Do you feel unsatisfied with your life at the moment?

Canada
September 15, 2008 9:25am CST
I do, I dont really know why to, maybe its a phase? Anyways, lately Ive been feelign very unsatisfied where my life is. Yeah im young, but for the past two years, I thought when I came to this age, Id be away at college, living in dorms, pretty much just loving life and getting the whole "college experience". And now that it comes down to it, I couldnt afford going away so I had to go to the community college in town and go to school, go to work, go home. Thats my everday routine. I also picture myself away at college and single, and im tied down with a serious boyfriend. Not like any of that is a bad thing. Just I never ended up doing what for the past two years i thought Id be doing and it makes me feel like im really missing out. I never got the whole prom experience (my boyfriend was so sick we went then had to leave so he could go to bed..) and now im missing out on the college one. Do you feel unsatisfied lately with your life and where its headed? Did you always picture something different for yourself?
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@goldeneagle (6776)
• United States
15 Sep 08
yeah I do actually. I cant find a good job. I work part time at a restaurant. I have a physical disability that bothers me to be on my feet for long periods and limits the types of work I can do. I just cant seem to get a break. The economy is going to hell. No one wants to hire you unless you have like 2-3 years of "related" experience, but how the hell are you supposed to get "related" experience if no one wants to give you a chance? I have a 2-year degree in business administration, and I am still having a hard time finding work. My friend keeps telling me to go back to school, but I almost to the point that I am not going to be able to feed my family or pay my mortgage, let alone pay for classes... Gas is over $4 (over $5 in some places I have heard) per gallon "due to the storms in the Gulf of Mexico" according to the government. What a bunch of Bullsh*t. Gas is that expensive because the government officials are a bunch of gutless bast*rds that are powerless to do anything about it. With all the taxes they put on gas, they are just as guilty of price gouging as the people running the gas stations and oil companies are. If they really want to help out with the cost, let them take all the taxes off the gas since they obviously don't have the balls to tell the raghe*ds in the middle east that we aren't going to play their price games any more. Yes...I am very unsatisfied with life right now, and there appears to be no relief in sight.
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• Canada
15 Sep 08
Im going to school for that to:)and your right, the government taxes EVERYTHING and the stuff they cant tax they make (or try to make) illegal. Its rediculous and corrupt, dont even wanna go there it makes me so mad. And Im in the same boat as you, cant get a certain job without experience but how do you get experience when no one wants to hire without it. Hopefully soon SOMEONE will give us a break.
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• Australia
4 May 11
hi, i have read your comment and i also think the same. you are very right and honest. i also have an ability to cope with my life, and i also have ADHD ATTENTION DISSOrder wich makes me always unsatisfied. i also feel that life cant get better. i live in australia and i have always dreamed of living in melbourne and i cant affford it or barely afford life. things are to heavy and i hope that we all find our solution soon. thank you for your story.:)
@badzvenom (102)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
I'm a simple person with simple needs, but frankly I'm quite dissatisfied with my status of my life right now. A couple of years ago, I think I had a good job working in a government agency. However due to policy changes, I was terminated from work and had to move to the private sector. Pay in the government is better than in the private, at least in our province. I may have simple needs, but I believe our lives revolve around the money that we have. Work and home is my daily routine; probably surfing the internet is the only other thing that I do. Though I go out with my girlfriend every weekend, there is no much to go in our province. The feeling of dissatisfaction in my life I guess is rooted on my lack of sense of direction. I have no clear goal as to what I want for the future. But I guess this is because of the simplicity of my needs.
