Does what you listen to while you sleep affect your personality

@dizzblnd (3073)
United States
August 27, 2008 1:49pm CST
in your waking life? My 16 year old son listens to loud rock music while he sleeps. Some of it is angry music, some talks about suicide, some is very mellow. I don't know if it's hormones or normal teen crap or what.. but sometimes.. during the day.. you can't say anything to him without him biting off your head. His older sister is scared to say anything to him but "hi how are you". I have asked him to find some more mellow music to fall asleep to, just to see if it makes a different in his attitude during the day. He won't do it. So what say you my esteemed friends? Do you think it the background noise while you sleep has an affect on your waking life personality?
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@dragon54u (30578)
• United States
27 Aug 08
It does, they've proved it. If the music is playing while he's asleep his brain is processing all the notes, lyrics and moods. I don't know how to get him to turn it off but you might counter that in the daytime with some nice jazz. Teens are getting into jazz these days, especially the old toe-tapping type and the newer fusion jazz. Also, if he eats a lot of sugary stuff (candy, processed food, pop), try to cut out as much as possible of that.
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@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I wish I could get him into jazz or Sinatra or ANYTHING more mellow at night. I like rock music, I listen to what he listens to during the day, in fact it's what he's grown up on, so part of this is of my own doing . But I just can't get him to see how damaging it is to listen to ALL day and ALL night. Sigh. Thanks for your advice on the foods as well. I try to get him to eat and drink healthier. But he drives, makes his own money, and I don't have ANY control when he is at school .
• United States
27 Aug 08
I think it really does. I listen to country music when I sleep. I'm a pretty laid back person I think. My fiance was listening to the rock and hard stuff before I moved in with him. I can see where the music has changed him as well. When I would just come to visit, he would seem edgy and shy. Now that he's into the country more, he's more laid back and calm. He cuddles more now that his music changed as well.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
What a relief it must be for you to have him be more calm and mellow. I can't stand ANY sound when I am sleeping, my husband, on the other hand HAS to have the TV on. He will usually leave it on a channel that has shoot-em-up-kill-everybody-movies. It drives me nuts because I will usually dream about the violence I am hearing. But it doesn't seem to affect hubby's personality, maybe because he's done it all of his life.
27 Aug 08
I know recently they proved that you couldn't learn in your sleep. i.e playing a language tape while you sleep etc. I don't know if that spans to music though. I would think it would be the beat that would effect him rather than the words considering the above. Often loud bass lines can liken to the sound of the heat beat in the womb when asleep
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Often loud bass lines can liken to the sound of the heart beat in the womb when asleep Hmmmmmmmmm I wonder if I could talk him into an infants heartbeat monitor... lol... I don't think that wuld go over so well. I do understand what you mean though, and it makes sense... to bad I can't find some good bass with no violent, angry lyrics.
30 Aug 08
Let me have a think about that one......... My partner makes music I'll have a chat with him to see what we can come up with.
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
27 Aug 08
Good question. I would imagine that it would since people are suppose to be able to listen to cd's while sleeping that will make them quit smoking, learn a new language ect ect. If it makes you feel any better I'm sure he will mellow as he gets older. I seen and responded to your daughter's discussion about the cake LOL.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I hope he does mellow when he gets older and BEFORE he turns 18.. He does have a short fuse.. I just don't know where he gets it from
@ZephyrSun (7387)
• United States
30 Aug 08
@anawar (2406)
• United States
28 Aug 08
dizzblnd _ hi. Raising teens challenges the best of mothers. We have to pick and choose our battles with them. I don't think your son will listen to you, so maybe you can let it rest for awhile. He might agree with you, but he won't stop listening to his music, until he thinks it's his choice, not something pushed on him. Everything we hear, the radio in the background, the tv, all of it enters our minds. Sometimes just turning off the radio creates a whole new experience. It's not only music we hear in our sleep, because what we pick up on during the day also alters our behaviour. Teenagers take a toll on our level of patience. Don't push him, let it go and see what happens. It's only a suggestion or an experiment. As in every stage of life, one day he'll be in his 20's and teenage years will have passed through him. All your lives will calm down and emotions won't run so high. travel lightly, anawar out.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
You're right... it is very challenging. I mention the calmer music maybe once or twice a month. This is a battle I am not willing to stress everyone out over. So I let it be. During the day he's in high school.. a nice calming environment NOT! We all lived through our teen years as did our parents l miraculously. I am thankful that his sleeping habits are all I am complaining about. Thank you
@oreed8 (77)
• United States
28 Aug 08
i listen to smooth jazz and it sure put me in2 a deep sleep...and watever music people listen to they creative image dats mix with the music lyrics...so if he's playing angry musics does lyrics well be mixx with his brain..and dat could be his attitude
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Jazz is really very soothing isn't it. I wish he shared your passion for it. But he is a good young man otherwise and I am grateful that that is the only thing about him I have to complain about.
