Status Symbol: House, Car, Spouse???

@tidgea (355)
Philippines
August 25, 2008 8:11am CST
Other people consider themselves to be rich and successful if they have connections and peers in the high society, magnificent mansions, a stunning sports car, and a goodlooking wife. How bout you? Do you believe that status symbols are important? And what would be ultimate status symbol? Rich friends? A huge house? A beautiful car? A goodlooking spouse? Trips around the world? How can you say that somebody's successful? How do you measure wealth? How would you know if what you have is enough? I guess its human nature that we dont really get satisfied with what we have right now, we always want to have more, the aspire to be the best and have the best.
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@berrys (865)
• Singapore
25 Aug 08
In my opinion theres many ways to measure a persons wealth. family-wise Not necessarily a good looking spouse but a couple that compliments one another and a few gorgeous kids. money-wise not necessarily rich but well-to-do, dont have to have a private jet or an isle of your own but are able to live comfortably and in a cozy home. Friend-wise people who will always be there for you. Connection-wise either know or are related to people of high places. and i think as long as a person has 1 of the 4 things mention above they are successful.
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Yes. A family full of love for each other is really important. These are the people whom you get your strenth and inspiration. They are the ones who gives you determination and persuance in life. Its hard to face the challenges life brings to you if your alone. And for the money-wise, having what you need and some of your wants is enough. Others flood themselves with extra stuff they dont actually need. Those are just for decoration so that people will know that they are rich. You can be succesful in one aspect but fail in the other. I guess you just cant have it all.
@relundad (2312)
• United States
25 Aug 08
Who says that you can't have it all? People get it and have it all, all of the time. Because that doesn't fit your bill doesn't mean that it exist. How does the next person determine what your needs are? For the record all we NEED is food, water and shelter. Outside of that they are all WANTS. Money doesn't make you evil or a bad person....thats a myth people...lol...We have loving family members and friends that would love us just the same if we didn't have a dollar. We have kids that love us unconditionally just like yours. We are hard working individuals. We put on one pant leg at a time... The only difference is my monetary net worth......
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
Youre pretty lucky if you have it all. Or should I say youre pretty blessed and hardworking. I guess its really possible to have all the things you need, want and desire. Hardwork and determination is really important. They say the secret in life is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration. I agree with you. Money is not the root of all evil... The lack of money is the root of all evil.
@guybrush (4662)
• Australia
25 Aug 08
I measure wealth by how content someone is - and how much enjoyment they get from their family and their life. None of those material possessions mean much to me, and when I see a man with an expensive car or huge house with too many rooms for him to use, I feel sorry for him because I feel he is trying to prove something to the world - and to himself. If you are on your deathbed, would you prefer someone to hand you a million dollars, or for someone to hold your hand? I'm happy - therefore I'm rich.
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
Some people find it hard to have contentment in life. They find their happiness in material things. Happiness which disappears easily. People should invest more in important things in life... things that would bring eternal and true happinesss. Having pure happiness truly is the measure of wealth.
26 Aug 08
I agree with guybrush s idea.I think anyone feel happy which should come from his heart, but happiness can not be seen only from your appearance.only yourself know whether you are happy.Indeedly, meterial possessions are basic to everyone.Human is a kind of complex animal,and the feelings of happiness should be due to mutiple element,for example family,friends,work etc.
@relundad (2312)
• United States
25 Aug 08
From an economic view rich is defined as a net worth of 2.5 million excluding your home and business equity. By todays standards that not that hard to accomplish. 21% of the population in the US have done that. There are others that say wealth is defined by how long you could live at your current status, without worry or changing. But true wealth encompasses by tangible and intangible assets. I don't think that status symbols are all that important except if thats what you like and want. There is no one ultimate status symbol as everyone has different needs, wants and lifestyles. Success is not measured by what the next person defines it as, but how you as the individual that achieved whatever goals and dreams that you had set. People often think that you get and or want big expensive things to impress someone else. But for me, the only race that I run is against myself. And I could care less what the next person feels like I need or should have. Who makes the next person the police over how much of a house is too big for me? Are you telling me that if you could afford a lavish trip around the world, you'd still opt to hop in the car to drive to the next city or state for the weekend? You mean to tell me that if you could afford any number of car that you would still opt to take the bus? Let me just say this, if you had to work your butt off to achieve your monetary net worth, don't tell me that its not money and things that you were chasing after. Because if it wasn't then you could have worked at McDonalds. If it's not money and things that you are chasing....then quit now, no need in continuing to make money and buy things. It is usually a "poor man's mentality that will say that all I need is love and happiness....blah, blah, blah". Because the reality of it is that love and happiness will not provide any of the necessities to live and survive. My wealth, both tangible and intangible just affords me to have more abundantly!
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
I like the way you think. As long as you can afford it, and you want it, and you think you can be happy with it,then no one can stop you from doing such thing. Do what makes you happy. Buy what makes you happy. Only you can know that you are truly happy and no one else. I like that you dont care what others think of you. You continue to do things as long as youre having fun. With all of your hardwork, its good to treat yourself with the things you want sometimes. But just like what you are saying, we should also not forget the intangible things. These are the ones that are often left behind by other people. We should never forget to also invest in these things. Having a loving family is good,but having a loving family with enough wealth is better. Sometimes, it is the lack of wealth that causes families to break up. There are also times that too much money is the reason. Maybe it is good to have a balance of both.
