order a drink and sit quietly waiting. Then, he will come in and act like it's the first time we met. We'll talk quietly together and then go sit together at a table all lovey dovey, and of course leave together. It keep people (who don't know us) guessing. We also play together when we go to the grocery store. We get some pretty strange looks from people sometimes. We've been best friends as well as husband and wife. We've always kept our relationship strong and FUN.....Everyone always says they wish they had a relationship like ours, which is probably the best compliment we could get.
@howard96h (11663)
• New York, New York
20 Jul 08
Date night, huh? What a good idea, you both must be doing something right to be married 30 years, that is great. I wish you many more.
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• Indonesia
20 Jul 08
Well, cheerz for you anne! Being married for 30 years, wow! And still have date nights. I envy you, I really do. We've been married for 4 years, and I'm lucky if we have one date night in a month. Life has been hectic and unforgiving for us, our time is taken to work, fight and more work. Sorry to be gloomy, but cheerz for you! Happy mylotting and have a nice day!
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@sweetlady10 (3620)
• United States
20 Jul 08
You are right, we should always spend some quality time with our spouse. For us, the whole weekend is for each other. We do all the things together in weekend. Like go for shopping, just for walk, go for lunch or dinner, or hang out with friends. I don't think you need to spend money to get quality with your spouse. You can do lots of thing without spending a penny for quality time.
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Hi anne, That is good and congratulations for 30 years and more! I am newly married and looking forward to have my husband for the rest of my life! We also make sure that despite of his stressful job, we always find time to spend together each day! We do spend money for the past 6 months in our date and time to cease that lifestyle..LOL! I will be happy to save more and spend more time in the house, park or even in jus walking in our yard! LOL! What is important is we shared those moment with our loved ones!
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