How much would it take?

@foxyfire33 (10009)
United States
August 1, 2008 12:16pm CST
This is inspired by a very wise question my friend Oreo asked me...Suppose someone offered you a dollar sum, any amount of money you desired, with only one condition: You had to leave/divorce your current other half and you could never reunite with them. How much money would it take or would you refuse the offer completely? It kind of makes you step back and think, doesn't it...unless of course you are lucky enough to have that rare form of true love that no amount of money could replace. I think we all like to think that we are above materialism and that no amount of money could replace loved ones...and that's the way it should be...but are those around us truly "loved ones" when it comes right down to it? Just think about it and be honest...you could do a lot with a million dollars or even $100,000! I personally could see myself taking the offer for just a reasonable monthy income...sad, but honest!
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I am currently married for the third time so I have been in relationships and I have also lived alone. Since my husband and I have only known each other for six years and we get along very well I can honestly say that there is no amount of money that would tempt me to leave him and go back to living alone. If I met someone after that I would never know for sure if he was interested in me or my money so I would never be able to trust anyone again. It would be a sad existance in my opinion.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Congratulations on finally finding "the one"! You made a good point about future relationships only being about your money. That does put an interesting twist on things depending on just how much money a person got for their trade...like the kind of trade I'd be "willing" to take, I certainly wouldn't be a magnet for gold diggers LOL! Here's a question...well the same question just a different person....would you have taken an offer on one of your ex's?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
1 Aug 08
Twenty two years ago this October 11 my wife and I met up in a church and went through a wedding service. One of the oaths that we took was that we would be true to each other "for richer for poorer". I still feel that way. So it's no deal Foxy.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Aww P1key! That is so sweet! I hope someday I can say the same...only not the October 11th part. That's the day before my mom's birthday and I've always fancied a late spring or summer wedding.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
1 Aug 08
The P1ke's Wedding. - Our wedding in 1986
Look what I found Foxy. The happy couple with the Best Man and Bridesmaids. Oh to be that thin today!!
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@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Hi foxyfire, Honestly, I can't trade my husband with that...LOL! It's hard! He is very good and loving plus kind to my parents and sisters..So, I will just ignore the offer and will prefer to work, have a simple life with less money as well as My family is complete!
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
That's so awesome! I'm glad you have a happy life together!
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• Indonesia
1 Aug 08
Hehe, tough question foxy. Sad to say, but at first, I would have to think hard about it. Firstly, because I'm in a very bad shape financially right now, and a good sum of money would really help and my family. Then, I'm currently not in a very good time with my marriage, though I still want to make things work. After a very long thinking time, I think I can't take the money, because I still think that if I have much money, I want to spend it with my hubby, there..that's my choice. ...OR maybe, if we have lots and lots of money from that someone, we could find ways to reunite with our current other half? Happy mylotting and have a nice day!!
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Hmmm....what if you could reunite once the money was all spent...that would change things. First you'd want a reasonable amount that could be spent in a short amount of time but could sustain you and provide enough that the marriage would be less stressful. A relationship that wasn't being strained by house and car payments and college funds would have a better chance at surviving.
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• United States
1 Aug 08
Well, that's kinda a rediculous question. Money isn't everything. You can't do much without it, but I'd rather be living in poverty my whole life than miserable without love in my life. I mean Yea I could find love elsewhere. But who would want to carry that with them? SO, NO, I would NOT trade my marriage/relationship for any amount of money in the world. I wouldn't even do it if the marriage or relationship was on the rocks. That would say alot about a person's character and personality.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
It's not really ridiculous. Not everybody gets a fairy tale relationship.
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• United States
1 Aug 08
I could do a lot with a million dollars or $100,000, too. BUT I can do more with my boyfriend than without him. I am not that kind of person to go for the money instead of the person.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Normally I wouldn't trade a person for money either...I guess it just depends on the person though.
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• United States
1 Aug 08
Let me tell you something foxyfire, with the way my relationship is goin right now, I would take um, i'd say..................$150,000. Yup, that sounds good. I don't see him like I want anyway so I will take me and my boys on a nice vacation and say to him, "Adios!" and yes, it is sad but oh so true.. Interesting post. Have a blessed day!
• United States
1 Aug 08
Of course, being that I am not married to him makes it a little easier and no, I am not nor never was materialistic.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
If someone handed me $150,000 today, I'd be gone in an hour! So I know how you feel. Money doesn't normally mean much to me either. But sometimes a person can only deal with sacrificing for so long before it's time to walk.
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@minnie_98214 (10573)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Honestly no amount of money would make me leave my hubby hes worth more than money to me. Its easy to say when no one is offering the money lol. I guess if i was offered like 20 million it might be tempting but hes a great guy so I would have a hard time walking away from him I may not be able to do it.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I'm guessing anyone that's truly happy wouldn't take the deal for any amount of money. You're a lucky woman...and your hubby is a lucky man.
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• United States
1 Aug 08
thank you. That is one of the things that makes us a good couple is we both think we got very lucky and got more than we deserve in a partner.
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@rocker21 (2717)
• India
1 Aug 08
I wont do such an act because my love is priceless and would never think of doing it. I would completely reject it.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
What if you weren't relly "in love" with your partner anymore or they weren't in love with you? Would that change anything?
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@GardenGerty (102494)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I saw this other discussion. I think you are now in the position of seeing the truth for yourself. For me, I do not think money would buy me out of here. I just want us both to be happy. My partner is a very good man. I love him. That is why I work so hard. Money would not buy either of us happiness, if we were apart.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I agree that money can't buy happiness...but it can buy a person's way out of an unhappy situation! I'm so glad you are happy, it's an inspiration to hear of so many good men and happy relationships.
