Should Husband help out with the housework?

United States
August 31, 2008 12:15pm CST
My hubby is just great he clean and is and expert cook with cuisane. I guess Im pretty lucky...but then there my sister in law who says who husband will not pick up a shoe. He says he works all day all plops himself in his recliner. My guy is a pretty old school macho kinda of guy ...he help out and I appreciate him for it greatly.. Do you think its unmanly for a man to help out?? What do you thing
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@Galena (9123)
31 Aug 08
no. he should not "help out" it should be as much his job as his partners job, so not "helping out" but doing his fair share.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
31 Aug 08
You know what this is starting to remind me of? Overhearing somebody's husband mention at a bbq 'I can't go do anything with you guys, I have to babysit tomorrow'. Excuse me? $*%&^???!! Babysit? Um no, he's the dad and those are his kids. he should have said 'no guys, I can't make it, my wife is busy and I have my kids'. Idiot.
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• United States
1 Sep 08
Good point..Its their responsibility to share. After they are a family. Its important that families work together as a unit. Women didn't say "poof" and children appeared... we had alittle help.
• United States
31 Aug 08
I think it's unmanly for a man NOT to help out! He helps create some of that mess too, he should be helping you clean up. That's great that your hubby is so good about that sort of thing - so many are not, particularly if the wife doesn't work outside of the home. I currently do not work outside of my home, but I have two kids, and as anyone will tell you, being a stay at home mom is the equivalent of having at least TWO full time jobs. So if hubby doesn't help out, then technically you're working more than he is, you're just not getting paid for it. A man who sits on his butt and grumbles that the house and kids are the woman's responsibility is no kind of man in my eyes.
• United States
31 Aug 08
I like your prospective...Yes I think it can be sexy too. What about all those "brawny towel" comercials??lol..... I love it
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@babystar1 (4236)
• United States
31 Aug 08
Yes I do think that husbands should help with the housework.My husband always helps me when he gets off of work. He also cooks and does the shopping.
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• United States
31 Aug 08
shopping ...I forgot about that one... That is great! My hubby like to go shopping but he has to go all over town for special foods and spices but it worth the wait.. Im seeing a trend here....I lot great fellas out there!
• India
1 Sep 08
Husband and wife are the two wheel of vehicle ,both are parller to each other for the proper fuctioning of wheel of life .both should be equally strong and move eqully.now awoman are given equal rights.that is why they are working with man in every sphere of life.the woman has touched/travelled the moon.she is no more less than man. she helps her life finacillyshe have to work out of home. the modren woman is over burdened.she has to look her home as well as her work place. she has to lookafer the children.thatwhy the man should recognise the her equality and give the due regard to the wife.so it is become the the important duty of man/husband to help his wife in domestic affairs. the man should help his wife in the upbringing of child and in kitchen.
@AICIRT81 (847)
• United States
31 Aug 08
I think is actually more manly if a husband helps out. It shows that he appreciates the work that the wife does in the home. It shows respect for not only the wife but the house and belongings in the home. It also sets a good example for the children in the household. I love it when my husband helps out with house work.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
31 Aug 08
Very true..I agree especially with the whole setting an example thing for the kids...Particularly IMO if there are boys in the house...
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• United States
31 Aug 08
Oh that is a good one.... Example Yes I would like my son to help his wife out.. I like that
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@jde005 (65)
• United States
1 Sep 08
I don;t think its unmanly for a man to help out around the house. I feel that that state of mind is linked to gender roles places of genders in previous centuries. I feel that the man and woman should contribute equally in a house hold. Especially if both are working. I know some days may be rougher than others but each spouse should take equal responsibly to chores around the house.
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• United States
1 Sep 08
"Each spouse should take equal responsibly to chores around the house" Yes that is great.
1 Sep 08
Hi goldenapple951, Oh girl, you have a one in a million hubby gosh I wish I had one like your but mine is just like your sister-in-law's hubby, he won't evenwash his own cup out and I have always said his mother spoiled him. In this day and age husbands should share housework but I think it just lazyness on some husbands part, he don't put the rubbish either, the lazy git. Tamara
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• United States
1 Sep 08
lol...Yes it can imagine it must be frustrating. I try to not my spoil my son...heaven forbid I dont want some poor woman in future suffering..I let him know treat your wife like gold.
