New Neighbour, get out of my parking spot!

@whywiki (6071)
Canada
September 15, 2008 3:48pm CST
We have a new neighbour on the block. I have always parked in the same spot since I moved in. Lately we have a new neighbour and the first morning he had parked so close to my bumper that I had to push his little piece of crap back with my car so I could get out of my spot to go to work. Luckily I drive an old large car and moving a small car with my bumper isn't hard. He must have noticed he was pushed back and in the neighbours driveway when he came out! The next day I come home and there he is again! I complained to my other half and he defended the little car driver and said he had the right to park there as it was the street and anyone can park there. I agree that legally they are allowed to park there but ethically I think it is wrong. When one moves to a new neighbourhood they shouldn't take the spot that always has the same car in it. Find your own spot and if you are going to park don't block the person in. What if I wasn't obnoxious enough to push your car back? Am I supposed to be inconvenienced because you can't park? So what do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Is hubby actually right? I'd hate that!
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@Grandmaof2 (7605)
• Canada
15 Sep 08
Just like a man if the car was bothering hubby it would be an issue but because the car is invading your space, "Oh well what the hell." he has every right to be there. I know how that works, it's the same at my place.
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@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
That's right, if it was him being annoyed a whole different story!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Hmmmm ever think that because he IS new he can't know that you have always parked there since he wasn't there all this time? LOL Perhaps he is supposed to be psychic and know that spot (on a public street) has been claimed by your car. Kidding - I'd say talk to the guy. Explain you were told to park there by the landlord and ask him to find out from that guy where HE is supposed to park.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I think that had he not blocked me in I would have shared the spot and not cared that much that he claimed the spot. The fact he blocked me in is hat really upset me.
@Bobbysox (224)
16 Sep 08
Parking places can be the cause of so many disagreements.We have an elderly gentleman who lives across the road from us,and he takes his car out most days,well he has a large car,a four by four,and he has ponies,so he often has a horse box outside his house.So as he drives out of his parking spot he then gets his wife to drop three road cones down into his parking space.We all know his little ways so we just let him get on with it all.But a car pulled up and out jumped the driver,he threw the cones over the nearest hedge and revved up ,backing into the space,well when the cone ownwer returned he saw red,not only red,but a few choice words were uttered too,the offending car owner returned and there was a heated exchange of words.But our neighbour was in the wrong,the highway doesnt belong to him,we all humour him,but not all are as tolerant ,and the other car was perfectly entitled to park there.If the pony owner had dropped kerbs leading into a driveway,then he would have every reason to get hot under the collar,if he has paid for dropped kerbs,and he has a front drive then it isnt legal for anyone to park in front of those dropped kerbs.But he doesnt have any such thing,he just seems to think he is a little more privileged than the rest of the road.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
My hubby would be a cone thrower too I am thinking. Myself I probably wouldn't move them unless the old guy annoyed me. It seems a little nervy of him though.
@sudalunts (5528)
• United States
16 Sep 08
Your husband is correct, it is a public street and the man does have a right to park there. Now, as a matter of respect for the neighbors living there before him, he should respect that the particular spot is usually used for the XXX car and find another place to part. I know how you feel, I used to live on a street where I was the only one who parked on the street because everyone had garages or driveways. I always parked directly in front of my house, always. Whenever it snowed, and the cars had to be removed from the main street, everyone flocked to may street and I could never find a parking space when I returned from work. I started cutting off my nose to spite my face, because when it snowed, I wouldn't even dig my car out. Because as soon as I would leave the cleaned out space someone would pull right into it. I had no intentions of shoveling a space for someone else.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I would be even more upset if I had to dig out a spot for myself then left just so someone else could have a good spot! I sure am glad we don't get much snow here!
16 Sep 08
Well sometimes we make some inconvenience to other people. But we must also think other people that we could make them angry with us. We might wander why other person make inconvenient to other. Patience and understanding would be go hand in hand so that there is no eagerness to the neighbor side. There are times that we are in hurry to our work and then there is also some barricades in life... And sometimes would make our day bad.
@bdugas (3585)
• United States
16 Sep 08
I live in a neighborhood where we have assigned parking spots in the building where I live, but you come home and one of the other tentants friends are in your spot, so you have to get out start knocking on doors to see who is in your spot. There is street parking and as far as I know it is who ever gets to a spot first every day that gets it. I agree if someone sees that you park there every day they might be kind and leave that spot for you, but life isn't like that and you know it.There's one in every bunch. But I guess legally he has the right. But to pull so close to your bumper that you can't get out is rude and shows that theyhave no reguard for anyone else, maybe he thinks that eventually you will give up and park somewhere else. Pushing his car backwards is not good for it and he might could take you to court for doing damage to his car, so don't know if that is a good idea. You might end up paying for a transmission for his car. Can't you maybe discuss this with him. I know if you pushed my car without coming and asking me to move it I would be all over you. I think your hubby is correct, you are asking for a spot that is fair game to anyone that gets there before you. Try asking him instead of pushing his car backwards and maybe tearing up his transmission, but why do I get the idea you don't care, you want what you want and expect everyone else to go along with it. I am not trying to be mean and don't want you to think I'm being smart, ask your hubby if I'm not right.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I wouldn't be so angry about the spot had he not blocked me in so I couldn't get to work. At that point I didn't even know whose car it was. It was early morning and I am sure all my neighbours wouldn't appreciate me knocking on the doors. I agree I shouldn't have puched but why should I have to pay for a taxi to get to work or wait for the bus and be late. I think I wouldn't even mind losing the spot but as soon as he blocked me in I say gloves off, fight on, my spot. Now I park so there is no possible way he can fit that tiny tin can behind me.