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@MsCYPRAH (398)
16 Sep 08
The simplicity of your needs has very little to do with your current feeling, badzvenom. You are repressing your ambition through a fear of future rejection and have lost your motivation. You have no clear goals mainly because you are still stuck back there worrying about a past you had and can no longer help, yet feeling inadequate to do something about your present. That is not good. It merely keeps you in limbo, undervaluing yourself. The way forward is to acknowledge that you are evolving every day to reach a final destination and each job is but a stage on that journey, it is not the end phase. It gives you experience, new confidence and new expectations, but you will still keep growing an move on to something else. Nothing lasts forever. Once any job comes to an end, after the initial disappointment, leave it behind and seek something else to boost your capabilities. If you live in regret you will get nothing better because you will be unattractive to the very people who might employ you. Worse still, you will waste your time back in the past which means you have no time to deal with the present and future! You cannot go back into the past and change anything, so it has to be accepted, to learn from and move on from it with even greater confidence. Once you stop looking back at what you had, you review your situation and remind yourself of who you are, your capabilities, and what you could do, I guarantee you new doors will open you never even thought of. All it takes in our day is to make a DECISION if we want anything. Without decisions, we get no RESULTS. You haven't been making any real decisions because you have subconsciously categorised yourself as 'failure', instead of just chalking it up to experience. Most important, if you see yourself as a failure, how on earth can an employer see you as successful? It sounds to me as though you have simply accepted second best in your current job for security and fear of failing. Yet no one can treat you better than you treat yourself. By the way, you were not 'terminated' from work. Your JOB was terminated. The words we use are very powerful in cementing our perspectives and sense of value. You are very much alive, talented and ready to roll again! There must be other jobs in government you can still apply for to reinforce your self-belief and esteem? Go for it! I hope you find this useful and good luck.
• Sri Lanka
16 Sep 08
Not really. I am not that satisfied with my job at the moment. However, hope this will change in future. I am happy with my family proceedings. No body will 100% satisfy with what they get. When they get one thing they expected, they will expect for more. This is the human nature. If we can control our desires then we can be happy in our lives.
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• Philippines
16 Sep 08
We don't own a perfect past. People have limited wants, needs and desire. There's no secret to contentment, its hard to attain. You can't say their are people who are satisfied with their life, it's an idiotic expression. We must know that our wants and needs each are constantly growing, we must feed this need to fulfill ourselves. There's no specific point as to which phase of our life we become contented or satisfied. We crave for more, its one of life challenges, it's so boring when you say you are satisfied with your life. Even when you stroll in the malls, you get to like those beautiful sneakers or gadget or even those accessories. You can't even say I will not buy it because I'm already satisfied with what I have, instead you will say, I'll come back and buy those stuff later when I get my pay.
@momathome (476)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I am totally unsatisfied with my life right now. I will be 32 in a few days and I have done nothing with my life so far. So I have decided that once I turn 32 I am gonna make some major life changes. I have two great kids and I fell I need to do more with my life to make sure they have the best life possible. I am married and it's not exactly the best marriage either. So instead of feeling down about I have decided that once the big 32 comes for me my life is gonna change I have set down some goals and I think with alot of hard work and determination I can reach those goals. And so can you. You might have missed out on some pretty important things but there is gonna more important things in your life that you will be there for. I never went to a prom instead I was at home changing diapers. But I got to be there when my son took his first steps and said his first word. I believe things will get better and life is what you make it.
• United States
16 Sep 08
I am just living in the moment right now. I do not know where my life is going to go, and I do not mind.
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• United States
15 Sep 08
I think we all want something better than what we have, there's nothing wrong with that, those are called dreams, but if you're unsatisfied with your station in life then look around at what you are doing. It sounds like your in school, college is college. If you want more from your relationship then let him know, if you want less then do the same. Just know that you are being prepared for something later in life, don't wish you were somewhere else, you're where you need to be. Look at the end goal and not the obstacles in front of you. Those will only cause doubt and you'll talk yourself out of finishing the race. Sometimes we all need to rest, be happy that this time of your life is not so hectic that you miss out on something. One day at a time YoungInLove, one day at a time.
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@jtr115 (725)
• United States
15 Sep 08
I was feeling fine about my life until last Friday. That's when my boss called to tell me I would be laid off next month. The company (which provides news and traffic reports to radio and TV stations) is reorganizing and cutting staff in several markets. The only way I could stay on is if I move to Phoenix, but I can't afford to do that. I was shocked by the announcement because the company was doing so well last year. As I got closer to graduating college, I imagined myself working my way up to become a popular morning DJ. Unfortunately, I wallowed in a job I hated for about 5 years before I even got hired in radio. That company moved to Chicago two years later, leaving me unemployed for just over a year until I was hired by my soon-to-be-former employer. Now I'm having to start job searching again. Hopefully I'll find something much more permanent this time.