• United States
28 Aug 08
Sleep is a very important thing teenagers need at least 9 hours. The sleeping environment should be as quiet and DARK as possible (even put tape over your lcd clocks, phone charger, ect. Having music and/or TV on while you're sleeping can indeed cause you to be very agitated, when you are sleeping, you still hear things and what if it's something you don't like and you subject your subconscience to the noise it doesn't like when it should be dreaming. I have teenagers and this is what their doctor tells them every time! There have been studies. Your son will be cranky if he is not getting enough QUALITY sleep!! Now the tricky part---getting them to do it!!! If they don't, you can get good quality sleep yourself and have the energy and pleasantness about you to better deal with a cranky teen!! Bless you and I feel your pain!! bucksforyou http://www.drivenrapidwealth.com?ref=bucks4you
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Believe me... I know of of this... convincing the boy is a whole other story! Welcome to mylot, I hope you enjoy your time here.
@xParanoiax (7006)
• United States
28 Aug 08
*shrugs* Music's been shown to have an affect on one's health, so perhaps. Still, what about other sounds you hear in your sleep? I don't usually like to have music or any background noise when I sleep, but sometimes fall asleep while the tv is on. The most influential thing probably on that thing is the commercials but I don't suddenly wake up with the urge to buy something, you know? It probably is hormones, methinks.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
methinks you are right, although I do think it is a combination of both factors. I hate sleeping with any background noise too... but hubby has to have it... drives me crazy
@acegirl (127)
• China
28 Aug 08
LOL, i dunno exactly. because i never listen to music while in bed. But i think whenever he listens to this type of music,he is gonna be so cynical and so bad-tempered. No matter if he listens to it in bed or somewhere else. I think his personality changes because of the loud rock music with no doubt, and you should try to make him change. Stop him from listening to such music. Such music can affect on a person's personality of course, so just stop him. don't just stop him while he is in bed. Stop him from now on. don't make him listen to it.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
LOL good advice.. Although MAKING him stop would be like trying to stop a bull in china shop from doing any damage.
@pyewacket (43961)
• United States
28 Aug 08
Yikes....you're going to have to figure out a way to stop your son from listening to such music as he sleeps. There have been bunch of studies that what we read about or watch on TV just before we go to bed/sleep can affect our dreams...such as if one watches a horror/slasher kind of movie, one might have a nightmare....so yes, listening to something WHILE sleeping could very well affect a person...It would almost be like subliminal messaging...the mind is probably most susceptible to suggestion in the sleep state..so since your son seems to be listening to very negative or hostile kind of music, gee no wonder he's hostile during his waking state.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
Good... now... come here and tell him that... lol... he won't listen to me... maybe he will listen to an outsider. Oh who am I fooling? My husband just pointed out that between the ages of 16-20.. the male has no brains. I wish I could make him change his music, but he is a stubborn male teen.
@novataylor (6572)
• United States
27 Aug 08
This is such a curious subject, Dizz!!! I was reading the other responses and it appears that people actually know something about this - and that rather surprises me, frankly, because I don't believe I've ever given that particular question even a modicum of thought. Considering the idea that that angry music affects his perceptions, I'd definitely want to counter it, and fast! But how? Do you go into his room after he falls asleep and change it? How fast would he bite your head off when he woke up in the middle of the night, lol? I think you should really try to have a conversation with him and come to some sort of a compromise. Boy, that compounded with ordinary teenage angst and drama, and their feelings right[i][/i]at the surface, you've got a heck of a dilemma, darlin. I have no answers, but I fervently wish you good luck with this issue. Whew. I'm so glad it's not me. See? Not having kids wasn't ALL bad.........
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
He is a light sleeper, and he sleeps with an attack dog (our little Daschund) that would eat me if I went near his bed/music. My head would be gone before I knew what happened, and no one would sleep. . He is on the other side of the house, so the music doesn't bother the rest of us. Like others have said ... I have to pick my battles... Not sure if this is one I want to fight. See? Not having kids wasn't ALL bad I'll let you borrow one or both of my teenagers (boy and girl) if you ever think you might want kids.
@gemini_rose (16194)
27 Aug 08
I am not sure, but it could be, because there used to be tapes and cds that a person listened to while they were sleeping that would help them with any problems they had. Something to do with the subconscious or something.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
The subconscious mind is very complicated. I am also sure that this affects his personality. Oh well.. if that's ALL I have to worry about with him, I guess I am pretty lucky
• Canada
27 Aug 08
When I fall asleep to music, or even listening to the BBC World Service, or anything else, I tend to dream about what I'm listening to. This morning I woke up listening to Dale Goldhawk on AM 740 (I had left the station on bdcause there was music at night, not for this particular talk show which I really don't like), and somehow Goldhawk's show was live, or somewthing, or he was standing in a store talking to a crowd of people, or something. If something as innocent as Goldhawk can affect my waking thoughts, then why wouldn't your son react badly because of violent music? I think you're right, that he needs to listen to some more mellow music, and see what happens. I also suggest that you read a book called Musicophilia by Oliver Sacks. There is an entire chapter on music and imagry, and the book itsself could probably answer a lot of the questions you asked in this discussion.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Aug 08
I am much like you, I incorporate into my dreams what I hear while sleeping. I will check out that book, it sounds like a very interesting read. Thanks