@ashar123 (2360)
• India
16 Sep 08
Some people have this attitude that they own the whole world. You are absolutely right that legally your neighbour can park his small car anywhere but he must not do such thing. Thanks God, my neighbours are like angels and I have never witnessed any such complaint from them. They are helping and always cooperative. I am thinking of a thing which you must not do but it sure will teach your proud neighbour a lesson. Throw some nails where he parks his car, he will find his own another spot and you also won't have to push his small car around to make your way.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
It is tempting to throw some nails....up until now my neighbours have all been great and we even have block parties but I guess it will all work out in the end.
@Beruang (1309)
• Malaysia
16 Sep 08
Legally your hubby is right as that parking spot is not yours to begin with. It is a public area and therefore, it should be the case of first come and first serve basis. Anyway, in my opinion, we being civilized human beings, there are still ways to resolve this matter. The first thing that you can do is to get to know your new neighbors. Introduce yourself and your family and be friends with them. Once you are already friends, you can discuss things in much better way. You can then ask your neighbor politely about the parking spot and explain to them about how you have been parking your car there all the while and so on and so forth. On top of that, may be, you can also suggest an alternative parking spot for your neighbor. If they really accept your friendship, I am sure that along the way some kind of compromises can be achieved and your neighbor and you could exist in that area peacefully and then all of us would have a better place to be. Hope that gives you some ideas. Cheers!
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
I know hubby is right but I will never admit that to him! I don't mind so much about the spot but when I get blocked in so that I can't leave that is when I think it is ignorant and quite frankly do I really want to be friends whith someone that would be so thoughtless?
@Hatley (120846)
• Garden Grove, California
16 Sep 08
whywiki park in your own driveway then there will be no problem. the street does belong to everyone and if there is not enough room there use your driveway, surely you do have a driveway? if you live in an apartment complex like we do park in your alloted space not out in front.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
Our driveway is a common driveway shared by two duplexes with about 6 units sharing it and if I parked in the driveway I would be blocking it for everyone else making myself the hated one!
@lingli_78 (12860)
• Australia
15 Sep 08
i don't know how the parking spot is allocated in your area... but when i used to live in a rented flat, i have my own spot in the carport already allocated for me by the landlord... so nobody else can park there as every tenant has their own spot... and it is strictly for only one car... so if we have more than one car, we have to park the other car on the streetside... i'm so sorry that you had this problem with your new neighbour... may be you can try to talk to him/her first and find a resolution... or else, you can try to approach your landlord and ask him/her to solve the problem for you since you had lived there for quite some time (you didn't mention how long you had lived there)... take care and have a nice day...
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
16 Sep 08
The landlord has moved away and a real estate management company have taken over. The people upstairs get the two allocated spots and we get the street, usually in front but now...it seems a bit petty but it just annoys me.
• Pakistan
15 Sep 08
New Neighbor, get out of my parking spot == you said that you have been parking since you have moved in.... can i ask something, HAD YOU ASKED SOME ONE IN THAT COMMUNITY THE TIME YOU STARTED PARKING THEIR ??? This seems a little disturbing but I would say that is the real thing. Well for your good will kindly ask that person that according to the ethics he should ask about parking there? regards, tAstY-moOn
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
15 Sep 08
When I moved in the landlord told me that the tenants in our place always park their. We live in a duplex and the 4 spots that are around back are for the landlords and so the only spot we have is this one sad spot! Drives me nuts but I am moving soon so they can do what they like then. Hopefully they will get the message on their own.
• United States
15 Sep 08
i am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time with your neighbor already! that stinks! i would have to say that yes, your hubby is right in saying that he can pretty much park wherever he wants, but i understand your irritation! i definitely think it is wrong that he parks so close to you, though. if someone parked their car so close to your's that you can't pull out, that is really a problem, though. have you thought of talking to him/her? or leaving a note on the windshield asking them to please be a bit more considerate when they park and leave you some room to get out? maybe it will work, maybe not. maybe this person doesn't even realize what they are doing! but i can relate. we live in a cauldesac at the end where it circles, and the neighbors next door on the one side of us have 2 teenage boys. they both have cars, and all of their friends are over every day and they all have cars as well. they are very rude and inconsiderate and park right in front of our house, sometimes right up on the sidewalk. once one of them had even parked halfway in front of my driveway! i have left a couple of notes through the years for the parents in their mailbox, but nothing ever changes. basically they let the kids run the show. but i have called the cops a couple of times! lol
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
15 Sep 08
I may go the note route. I can't say how polite it would be though! My friend lives at the end of a culdesac too and has the same problem as you mentioned. I think it shows bad form not to ask the kids to be more considerate. Maybe this is a part of what is wrong with the world these days.
• Canada
15 Sep 08
While it's true people can park where they "want" they shoudln't WANT to park somewhere that would inconvenience the person who already parks there, anymore than a cyclist should WANT to ride on a sidewalk where any number of pedestrians (including BLIND ONES) may way on a REGULAR BASIS 9my own story in that one). I think the problem is definitely with your neighbour WANTING or thinking he has the right to park in such a place that would inconvenience someone else. Please tell your hubby I said that! Maybe try sticking a note on the guy's windshield that you have parked there for whatever amount of time, and that he is blocking you by parking there.
@whywiki (6071)
• Canada
15 Sep 08
Good to hear that is one for my side! I also have a problem with cyclists who use the sidewalk. It wouldn't be so bad if they at least rang there bell to warn you they are coming!
@flowerchilde (12525)
• United States
21 Sep 08
If I was the new neighbor I would find my own parking spot.. I mean sure, technically, I suppose your hubby may be right (maybe).. but I'm more likely to chalk it up to courtesy, and I wouldn't steal someone else's spot!!