• Canada
17 Sep 08
My dada worked at a radiostation for 20 years then got laid odd due to outsourcing. Its a b*tch of a field.
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@baileycows (3671)
• United States
15 Sep 08
Yeah sometimes, but only because it seems like I have been in school forever and now that I am abut to graduate I dont even know if that is what I want to do and plus there are no jobs here. So I feel dissatisfied with my career mostly not my whole life.
@chrislotz (8209)
• Canada
9 Feb 09
What courses did you take and what degree did you get? Why is it hard to find a job in that field?
@chrislotz (8209)
• Canada
9 Feb 09
At least you are still going to school. That is what is important here and should be your first priority. To heck with the boyfriend, just get your education and the rest wil all fall into place when the time is right. I don't mean for you to forget about him but just don't stress about it and just have fun with him. The future will take care of itself as long as you have a degree and are doing what you like to do and earning a living the rest will happen later. Once you are finished school you can get a good paying job and then do whatever you want with your life. You can travel if you want or you can stay home with your boyfriend or whatever you choose to do, but it will be your option because you will have a degree and will be making a living. Good for you, stick with it my friend. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day, Chris
@taface412 (3179)
• United States
28 Sep 08
The thing is you hit the nail on the head...it is a phase. But your whole life is a series of phases...and since you are so young and you realize this you are well on your way to making the most of it. Second...you are not missing out on the college thing. Yes, living in the dorms is something of an experience....but think of it this way. How much are you saving by not going to a traditional four year...you can transfer in when you are finished with the 2 year college. Third I feel you with your day in and out routine...I feel the same way too. But ever since I made my decision (which is hard for me because I am an emotional decision maker
@suruchi86 (1873)
• India
19 Sep 08
Yes I'm also not satisfied with my life presently. I wish, I had more money, my own house and could stay with my family in good health (presently I'm away from my family due to my job).
@chinniR (661)
• India
17 Sep 08
hi, i have felt unsatisfied at times. but now i like the way i am and i am very much satisfied with the way i live and also with what i have now. life is what we make and we should have the satisfaction that we are living to the fullest and also make sure that we get what we want. happy mylotting!
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I feel blessed but I do wish there was a way I could earn more money so things could be just a little bit easier on my family. We have trust issues with leaving our kids with anyone so we don't go many places without them and that means that I don't go to work. I think once they reach middle school then I will be ok with going back to work or maybe even before then my aunt could watch them after school. Now a days you can't trust many people with your kids. Other then that I am satisfied with my life. Very blessed to have my family and for us to be so close.
@wolveren (1525)
• Philippines
16 Sep 08
If it's any consolation to you I have felt bad about my life ever since. I have had big dreams for myself even before college. I daydreamed of getting rich when I'd be 30, so I can drag my family out of poverty in my country. Well it isn't so bad now, but I missed my train 13 years ago. Now i'm still over the edge. One false move and its a deep fall in the abyss. Lol. My marriage didn't turn out well, after that went all out on lots of dating, women. Didn't work out. Now I'm back where I started, to pursue that elusive dream of finally settling down with a fat bank account. I never gave up though, but I always feel that I'm a total failure. Yeah the loser bit that is. But I'm still doin it. What for huh? Yeah by the time I probably achieve my dreams I'd be too old to enjoy my money. Lol. So knowing I may never get the fulfillment I always wanted, instead of worrying my self about it, I try to enjoy life while I still have it. Sometimes our situation doesn't really help us at all. But somewhere inside us that desire to do something else keeps us goin. I didn't achieve that in my younger days because I was so stuck with things and I regret not doing anything about it then. So if you have a plan or dream I think it's time to go get it. Plan your dream no matter how crazy it is. Do something crazy it might work. And yeah you stumble along the way of course. But so does everyone else. Reach out and grab your dream. Cheers!