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• United States
2 Aug 08
I guess I am really blessed because no amount of money could encourage me to leave hubby and never reunite. And we have our ups and downs. I love money and would enjoy having a lot but what fun would it be if I could not share it with my loved one. Especially when he has worked so hard to keep a roof over my head. If you could see yourself taking the offer, does that mean your marriage is not good at all? I am not judging you at all I was just wondering if it was bad enough you would take any offer to get out? Best of luck and may the right offer comes along...lol
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@reckon21 (3487)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
No. That's my final answer. No amount of money could separate me from my love ones. I know money is very tempting but if I will never see someone i love for the rest of my life. I will refuse. The happiness you can get from money is only shor tlived. It will never last. And the moment you need somebody to love you, you had no one. And that is terrible. You can have all the wealth in this world, but if you don't have love, you are nothing but a lifeless body floating in the mist of loneliness.
@NrgDfenZ (1810)
• Belgium
2 Aug 08
Hard situation.. I think if the sum is big enough I would take it.. But how long will 100,000 or 1 million dollars last ? If I would tak the sum I would need to be sure that it would last my whole life, so I don't run out of money, and then maybe I will take it... Sadly enough..... :)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Would anyone who's in his right mind do this? Unless poverty is really eating you up, there's no way that money can detach you from your other half. Unless you were just forced to marry her. Maybe here in the Philippines, you can ask a few squatters here, they'll surely get it, but will be reunited secretly. hehehe
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
2 Aug 08
It is according to which bills are due that week.LOL Honestly i can't see money replacing my childrens Father. They need their Father more than we need the money.
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@allen0187 (33914)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
i'd take the money and next question would be, "where do i sign up?". i really can't think of a fixed amount but rather given the choice, i'd like to recieve a great sum of money monthly, for the rest of my life. i think that's a good offer that it hard to pass up. the clincher there is i also get rid of my significant other. lol!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Considering I've felt trapped in my current relationship for years now, I can see where I would do this for enough money. I mean I love the guy, but he is really more trouble than he is worth most of the time. I'm thinking if someone offered me around $200,000.00 I'd walk, and not look back. Sad, but true.
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@salonga (27954)
• Philippines
2 Aug 08
Money - Money is not bad but the love of it is the source of all evil. When you turn your money into an idol. When you love it more than anything in this world then you become a slave of money and that is the worst that could happen to you.
Well not same here! I cannot exchange my husband for any amount of money. And that is honest and sincere. Money matters but it is not all that matters. It can buy me things but it can't buy me everything. It can give me some happiness but I will not allow it to take away my joy. Money can't give me sweet companionship as my husband does. Money can't buy me the hands that soothe me when I'm tired. Money can't buy me a hearty laughter that my husband could readily give. Money can't give me a blissful home which my husband with me has shared. Money can't buy me a piece of heaven on earth which my marriage with my husband has built. Riches can't buy me all the love and care which my my husband to me has shown. As the Bible says: The love of money is the root of all evil. I will therefore not allow the love of money to rule my life. I am happy and contented with my husband and I will not exchange him for any sum. And in closing I just wish to share this meaningful poem: I can go and shop at the biggest mall And buy everything in sight, But what is the use of all the bought stuff If I would still be cold at night. All the money in the world Can't buy me true love and care And so even if I have all the money Without the love I'd still be lonely. Money can't buy me the one thing I most desire... Someone to stay right by my side To give me all his sweetest love All of my days and all of my nights! CHEERS AND GOD BLESS!
@sk66rc (4261)
• United States
2 Aug 08
Funny I ran into this discussion because this was pretty much the topic of our conversation few years back when my girl friend & I met up with bunch of our mutual friend of ours... It was one of those things where we all got together for somebody's birthday & ended up in a bar at 11:30 at night & we were getting loud, having fun... It all started out with a dare... We all dared this one guy, he was single at the time, to walk up to a waitress & get her number... Everybody chipped in & the pot grew to $72 & the bet was, if he gets a date & a phone number with one waitress, he gets the pot... He struck out... Then the bet took an interesting turn... All the guys at the table, there were about 14 of us all together & 9 of us were guys, were to take turn hitting up on the same waitress... Everybody who got shot down were to come back & add $20 bucks to the pot... When it came to my turn, I refused... Name calling started, of course all in fun, & everybody started adding more to the pot... Finally, one of guys said, "How much would it take for you to go up there & hit on that waitress?" Of course by this time, pot has grown to $246... Point here is, when I said no amount of money could ever possibly make me wanna leave my girl friend & look for another girl, that's when we started having this conversation about money & relationship... It was all fun & games at the time but when we got home, it made both of us really look & re-evaluate at our relationship... We talked about the idea of what it would take for us to turn our back on each other... I still hold true to my thought then... We came away with the answer that there's nothing that could break us apart that is not of our own doing... Suddenly not money... If I cheated on her or she cheated on me, as I said of our "doings" in which I have no intension of doing because I'm extremely happy with her & the level of relationship we have, then it would be a different story...
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@irishidid (8730)
• United States
2 Aug 08
I'd take the money and run. Mind you, I am not in a relationship at the moment so it is easy to give that answer. If it was over my kids then, no I wouldn't take a cent to sever my relationship with them because I consider them priceless. A man, not so much.
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