31 Aug 08
Of course a husband should help with the housework. It is important to clear up after yourself and common courtesy to help with the chores. It is best when there is an official share of the work, for example if one person cooks the other washes up. I think a guy who helps around the house is far more manly than one who sits in a chair all day. Well done on having such a helpful husband!
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• United States
31 Aug 08
Thanking you.. " I think guy who helps around the house is far more manly that one who sits in a chair all day" You should make that into a bumper stick. I love it
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@emarie (5451)
• United States
31 Aug 08
I guess it will depend on the relationship. My husband isn't home much and doesn't do work unless he has to which at some points pisses me off. My Sisters husband did study as a chief so he does cook and clean the kitchen once in a while. But for my part since I'm home, I need to do all the work. He doesn't expect me to do EVERYTHING though. The only time he helped me out is when I gave birth to our 2nd child. Man, that was good. He cleaned everything for me. He sometimes cleans the toilet cause I just really hate it but that's once in a blue moon he does that.
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• United States
31 Aug 08
Hey toliets are good....every bit helps!!!( I hate toliet too) Praise him and good things will follow...lol Like," I've never seen a toliet shine like this before" I love your post.
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• United States
31 Aug 08
yeah, a man should definitely help out at home! Its part of being married I think, and just is a common courtesy thing. It is a lot of work keeping a place clean, and making dinner, and if you have kids, keeping them happy. Its just part of being a family I think.
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• United States
31 Aug 08
Courtesy...that is another great point. When you care about someone this is not difficult to do..thanks for sharing that with us.
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@rainmark (4306)
31 Aug 08
Well i am lucky to have a husband who knows how to do all the work in the house, he is a good cook, i love his pasta bolognese and buns.He changed baby's nappies and clean the house. he shared lots of house hold chores after he gets from work. Sometimes when he is going to cook im going to wash dishes, and we have always sharing in put baby into bath, we schedule it everyday. happy myloting, cheers!
• United States
31 Aug 08
That sounds absolutely wonderful...What a great way to bond with your family
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@jelamar (44)
• Philippines
31 Aug 08
husband should really help out with the household because wife/mothers have several things to do thats why the dad and baby should help me....
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• United States
31 Aug 08
Im sure you all a mother's job is never done. We can time out..we dont get weekends off.. So you made a excellent point
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
31 Aug 08
I honestly dont see it as a manly or unmanly thing at all..I think tht its just the right thing within reason depending on the couple and their circumstances ya knwo....I mean in my case, I am a SAHM whereas my husband works 10 hour days..so its only common sense to me that I do the majority of the housework etc..HOWEVER if it were the other way around and I WORKED all day then he would do it....MIND YOU regardless of who works and who doesnt etc I think the working person should help out to some degree at least..even if its just pickin up after themselves or for example taking out the trash when they notice the can is full etc etc ya know..
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• United States
31 Aug 08
"Regardless who works or not" that is good. And yes there a some guys that work 10-14 hours a day and need some time to rest. Picking up after yourself is good too. It helps everyone. Why work more than you have to? You make some really good points.
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31 Aug 08
I am very lucky with my husband as he has always helped out when he has been at home. We are both retired now and we try to share the work. He is a good cook and does most of that. This is really good as I am not so keen on it. He also likes shopping so does most of that too. I love decorating so do that. We share the other things. It took a while to sort things out but it really works and m husband is no less macho for it.
• United States
31 Aug 08
That sound terrific.. Im a terrible cook...really I am I set the stove on fire my first day as a married woman. Trying to make tacos.. lol... needless to say we had pizza that night!
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@gemini_rose (16194)
31 Aug 08
No I do not think it is unmanly, in fact I think it is the sign of a good man that helps out at home. My hubby is the same, he is not afraid to muck in at all with all the household chores. He goes out to work all day though and I stay at home, so I do not like him to do too much as I do not think it is fair when he has been at work all day and I have not.