@Miziou (35)
• Poland
16 Sep 08
Not really, but why should I? I didn't finish my studies - but this is not the most important thing in my life. I don't have a dream job - but this suits me and I'm happy to have it I do have a woman of my dreams by my side I do have a wonderful baby son that gives me energy every day I do have great friends who are there for me I do have my parents that support me in almost everything I do The reason you might not feel good with yourself is that maybe you had too many expectations that simply couldn't go wrong. Once they did, most of the things fell apart. That's why I think you should have more general goals. To be honest, the more I live, the more I realize how unimportant were the things I was worried about most. I realize how quickly you may change your point of view depending on situation and you can't do anything about it. I realize how nasty life can be and what to do to avoid such situation. That's why I do not plan much, I do not expect, I do not rely on things that have not happened yet and are beyond my complete control. I might sound like a grandpa with that kind of talk, but I'm only 27 :) Take care! :)
@Arkie69 (2156)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I'm 69 years old and I have never been satisfied with my life and never will be. I have never reached a point where there wasn't still a lot of room for improvement. My wife and I were married almost 40 years and I never saw a day there wasn't plenty of room to improve our marriage. I don't believe anyone that cares about their selves and the others around them will ever be happy with where they are. No matter where our life is or how well we are doing we can always look back and see ways we could have done better. This is just part of being human.
• United States
16 Sep 08
I think I am more happier in my life now than I have ever been. And I don't have any regrets because everything I have been through, the good and the bad has brought me to where I am and who I am today. Try to grasp that this is your journey and you have the power to do with it whatever you wish. Instead of always looking back on what you missed, realize that the most important time for living is right now. Try to know what your life's passion is and focus more into that. Don't be doing whatever makes someone else happy..Do what makes you happy. The more joy you find and have in your life the more you will enjoy living it. I wish you the best of all your life has to offer..the possibilities are endless so don't feel your choices are limited..get out there and live your life they way YOU want it to be and all else will fall into place.
• India
16 Sep 08
Earlier I used to feel the same, I used to feel that life is nothing, its boring and I could not make the most of my life. Now I feel very happy about my life. I thought to change myself and see the way my life is and I am very happy now. Now I do what ever I want and I never compromise myself for anything in life. I go very happily to the office, I do the work there according to the way I want and I have people around me according to my choice , all this makes my life very refreshing and alive. I am very much satisfied with my life these days and gone are the days when I had to spend most of the time being lonely and helpless.
@MsCYPRAH (398)
16 Sep 08
I feel extremely happy at the moment but it could be because I am much older than you, I have been through your angst and worries and have come out the other side learning one key thing: It is pointless being unhappy or worrying about life because it ALWAYS sorts itself out in the end, whether we like it or not. You are unhappy because you had a lot of expectations about life which have not been fulfilled and you probably feel trapped by your relationship. But life does not just conform to expectations. It is something that happens when we are busy planning otherwise! So the best way to live life is to take it as it comes, don't try to control it too much and allow it to give you some surprises. They are usually awesome. It also means taking responsibility for your life so you have to act if you want any change. Your boyfriend won't do it for you. People who try to control their existence too much are always disappointed because they leave nothing to chance and arrange their life too tightly. They do not take account of tragedies, crises or the unexpected happening, hence why they feel really bad when they reach a certain point and what they hoped for isn't there. Happiness for me comes from one thing each day: opening my eyes and realising that I am still alive when many people, including close relatives, have been denied that life and I am still there. By the way, you should not let anyone keep you away from your dreams. You can always get another boyfriend but it is very important that life at a young age is lived. That's the age of discovery and experiment. You are probably unhappy because you are doing something deep down you don't want to do and resenting the fact that what you would really like you are currently missing out on. Stop a moment and ask yourself what you truly desire and how you can get it, because you will never be happy if you don't allow yourself to fulfil your potential simply because of being with someone or weighed down with work. Additionally, you have a long time left to achieve what you wish for in your life. Just because it doesn't happen when you think doesn't mean you won't get it. Just keep working at, keep reviewing your situation and work a step at a time. Only you can change your situation and your feeling, no one else. If you have the courage to make that change, you could be very surprised at the results. I hope things perk up for you soon.