• United States
25 Aug 08
I have a loving husband,who treats me like a queen,has never cheated on me,and tells me I'm beautiful and he loves every day. I have two children who come to visit me once a week and call me almost everyday and tell me they love me, I have a roof over my head and food on my plate. A beautiful granddaughter whom I love very much and who loves her "Gamma"too. That's more than these rich people with lots of money have. We go on vacation once a year. My husband is a nurse and I'm a disabled nurse. We both have a love of taking care of people. our extended family is awesome and I could fill this whole page of things that make me rich and not one has to do with loads of money.
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
You are really blessed. You are rich with love, happiness, experience and alot more. You have what you want in life. You have achieved most of your goals. And specially you are happy with what you have today, I guess nothing that replace and beat that.
@mimico (3619)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
I guess the house and car go together. If you're rich then you ought to be able to afford both the car and the house right? I've never met a rich couple or family who owned a beautiful house and an ugly car. The spouse doesn't really count as a status symbol. Although there are trophy wives, some guys marry for money or lineage and not necessarily for the looks. In our society, there are other status symbols that people use such as cellphones, clothes, and shoes. This is why I don't think a lot of focus is given to the house, car and spouse alone.
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
So you think a nice car and a big house is really important? Add to that nice clothes, shoes and cellphones? If thats where your happiness, go ahead. But The happiness you gain from these things are temporary. Whats more important are lasting and true relationships with your family, friends, partners which brings you eternal happiness. You may not need to have a big house and a nice car...you should just stick to what you need.
• United States
25 Aug 08
well personally it depends ont he person. me i think of people that are weathly by happiness. materail things are just that. anyone can get in debt. i dont care about keeping up with the jones. most of the time people that have alot of things arent happy they just have alot of stuff. most never stop to enjoy it. my family has no money in the bank, we drive cars that barely run most of the time, we are buying a small peiece of land about 2 acres that have run down mobiles on them and a old farm house. my furniture has been given to me or walmart bought. i could care less about the people of society i would rather be around honest harding people. the only vacations we go on is to the lake or river and we go camping. i conder myself to be weathly though. i have my kids who love me and want to be with me. i have a loving husband who loves me for me not what i have. i have true friends that if i need somethings are there and dont axcpect anything for it. to me i am rich.
@tidgea (355)
• Philippines
25 Aug 08
I would rather live in a small house with my loving family than in a mansion with many rooms but Im alone. What would I do to all the riches in the world if im sad.
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
25 Aug 08
If my husband and I were interested in status symbols we wouldn't be living where we're living now...we would be living on the coast in a big house. We base our success on being happy and we're happiest being around the family members we choose to live near. I don't believe that having a big house is the status symbol it used to be, especially in today's market where they're begging you go buy mini mansions at bargain rates.
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
Yah , youre right , having a big house will determined your happiness! just enjoyed what you have. if you are not contended then strive for greener pasteur.
@shelley2 (55)
• Germany
26 Aug 08
I really think it all depends on ones perspective. I want a comforable life sure i dont think there is anyone that doesnt want some creature comforts so to speak but what is important to me may not be in the least important to the next person. To me i am the richest lady in the world I have a wonderful husband that loves me.Is a good father to the kids whome i consider a treasure in themselves. I still have grandparents that are alive and i adore. I know God will make sure that all my needs are met so i just dont even worry about it. In Christs Love, Shelley
@ashar123 (2360)
• India
26 Aug 08
You are absolutely right that its definitely is human nature that he can't be satisfied and will be wanting more. He is also not satisfied what he gets. He always is in the pursuit to get more and more. According to me, in human society of nowadays, almost all people give importance to those who have a status like you mentioned a good and expensive car and all other things which makes a man's status high. People will try to call that rich person more and neglect or ignore a poor or average man.
• India
26 Aug 08
Status Symbol.. Doing what you want.. By Being true to yourself and being what you want.. have you ever observed hoe these people change their thoughts just because someone doesn't like them or it might affect their career or something?? I hate being a posers and all the posers who pretend to be someone when theye are a completely different person on the inside. bourne
@cbreeze (1209)
• United States
25 Aug 08
I consider myself to be successful when I'm happy; when I feel my life has meaning. I measure my success by my ability to care for my family. When my family is happy, I feel rich beyond compare. When we struggle, I struggle with thoughts of being a failure. I don't really compare what I have to anyone else because I don't acquire things to impress other people. I acquire things so that my family and I can enjoy them. I don't have a mansion, but I do have a nice size house. But I have six kids, so in order for us to be comfortable, the house needed to be a nice size. If I only had 1 or 2 children, I would be content with a smaller home. Feeling like I live in a relatively safe community is a part of feeling wealthy to me. Good health is a definite part of being wealthy to me.
• United States
25 Aug 08
I myself do not care about having all sorts of expensive things. The world definitely puts to much impotance on material items. I think people that need to all these things are lacking something else,they have a hole somewhere inside and are trying to be happy with material items. I dont need fancy cars although they would be nice to have,I think to much money makes alot of people turn evil. Love is number one in my book. If I have alot of love in my life, I am content, actually overjoyed with that alone. Everyone needs money to survive. But when it's the most important thing to us, that ,to me, is sad! Happy Mylotting tidgea!