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• United States
31 Aug 08
That sounds great....like you pretty much share the duties. Yes a guy needs some relaxing time...I usually let my hubby get home splash cool water on his face and let him get in his favorite t-shirt. Let him unwind ... dont talk about bills, kids, ect.. after that he is so energized he's off to the kitchen!
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
1 Sep 08
yes of course.if he has nothing to do on his habbit he could do some house works like helping each other.in my case my husband do the cooking during satuday and i am doing the cleaning.
• United States
2 Sep 08
That great.. I especially love sunday mornings.. waffles, crepes, sauges, bacon and eggs and country fries.. Im sure you look forward to saturday that is great.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
2 Sep 08
thanks....yeag sunday is our bacon and egg day i mean breakfast.
• United States
2 Sep 08
Sounds yummy
@msedge (4012)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Couples should help each other.My brother cooked, cleaned and did laundry for his family.My husband also cook but i do the cleaning most of the time and we did laundry together.I don't think its umanly for them to help out their wives.Its no longer a matter of the gender , its how the couple share everything for the family.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Nicely put not a matter of gender...family work and help each other as a unit to make everything run smoothly.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
22 Dec 08
Right!
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
2 Sep 08
my husband is also one who is better at cleaning and cooking than me. of course i still do those chores but sometimes he helps out and boy do i get a scolding:P i'm not a very good housekeeper so the house would usually not be up to his satisfaction. thus, he'd be really naggy while cleaning the house together with me. of course, i am irritated when i'm getting the scolding but after that, i do feel oh well the house is clean. hehe and like many have said, i too think it's great that a husband/man helps out with the house. makes a girl feel so much appreciated and loving towards him in my opinion.
• United States
2 Sep 08
My hubby too is really good at cleaning. Sometimes I tease him and say he as clean freak..But who does look nice so I dont complain. I appreciate his help very much too.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
4 Sep 08
i agree too, since the house does look clean, i don't complain too. thanks for responding back. good day
@ronaldinu (12440)
• Malta
27 Sep 08
No I don't think that is unmanly to help out in the house. Aafter all both men and women eat and make the house dirty. So both of them should help in the house chores.
• United States
2 Oct 08
"both men and women eat and make the house dirty" you hit the nail on the head...excellent point
@mansha (6301)
• India
24 Sep 08
I think its real annoying if the man just watches TV and sinks in to the couch instead of helping around. My hubby thanfully loves to help me around the huse and that way, I rely on him for so many things. Since my secnd one has been born he has been seeing to the laundry regularly and I am so thankful to him for that, as the kid keeps needing me and I have a semi automatic machine so many times when I start I am not able to finish off doing the laundry in one go so it comes as a real blessing when he takes charge and to top it he has been doing all my grocery shopping too. It saves me a lot of effort and time. I love him for that.
• United States
2 Oct 08
Thats wonderful Im sure you really appreciate the help. I dont like guys that slump on the couch either and dont bother to get up ...really whether its a man or a woman it just laziness..and its not appealing at all
@katsmeow1213 (29043)
• United States
2 Sep 08
My husband helps out a bit, but he also has his messy quirks. He never picks anything up off his desk. If I don't pick it up, he will eventually have a tower of soda cans on his desk. He will also leave his clothes strewn all over the house, but I don't normally pick them up because he will wear the same clothes twice in one week sometimes without washing them. But he will sometimes do the dishes for me, and he usually cooks dinner once or twice a week. If he's home he will bathe the kids on a school night, and wake up with them in the morning to let me sleep. I don't really complain much because we seem to have settled into this routine. He works and I stay home. Usually I don't mind doing the housework, so I won't say anything if he wants to relax when he gets home. Sometimes the housework gets overwhelming and I feel like I need some help, and that's when I'll ask him. If he's in the mood he will clean the majority of the house for me.
• United States
2 Sep 08
My hubby gave up his soda's ...he too had soda's all over the house. He would pick them up so that was great. Yes housework can be overwhelming at times I'm glad you have a helping hand.